Scenario: your Love is hurting, & you can't do anything to really 'fix it'--it's their own problem, but you hate to see them in emotional turmoil.
What do you do??!!
(And if you answer: have sex---I will report your stupid 12-yr. old self...!)
2007-10-17 13:48:42 · 10 answers · asked by luki1rn 4 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Awww...thanks a bunch, Sweeties! :-)
(wiping away a little tear on my cheek)
I know I haven't been around much---I don't recognize a lot of you.
But thanks for the kind responses.
Yeah--I know what I need to do. Just keep telling him how much I love him; & do whatever I possibly can to help out, in a practical way.
XOXOXO to you...
2007-10-17 14:02:20 · update #1
* Emotional support is the best you can do when they are hurting* Show genuine compassion & let the person know you are 'there for them"
2007-10-17 13:52:44 · answer #1 · answered by Me 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry, I am not over 35, but I do have a mature answer for you. I don't know what the situation is, it could be many things, but as long as your partner knows that you are there for them that has to help in some ways. Imagine how they would feel if they did not a loving partner there by their side. It sounds like all you can really do is just let this person know that you will be there if there is anything that you can do you will do it. Also maybe suggesting some counseling for them might help, but again that depends on the situation.
I will tell you what was really hard for me. My boyfriend relapsed 8 months ago. All I could do was hope and pray that he wanted to get help. He told me that he needed to go to a detox, so I took him there and I waited with him for 6 hours in a waiting room while he started suffering from withdrawl syptoms. After he got out I could just look at him and I could tell how bad he was still craving the drug. I just spent a lot of time with him. I took him to see a movie, that was extremely funny and ironically at the end of the movie they played a very upbeat song that had a tremendus meaning in our lives for his recovery. Over the months he slowly got stronger and it has been very hard for me becuase I had to pretty much just step back while he got help from others. Like his peers in NA and his sponsor. It is so hard being his girlfriend and feeling like out of everybody you are the one that can help him the least. He knows that I will do anything for him, he knows that he has my full support. If I can do something small like take him and some of his buddies to NA then that is what I do. You can always find little things that make a huge impact. He/she is very lucky to have you. Good luck and God bless.
2007-10-17 14:06:23 · answer #2 · answered by Missy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-18 10:25:01 · answer #3 · answered by scacchetti 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know the feeling. They keep saying nothing is wrong. Give them their space but let them know that you are there when they are ready to talk. When they're ready, turn off the TV lean in and listen to what they have to say, let them finish and then give your input. Don't forget to ask questions for clarification so they know you were listening.
Then, go have sex...LOL...I couldn't resist.
Oh, and I'm 40+, do I qualify?
2007-10-17 13:53:28 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know the answer...you need to let them come to terms and overcome it on their own, and be there for them when they need you, and support them unconditionally.
Getting some counseling for yourself to help deal with your own turmoil wouldn't be a bad idea either....
2007-10-17 13:52:49 · answer #5 · answered by Mrzknowitall GCG 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't know that you can "fix" it, just be there to listen. Lots of hugs, support, understanding. Let your Love talk through it while you listen...
2007-10-17 13:53:46 · answer #6 · answered by Karri 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
be strong for them,have there back,remember marriage isn't like having a girl friend or boy friend,it's for life and during that time you will go through many ups and downs dont ever give up.If you love them it will be worth it
2007-10-17 13:53:29 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I try to help, to alleviate the pain a bit, to tell her how much I love her, how much I care.......
2007-10-17 14:01:38 · answer #8 · answered by sleepy 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am 50 and my husband says the sex would fix almost anything. so I would try that first. hahaha
2007-10-17 13:55:09 · answer #9 · answered by Aloha_Ann 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
all you can do is be there for them --and let them know you will ALWAYS be there for them--
no matter what!!
2007-10-17 13:53:22 · answer #10 · answered by ♥Ashley K. 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋