My husband invited me to a dinner after a golf tournament that he was in. I made babysitting arrangements for the kids and got ready. He called me and asked me to hurry and come. So I arrive at the dinner, and they are still giving out awards. I wait until that is finished and go up to my husband and he says he is ready to go. I said I just got here and I thought we were having dinner together. He said he felt uncomfortable there and just wanted to go home. So since I drove myself, we both left separately. When we got home he didn't seem concerned that I had made arrangements to have a night out with him and was looking forward to it, and hadn't eaten yet. I spent extra time getting ready and all for nothing. He made no attempts to make it up, just tuned me out. So what to do, Im tired of arguing about something that should be pretty clear. How would you handle this?
2007-10-17 13:41:57 · 7 answers · asked by casey308 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Next time, just go out by yourself. Or, call a friend and go out with your friend.
Don't dwell on what your husband wants or does not want to do. It's of no use to keep on talking to him about it if he isn't going to put forth any action about it. You're wasting your breath and your time if you keep on "nagging" (believe me, that is what they will call it) him about it.
You had a babysitter, you were dressed to go out, then YOU GO OUT. :)
2007-10-17 13:59:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would respect the fact that something made him uncomfortable and he didn't want to stay and hang with those people.....perhaps even enough so that he was thrown for a loop the rest of the evening and completely forgot about your troubles that you went through.....give him a day or two, and then sweetly suggest that the two of you go have a date night and make up for the evening being cut short. Don't make a bigger deal out of this than it is. It is possible that he actually has feelings and had a good reason for being uncomfortable....is he typically unfeeling and self-centered?
2007-10-17 13:59:01 · answer #2 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to have men "learn" is through action. Don't say another word--its not worth it. He knows it still bothers you so try and change your tune. There will be a time when something like this will happen again. Then, in that case, go out while he goes home. Make him think through your action.
2007-10-17 13:53:34 · answer #3 · answered by Ali Cat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something may have happened, or maybe he got sick. It might not have been worth talking about but enough to make him feel uncomfortable. Maybe he was embarrassed to tell you what had happened.
Now he's not making an attempt to make it up to you because then he'll have to bring that night up again. Ask him if it would be convenient to get a sitter on Saturday (or any other night that's good for you two). Don't bring it up as "making up for" that night.
2007-10-17 14:15:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when he said he just wanted to go home after the awards, you should have told him you were going out to eat with him or without him and then gone. It sounds like he hoped to get an award of some kind and when he didn't, he didn't want to play anymore, like a child.
2007-10-17 13:52:04 · answer #5 · answered by Al B 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Was something wrong at the tournament that made him upset? Is that why he wanted to leave? I don't know why but that is the idea that I got from what you wrote. Maybe you should ask him (when you aren't fighting) about it and see his reason.
2007-10-17 13:52:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
HE SHOULD HAVE TAKEN YOU OUT ELSEWHERE JUST SO YOU COULD MAKE THE BABYSITTER WORTH IT... THAT WAS SELFISH OF HIM...
2007-10-17 13:47:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋