What a JERK!?

Question

OK, just today i was hloding hands with this one guy at school that just asked me out and we were getting to know eachother and stuff. Well....then he asked me if he could kiss me and i said yes in a heartbeat (i really like him)
--then the principle of the school came up to us and warned us if he ever sees us holding hands ever again or kiss we will get in big time trouble and he'll call our parents. I coulnt even beleive he said that, straight couples kiss all the time in our school but he tells them nothing!
**I dont know what to do if he sees us again he'll call and tell our parents** THE THING IS...i havent told my parents im gay,and i really like this guy but now i dont know what to do.

Answer 1

This is another example of the double standard that exists in everyday life-if two girls were holding hands or kissing-he probably wouldnt have a problem with it,he would be watching and getting excited.

Answer 2

1954 that is when I was born, I am Caucasian, I was dating a Black youth in High School.........
My friend is Japanese American , she is about 10 years older than me, Her dad fell in love with a Japanese American woman during WWII.......
Ask any couple of any bi-racial mixture if they have the same freedom as a couple of the same racial mix. NO!
You are facing the same predjudice that we hetersexual couples of different human colors faced years ago.
LIKE ROMEO and JULIET 600 years ago, different families.
Predjudice will always be there hetero or home sexual.
Nothing New.
In reality, my friend and I were much more discrete, He would have been trashed, maybe killed! I am female and white, he is black!
My friends parents, well they moved a lot until well after the Korean War.....You know if the eyes slant it is the enimy....
Gross.
Some people, break up, some people get vocval and endure many trials.
Nothing is won.
My advice, is GO UNDERGROUND no matter HOW unfair it is untill you get free of the immature High School World and when in College or the working world, then migrate to citys and towns that are excepting of the different cultures in humans.
Sweety, I am 53, believe me, choose your battles carefully, even if it feels cowardly now, use the time to prepair for the MUCH bigger batles life will throw at you later.

Answer 3

Oh dear dear dear. PDA's are so iffy in schools and I wish our Gay teens could have the same rights as their straight friends; but obviously not.
You and your boyfriend haven't told your parents. Your principle has a weapon to hold over your heads and he's not afraid to use it. If your parents both knew and supported you (oh I wish) then the weapon wouldn't be there. We could all have a united front against backward thinking.
You have, as others have said, several choices. You can 1: continue your affections in private; 2: tell your parents and see if you can garner their support and take what comes of that (not a choice I might recommend unless you know the outcome) or 3: fight to change the policies of your school.
If you can get enough students behind you to work with you, you could change school policy; but you might end outing yourselves in the process. it all depends on what measures you both are willing to work for.
Good luck and bless you both, Dear One.

Answer 4

Dont worry about it.Did you think you were going to trip through life and nobody else never know you liked guys?I know you didnt think that,just like I know you are not all that afraid of your folks finding out.I think you can understand letting things progress and roll with the punches as they come.When the fool tells your parents,presto,you dont have to worry about how to approach them with it.They might just tell him to mind his own business...You know they are not going to ship you off to some boys school in a foriegn land and never speak to you again.So what's THE WORST they could do?Do they beat you?Do they get someone else to beat you?Do they torture you or drug you or attach weird electrical devices to you?Then hey,I think you pretty much have it made.It is your choice right?That needs to be respected.And that is all you need to tell anyone who disagrees with you on it.You dont buy all that Christian stuff huh?Jeez I hope not.Because then you have a friggin psychological problem too...I cant help people who have that mess shoved down their throats from birth.Anyways,dont listen to haters,and for cryin out loud dont worry about that douchebag telling your parents!!!You really do want them to know eventually huh?Well....What better intro than the principal?Or do you have a better way to come out to them?Perhaps a coy meeting over supper?Ha!Ha!Dude do whatever you feel comfortable with.Just know you can always ask questions here when you need to.
Hugs!

Answer 5

You and your friend need to get a hold of some open minded friends and protest that action by the principal. You can even anonymously contact a local TV station about the bigoted policies of the school

Answer 6

Call him out on the discrimination -- schedule a meeting with him, and plan out what you are going to say.

Agree to never hold this boy's hand in school again, but tell him that you will only comply if he stops EVERY person from showing affection in school, and not just same sex people. Tell him you were highly offended by what he said and took it as sexual discrimination based on your orientation.

I have fought similar things like this before. I always dress in boy clothing, and my gay male friend liked to wear girl t shirts (which is now considered emo). The principal said that J couldn't wear girl shirts, so we banded together an army of girls wearing nothing but boys clothing with slogans like "Is this what you call fair?" and "Gender and Sex are Not the Same!"

If you know you are right, fight it -- but if you're just mad cause you got caught snogging in the halls -- fo' shame. :-)

Answer 7

Deffinatley tell your parents before your principal does, but if he DOES tell your parents, you could sue for descrimination. Hope that sort of helped, I know it didnt all the way, and he is a jerk. I cant believe he would do that. Ok. Bye.

Answer 8

life can be on us gays but we have to stand up in what we believe is right. there is nothing wrong with two guys holding hands or kissing each other. the world is filled with many narrow minded people who push their beliefs on others.

Answer 9

I would take that homophobic son of a ***** to court. I would have the local media involved and the school board too!

Answer 10

Hey kind of sounds like me! accept I wasn't with another person. That principal is a jerk and should be shot.