I have been lately feeling depressed and lonely. I sort of ditched my friend for these other girls, they're more interesting, less annoying. But lately, they've been almost ditching me, cutting me out from the group, and when i went to hang with my acquaintances they seem like they dont want me there either... WHAT SHOULD I DO??? should i just switch high schools next year and pray i make new friends?? Please help me. Im starting to get pissed off and depressed..... :( Im just not good at making friends because im too shy!
2007-10-17 13:09:27 · 16 answers · asked by Sarah 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Hello, lady. We'll this must be one rollercoaster that you wish you weren't on. Even though it hurts it possible to make things right. The first thing you must do is ask yourself "what is my passion, what do I love to do"? Once you answer that surround yourself with people who share the same passion. Remember that people will come and go and real friends will be off and on. If you realize that you made a mistake to your old friend, then apologize, but don't not expect her to forgive you. By apologizing you will relieve some pressure off of your chest which will allow you to move on. If she accepts your apology then you will have a wanted obligation to do right by her. The reality is that in life you have to make decisions on who to associate with and who to avoid don't regret the process and woman up if you make a mistake. Find YOUR PASSION, THAT'S THE KEY TO REAL FRIENDSHIPS. More at www.onistsense.com
2007-10-17 13:31:27 · answer #1 · answered by onist 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you ditched one friend for a few others and werent happy with the outcome, it happens i have annoying friends too but the bottom line is we call them friends because they are, granted some may be less annoying than others but thats the price we pay for having a friendship isn't it? Im shy also but you made friends with these people easily enough just takes time to make others, in the end people ditch you for no reason it can happen and you have to accept that as life but if they do this then there not friends.
2007-10-17 13:15:56 · answer #2 · answered by dr_frasier_crane 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am guessing you're in high school? high school is immature retardation zone. everyone's pretty much guilty of it. you were, too.
you should have spoken to your friend about what was annoying you instead of ditching her. now it seems like the same thing is happening to you, on the reverse. that sucks, but see how it feels?
i would go to my friend, apologize to her for my behavior and talk things out and ask for forgiveness.
it also sounds like you're jumping from group to group trying to find a niche. well, that's hard to do because even by october, groups have formed a dynamic and they willl be reluctant to let someone in just like that ::clicks fingers:: so be patient & don't try to force your way into a situation that's clearly not emotionally safe/comfortable.
it's still october. i wouldn't give up yet. find after school activities, like sports or art or something. don't just rely on one person or one group to fulfill your companionship needs. be involved in a lot of things and then you'll have much stuff to talk about, think about, and do.
and you need to work on your shyness. why do you feel shy? because you think you're not interesting? or you think a b c and d? spend some time to think about that and to see if that's really true or if you're just making it up to keep yourself down and unhappy.
don't get down and depressed. and people don't have to like you just because you ask them to. you ditched your friend and didn't hesitate to do so. it's life. but that doesn't mean it has to be like this or stay like this. get up and do something!
good luck :)
2007-10-17 13:17:43 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not like there are only 2 groups of ppl in you school (the old friends and the new one's). There are plenty of ppl there and making friends is a part of life so is losing them...there has to be one guy or girl in you school that likes the same thing you do and is shy......if you ever want to talk i'm totaly here.....
2007-10-17 13:23:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've done the same thing. I learned that you never ditch the friends you already had to make new friends, because those new friends might end up ditching you. Just learn your lesson, and move on.
2007-10-17 13:13:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would just stay and see how things go. this is how we learn from mistakes. sometimes moving and moving is running from the past, but i think you need to accept what has happened. and about the depression, join a group where you can talk with ppl in similar situations!
2007-10-17 13:12:12 · answer #6 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not move to another school because of this situation instead you should seek activities that will cause you to be less shy, tap into the introvert side of your self, build confidence, and move on. When people see that you are confident they will automatically be drawn to you.
2007-10-17 13:18:25 · answer #7 · answered by LoveRain 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeh I felt the same way in high school - all of my friends left halfway through and i was pretty much alone 4 the rest of it. Talking about it with the counsellor at my school helped a great deal by offering me help and support - I recommend you do the same
2007-10-17 13:13:00 · answer #8 · answered by Pango 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow. Me and you are having the same problems but I'm in college and 19. Maybe we need to hang out lol I live in Pensacola, Florida though.
2007-10-17 13:11:44 · answer #9 · answered by Dalton B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think being nice to everyone, and I mean everyone, will do wonders for you...You basically had done to you what you did to your friend...and no one likes that....just concentrate on your studies, be nice to people, and dont let people see you're feeling bad...because no one wants to be around depressed people.
2007-10-17 13:13:35 · answer #10 · answered by dianah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋