I travel, and I'm only home once a month for 4 days, I recently gotten married almost a year ago and even when I come home we do nothing but argue, then the last day before I leave he tries to make everything nice. But then its to late cause I won't be home again for another month. He swears he's not cheating. I would like a mans opinion please.
2007-10-17 13:05:22 · 18 answers · asked by hunt4 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He misses you something awful. He HATES that you travel and work. He feels bad that you two are like strangers. You have been married a year but you barely share the same bed, and what if you are not feeling like having sex when you come home for those three days? He's been standing all month waiting!
So I think you should rethink the job. And talk to your man and find out what's bothering him. I know that if the tables were switched, you'd miss him, wouldn't you?
2007-10-17 13:10:22 · answer #1 · answered by brilliantyetconfused 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The two of you should never have gotten married under those conditions because the chance to cheat is great for you both and many people would never blame either of you if you did.
you will have to chose between having a happy husband or a career because this is one of those cases where you cant have both. This whole question is a bit bothersome here in Michigan because this could have been a conversation between Tara Grant and her husband due to her travel. she was about to leave for a business trip to Puerto Rico when they argued, he killed her, and dismembered the body.
The marriage can not last if you are only home for 4 days a month so a choice has to be made one way or the other for the sake of both of you!!
2007-10-17 13:40:16 · answer #2 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you honestly think you have a healthy relationship seeing each other 4 days a month?
That means, that if you keep this up, you could be married for 30 years and only spend 4 together. Of which you sleep a third of that, so it's more like 3.3 years together.
Since my wife and I started going out, we've only not seen each other 2 days. That was because I was on a business trip. We don't have to spend every minute of every day together, but 4 days a month would piss me off to no end.
I suggest you find a way to spend more time together. You really shouldn't have gotten married with your work schedule.
2007-10-17 13:39:25 · answer #3 · answered by Nate F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If at all possible, take a vacation from your job and just spend time with him. Wait until you're reacquainted and then bring up the subject of your relationship. Ask him what he thinks would make it better and try to come to a compromise.
Here are some ideas for you:
Does he work? Maybe he can come along on your travels!
How often do you talk? If it's only once a day (or less) on the phone, try getting a webcam for each of you and voice chatting on the internet. That way you can at least see each other.
Good luck!
2007-10-17 13:35:40 · answer #4 · answered by mum_to_simon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately it seems like he is not ok with your job. However, having personally been though a divorce, my advice is ALWAYS take care of yourself and your career before giving up something that is important to you for something else. If this marriage does not work out, at least you still have a career. However, if you don't care about this job too much, or you feel that your marriage is most important, you may want to switch jobs... sorry.
I get it too- i travel quite a bit, love my job, and quite frankly would give up a relationship before I gave up my job, but then again, that is why I've never gotten married again... good luck!
2007-10-17 13:41:24 · answer #5 · answered by vm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I used to travel and was gone monday thru friday. My wife at that time was happy on the phone monday thru friday till I was coming home.... She wouldnt give me the time or day thru the week but would just be happy. And when I came home she would be mad about something. SHE WAS CHEATING.....But I was lonely thru the week and was chatting on the internet and did find me someone very special to me and did start cheating on her as well. Anyways I guess my point is travelling is not for married people. I have quit my job since I found someone I really want to be with. If you want to be with your husband you should find another job. But first I guess you better make sure he still wants you. Good Luck
2007-10-17 13:37:02 · answer #6 · answered by BadBilly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is about showing and sharing love. Love is not a feeling; it is a way of life. Being gone this much is going to kill your marriage. You partner is your best friend. The person who you come home to a show love to and they show love to you. It is an action, not a feeling. You are not going to be able to have a marriage and be home 4 days out of a month. Your husband married you b/c he loves you, not b/c he wanted to see you once a month. Also, who is taking care of everything when you are gone? Do you come home and thing, damn my house is dirty, why haven't you been cleaning husband?
2007-10-17 13:38:23 · answer #7 · answered by spongebobrogers 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a man, but I suggest you follow your intuition. Seriously, you're gone practically every month, I don't mean to be disrespectful in anyway, but a man has needs and he will fulfill them. Now, I can't say he is cheating. Both of you need to have a civilized conversation about your living situation and communicate your feelings. Why are you two arguing? When you should be on an ongoing honeymoon?
2007-10-17 13:37:32 · answer #8 · answered by Mona 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
*To be honest I think your marriage is on the rocks and has been for a long time.You are in self denial coz you know very well that the romance walked out with you when you started travelling and staying away for long periods; Surely someone else must be meeting his body satiation needs when you are away.
*A man's opinion/my opinion is that your man is well taken care of during your absences.Sorry to be so blunt.So stick home somehow or lose him, if you already haven't done so unknowingly.
2007-10-17 13:43:27 · answer #9 · answered by Truth Source 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you ask for a man opinion
but girl your ? about cheating is so lame
fix your marriage if you want it stop worry about whether or not he is cheating
either you change job or make arrangement to meet up
maybe he comes to you from friday to sunday night
if you guys don't have children I can't see why you can not make your situation romatic
cheating is not your problem, to fix things you guys need time together
Good luck
2007-10-17 13:26:55 · answer #10 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋