been married for a while..and love your husband very much. dont and wont cheat..but are bored out of ur minds.??..with the same ol same ol..what do you do to cope with the bordome?
ever feel like youve lost yourself and not sure where u went..LOL..?
2007-10-17 13:00:00 · 13 answers · asked by lisa baby... 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
TRY ROLE PLAYING, OR USING TOYS, FRUIT, WHIPS, CHAINS, BELLS, WHISTLES, ANYTHING.... WHAT EVER THE TWO OF YOU DID TO GET EACHOTHER INTERESTED IS THE SAME THINGS THAT YOU ARE GOING TO NEED AND MORE TO KEEP IT GOING.... THE INTERNET IS A FUN WAY TO KEEP THINGS INTERESTING... SO HAVE SOME FUN.... WRITE HIM LIL NOTES, ANY THING.... AND HE WILL APPRECIATE IT... TRY IT, IT WORKS....
2007-10-17 13:14:15 · answer #1 · answered by beckybounce226 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you should do things for your own personal fulfillment, like the person who suggested taking classes... or find some hobbies or community groups etc. It would be best if it were something he could get into with you. Maybe if you find a new hobby together, you will feel a new level of closeness. I'd also suggest looking at your wedding album or pictures/ love notes, etc. from when the two of you were dating, or on your honeymoon, etc. Think of all the great times you've had together. Think of what your life would be like if you had never met him and you might feel lucky. :) Make a list of 20 things you love about him, and tell him one thing a day for 20 days, and see if it makes the two of you feel closer. Just some suggestions. Good luck. :)
2007-10-17 13:16:39 · answer #2 · answered by nadia_j 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I completely understand this.
I love my husband more than anything and I would never cheat on him and I never had. But it does get boring sometimes doesn't it?
When I get to feeling like this I really go out of my way to spice things up for us or just simply changing our routine.
Sometimes I do get to the point where I don't feel like myself, at that point I just make sure to take plenty of quiet relaxing time for myself.
2007-10-17 13:07:27 · answer #3 · answered by mlbbell 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband actually had a heart to heart the other night, first time in a long time.... it helped. I told him that it seems like he lives his life for himself and I live my life for him. I feel like I cant make a decision without wondering how it is going to affect him or make him feel. He does what he wants, nothing bad, but he goes to hockey games, hangs out w/ friends, plays hockey, etc.... I dont get mad, I just wish I could be as care free as him. When I told him that, he was sad and didn't realize it. I am going to try to my hardest to do things for me, and think of me first, like go to the gym, school, whatever. I will do it for me and I think he when I am happier he will be happier too.
2007-10-17 13:49:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yep. I started going to school to do something I wanted. I have been so busy taking care of the kids, my husband, and my house. I kind of got lost somewhere in there. Since my youngest in now in kindergarten, I figured it was a good time to do something for me. So far it has done wonders for me. Thankfully, my family is very supportive.
2007-10-17 13:11:32 · answer #5 · answered by ♦justme♦ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes and the answer is that you have the power to change this.....a lot of it is in the mind, how you view things. I remember early in our marriage I was bored to tears with getting ready for bed, stripping, getting under the covers and the ROUTINE. What happened to making out in weird places, and being so hot for each other that we barely managed to get out of our clothes? You have to take action to spice things up....what things make you feel sexy? What things would spice it up for you?
2007-10-17 13:39:22 · answer #6 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him and let each other know what you want to try. Lots of things out there to spark intrest and turn each other on.
2007-10-17 13:17:35 · answer #7 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
haha! I though I was the only one! sex is so important ...you got to be experimental, because if your feeling it, you give off vibes and he most likely feels it too. So spice it up OOWW!
2007-10-17 13:06:24 · answer #8 · answered by bella 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
switch it up and think about the first time you fell in love with him
2007-10-17 13:08:18 · answer #9 · answered by real/one 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yep, i am there been married for 3 years. husbands an ahole
2007-10-17 13:11:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋