This married man at work and I have been playing games with each other for a few months now. I'm also married. I know he likes me and I like him. The thing is that I think that the both of us are too afraid to admit it because we know it's wrong for a lot of reasons. But the problem is that my heart can't take it anymore. It keeps aching for him more and more. I've fallen for him, but I'm afraid to be the one to first approach him. But if I don't approach him, I feel that he might never approach me because he's probably just as afraid as I am.
Do you think that if he wants me just as much or more, then he would've made a move on me by now?
2007-10-17 12:57:36 · 32 answers · asked by kekeke 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
your question could have been written by me..I have the exact same situation. He tells me I have to make the first move and I tell him the same. Its a big step and neither of us are ready to take it, cause once you go there its hard to go back. Just enjoy the time you have together and maybe someday when the time is right you will be together..that is my hope
2007-10-17 16:07:19 · answer #1 · answered by Billie 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I had a feeling the answers would be just as they were. Anytime someone on here makes a comment on a Married man or woman the claws come out on the faithful happy commited people. They don't understand the possiblity of two people actually being destined to be together. I am not saying to go for it. It will hurt your heart even more if he only wants a little bit of you. He could keep his wife and do things with you because you would be a safe married woman that possibly won't crimp his style of living as it is now. But there are some out there that are truly unhappy and afraid of being alone. I would come right out and ask him what his intentions are and see what he says. don't jump into anything romantic or even just a date. Really think of how it will affect your marriage. If you are not happy but things can work in your relationship you have now it will only bring you down if you start to see someone on the side. You will never know if you can make your current situation better. I can only guess you are not happy at home or you would not even be asking this question. Sorry you have to hear all the BS from people.
The answer to your question is he would have made a move if he wanted to further this.
2007-10-17 14:15:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
You may think that you want this other man but I'll bet you really don't.You want to feel the same way with your husband.Instead of putting all your energy into this play full relationship with this other man,do it with your husband.I bet he would like the flirting coming from you.Besides if you start things up with this other man you are asking for trouble.The grass is not always greener on the other side.Your friends and family will lose all respect for you too.So will your children if you have any.Think of them!!!!! If you are not happy in your marriage try to make your marriage better.If you still are not happy get out.After you get out then go on to another relationship.Don't start a relationship with someone else while you are married.One thing I never could figure out was how you could trust someone that would cheat on their spouse.If they cheated with you ,they will cheat on you.
2007-10-17 13:27:12 · answer #3 · answered by Teresa 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well first do this, tell your husband you want a divorce because you'd rather play around with a married man than to keep your wedding vows.
Then have the married co-worker say the same to his spouse.
After that you two can get together and s crew your brains out because you'll both be unattached.
2007-10-17 14:24:55 · answer #4 · answered by Elt 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ask your husband what he thinks! Or don't you talk to your husband anymore???
You should always finish one relationship before starting another. The question is not about whether to make a move or not (ie start a relationship) your question is "should I leave my husband or not?" Step outside of your little 'crush' world and take a look at the bigger picture.
Think about what your life is going to be like in 3 months time???
2007-10-17 13:10:12 · answer #5 · answered by violet 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Don't make a move on him because he is married. Even if he is a little interested in you, he probably hasn't made a move on you because he respects his wife, in you should probably do the same thing. Move on and try to stay away from him, stop playing games because everything you do in this world comes back to you at some point of your life. Don't betray your husband and don't push him to betray his wife.
2007-10-17 13:03:39 · answer #6 · answered by sweetie 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Leave this man alone. He is commited to someone else and this is wrong. If you cannot control yourself find another job. If you can easily take him and have your way with this man how are you going to keep him faithful if his wife can't? If you act on this nothing good will come out of it and you will mess up your job or his. Show some respect for this mans wife ..she loves him and gave her whole life to him ...why would you want to hurt her. Come on ...you can do better for yourself than this.
2007-10-17 15:44:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to get divorced. If you are even 1/2 way thinking of seriously doing this you have no business being married and your husband deserves better.
Its one thing to have a crush, its another to act on it.
Grow up.
2007-10-17 13:15:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
i hope your husband is cheating on you.
youhave already cheated on him if you go any further with this or not.
you and that other man are selfish and extremely inconsiderate.
what would you do if you read the same question asked by his wife in reference to your husband?
why would you want to cause pain to others just to fulfil your fantasies????
you took a marriage vow and you broke it long before you posted this question.
i wish i had your husbands number so i could tell him to kick you out!!!!
2007-10-17 16:04:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
He could be, and there are many paths you could take.
1. you could tell your husband how you feel and you two could work it out togeather (there could be something lacking in your relationship that has let your heart fall in love with another)
2. you could approch him and see what happens. infadelity is wrong but it never stoped anyone before.
3. hide your feelings and explode in a fit of depretion.
thats what i did lol. not the best choice of the three.
2007-10-17 13:16:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋