My husbands no longer wants to be with me because of my ways... I am trying to change but now he says its too late. Well his birthday is coming up and I was wondering if you guys could give me some great ideas for birthday.... Something that will let him know that I really love him and something that he will remember forever.. PLEASE HELP
2007-10-17 12:55:29 · 21 answers · asked by itsme 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
well in all fairness theyre are two sides to every coin. but dressing up in a nurse or policewomen costume would change his mind .wink wink.
2007-10-17 12:59:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make an easier diner to eat that you can eat together on the couch watching a movie or two. Watch a movie that will turn him on a little but is enjoyable. Don't just walk around in a nitie but something nice underneth and something that is easy to play with you in and remove on top. If you have kids keep a blanket handy to play under. You do not say what your serious problems are. Understand he has a few wants like you but needs to make sacrifices too. I like to have a beer a couple times a month after work with some that I work with. Talk about this. Sometimes I do not want to stay long and you can stop by to see and meet so that we can go out. Other times will be home shortly. Home is important and will only be a couple hours my family is important. Understand what each other want and overlook some small stuff. Wings celery a couple beers and the wifey with a good kevin costner movie like message in a bottle flirting under a blanket while the kids fall asleep in the floor and lounge chair? Other movies may work better for you.
2007-10-17 13:12:33 · answer #2 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are probably not going to like my answer but I tried to make my husbands b-day special even after we got divorced because we still had feelings for each other. If your husband is telling you, "its too late"--listen to what he is saying. The mistake most women make is when a man pulls away, we chase them and try to "show" them how much we love them but that is interpreted as neediness!
Pull back! Don't dote, and do everything he ever wanted. Go by the book "Why men love bitches" Its not really about being a "*****"--it is a awesome book and watch what happens! Its unbelievable.
2007-10-17 13:11:57 · answer #3 · answered by Ali Cat 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Actions speak louder words, but as far as his B-day : if you have kids... get a sitter, if you can cook, make his favorite meal, if you are a freak...have a new sexy outfit. Get a nice room or decorate ur own bedroom so that it looks Romantic and sexy you know candles , music, and stuff. Do all the things to him that he thought you would not do. Do it all just for him. Most importantly don't talk, just listen to him, cause if you start running yo mouth he will start to have flash backs of the problems and then he won't be able to fully focus on everything that you are doing for him.
2007-10-17 14:05:39 · answer #4 · answered by food4thought 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea i think you should be simple and thoughtful, going to lots of extra effort might be interpreted as a "last ditch" effort to save things, and that afterwards it might go back to normal. i suggest getting a pressie that he would really like from you. Do something that he wants. Tell him you wanna change things too, (doesnt have to be on his bday, Maybe the next day)
i dont know if you can really save things at this point. i must admit i aggree with someone who says its probably too late. but making a BIG effort would look too much like a "one off" and then nothing will come of it.
2007-10-17 13:29:26 · answer #5 · answered by Paul E 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Plan a romantic night, look your best go all out, remind him that you are trying to change because you love him and you married each other for better or worse and marriage is about supporting each other. remember the good times and how happy you were on your wedding day....every married couple has hard times but that's when you need each other the most...and change takes time.
2007-10-17 13:02:05 · answer #6 · answered by bella 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-13 00:18:11 · answer #7 · answered by gayston 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband doesn't love you anymore, it doesn't matter if you let him know that you "really love him" or not. Why would he care if you love him if he doesn't love you. If he did love you he would want to work it out especially if he knows you're trying to change. He would support you and help you change if he really cared about you.
2007-10-17 13:16:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are "your ways"? What are you trying to change?
A gift is not going to change "your ways" is it? if it is "your ways" that he doesn't like, then change them, that would probably be the best gift...but then he DID SAY IT WAS TOO LATE.. maybe you need to move on if that doesn't work.
2007-10-17 16:00:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is what I did......I hired the local middle school band to march down our street at a certain time and stop in front of our house to play Happy Birthday and Louie Louie. (His name is Lou) It was different and the kids only got $5.00 each but, it was fun!
2007-10-17 13:01:52 · answer #10 · answered by Numb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you know your husband's likes and dislikes!!! Think of anything he has brought up to your attention in your conversations (good things of course!) throughout your relationship. Focus on that and add a lil' spice to it! Best wishes!!
2007-10-17 13:03:53 · answer #11 · answered by Mona 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋