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My significant other of 3 years lied to me and said that he accidentlly took my keys when he came home and that he must have left his keys at his job...Really???...So when he left the house he didn't know that he had my keys..I wanted to see how far that he would go with this lie..He arrived home from work around 11pm.....and gave me my keys and we both keep a set of each others keys...but the key that he has of mine...he can't open my glove box with that key..(Acura thing I guess)...so he removed his set from mine and gave my set back to me...Mean while he is acting pissed at me for something earlier that day anyway..This morning while he was in the shower I decided to go and check his car...just in case because his story didn't make any sense as to how he previously left his keys at work and somehow drove home..I'm not that stupid..I check his car and he had his keys the whole time....and took mine and lied about it...What is your opinion? I'm 2 marry him in 5mths...not healthy.

2007-10-17 12:35:00 · 9 answers · asked by Nia L 1 in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

Thank you everyone...I don't want to overreact...that is why I am asking others.I haven't not told him that I know that he lied to me yet... I feel like I am too close to see the bigger picture. I try to say to myself I love him, but do I deserve this treatment, and will it continue and maybe get worse after marrige....I also think that maybe he is doing something and that is why is acting so suspisious of me...He is showing his controlling nature that I have seen in his mother and how she treats men that she dates..And she is a booger....I'm thinking of putting things on hold.

2007-10-17 13:04:14 · update #1

Sorry for the mis spelled words...trying to hide this question.....

2007-10-17 13:05:48 · update #2

9 answers

a marriage will never work between the two of you because you need trust but more important perhaps may be the fact that by taking your keys, he is controlling you, or trying to, and that should be a red flag to all women!! The fact that he took your keys may have been he wanted to look in your glove box
and was then upset when the key didn't work, if I understand that part of what you said.
Regardless, the fact he lied about that and that you have found that you can't trust him means that it is time to either get some counseling before the marriage or call the whole thing off!

2007-10-17 12:58:55 · answer #1 · answered by Al B 7 · 1 0

Not to discount your story but... is this the best example of a lie that you have?

If so, you may consider you are over reacting. With the limited facts you gave I just do not see what the big deal is... unless you are one of those women who manufacture big problems out of nothing at all.

On the other hand... only you know the whole scoop. So I would recommend that you trust your instincts about this being unhealthy.

Bottom line, make sure you are being honest with yourself.

Good luck.

2007-10-17 19:42:36 · answer #2 · answered by box of rain 7 · 1 0

Take your keys and run! You don't even have to tell him that you looked in his car. Let his own conscious eat him up. Take the high road and that God you realized this behavior before you walked down the aisle. I would draw the line even further and not even date. What for? He's a liar and might be a cheat. He did you a big favor.

2007-10-17 21:43:37 · answer #3 · answered by Ali Cat 2 · 0 0

Regardless of whether or not this is a clear case of him lying, if you are not comfortable and are having doubts about this relationship - then I suggest you take a break for awhile and do a little soul searching. It is never good to enter into a marriage with so much discomfort and mistrust.
Best of luck to you with whatever you do, but you must take yourself out of a situation that makes you feel constant stress and worry.

2007-10-17 19:47:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2 0

Ok, obviously there are trust issues here so you need to either learn to trust each other before the wedding or split up now because there was no reason for this at all....sure, he could have had his reasons, but seriously, this wasn't showing trust to you....I say split from him and move on, you deserve better than this liar....

2007-10-17 19:47:55 · answer #5 · answered by amyhwoods 5 · 1 0

What time does he normally come home? Do you normally check on him at work? Is it getting close to your birthday or something? Maybe you should think of more positive reasons why he wanted you to stay at home. Think of positive things before you react on the negative.....

2007-10-17 20:50:35 · answer #6 · answered by BadBilly 1 · 0 0

Just talk and see if you reason this out if not then work on trust before you marry.

2007-10-17 19:53:28 · answer #7 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0 0

Your question is confusing me.

2007-10-17 19:49:17 · answer #8 · answered by Simply Lovely 6 · 0 0

you answered your own question......not healthy......there is no trust, do not marry this man..........

2007-10-17 19:38:57 · answer #9 · answered by abc 7 · 1 0

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