My Mom is way overprotective. She is a single mother to me and my big sister. I am nearly 15 and my sis is 17. Our dad is not in the picture. My mom asked me the other day if i had anything that I wanted to talk to her about. I told her no, that i didn't. She dropped it then, but my sister pulled me aside later and said that for some reason mom was mad at me, but that she didnt know why, all she heard mom say (on the phone) that i was going to be severely punished. i knew that i was busted.
my mom's best friend saw me and my boyfriend (that i am not supposed to have) at the mall, we were making out. mom came home from work early and started doing laudry(she does this when she is mad) and found a letter my bf had written me about the nite that i lost my virginity.
mom didnt say anything to me about all this until after supper. (she said that she was trying to calm herself down) then she let me have it.(she wasnt calmed down much)
2007-10-17 12:27:15 · 30 answers · asked by Menolly A 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
mom said that she was EXTREMELY disappointed in me, and that it made her even angrier that i lied to her. (she also found out that my grades have slipped and i told her they were fine)
she said that she cannot trust me any more, bc i skipped school and stuff. She said that i was too young to be having sex, and she then said that i no longer have any priviliges...i think that she is over reacting.. i am nearly 15 years old and sex aint that big a deal. besides, it was only a few times.
mom also told me that she was gonna take me to and from school until she could trust me again and that i cant go to any parties for a long time. she grounded me for a month, and took away my cell phone and said she was restricting my computer priviliges to homework only, and she said that she was gonna check m homework every nite...im in the ninth grade, that is EMBARRASSING
2007-10-17 12:30:01 · update #1
wow YOUR MOM IS A WONDERFUL MOTHER i would have reacted the same way~~~ok young lady you have let her down think of her hurt not just your own feelings!you bet your sweet bottem i would keep a tight watch on you the friends you are running around with and i also would be calling the school to check on your behavior there and see why your grades are falling ~~~i think you need to THANK YOUR YOUNG LITTLE LUCKY STARS THAT YOU DO HAVE A MOM THAT LOVES YOU AND CARES ALOT ~YOU MAY NOT LOVE HER NOW BUT I CAN PROMISE YOU SOMEDAY YOU WILL LOOK BK AND SAY THANKS TO HER FOR MAKING YOU WALK THE LINE~~~i wish there were alot more moms like yours out there~yes you are too young to have sex omg are you ready to b a mother NO well you think this is all FUN AND GAMES LISTEN HERE GIRL you have no no no idea what a hot fire you are playing with~you have left your mom no other choice then to totally shut you off of everything you like and i am so happy she did and i believe she has people you DONT EVENNNN KNOW OUT THERE KEEPING THERE EYE ON YOU SO YOU BETTER BEWARE!I CAN SEE RITE NOW YOUR MOM IS NOT STUPID AND WILL NOT SETTLE FOR ANYMORE OF YOUR CHILDISH GAMES ~~NOT ONLY ARE YOU PUTTING YOURSELF AT A HIGHHHH RISK OF GETTING PREG..U ALOS HAVE BEEN EXPOSED TO AIDS SO ALL THE PEOPLE YOUR PARTNER HAS HAD SEX WITH YOU HAVE NOW TOO SO YOU MAY WANT TO GET TESTED FOR AIDS IT CANNNN KILL YOU!!!SO I HOPE YOU TOTALLY ENJOY YOUR MOM BEING YOUR SHADOW HATS OFF TO MOM AND IF THIS DONT OPEN UP YOUR EYES NOTHING WILL I HIGHLY DOUBT SHE WILL TRUST YOU FOR ONE HELL OF A LONG TIME AND I TIP MY HAT TO YOUR WONDERFUL OUTSTANDING MOM GOOD WORK MOM !!!!!!!!NOW GROW UP AND STOP MESSING WITH FIRE AND MAKING YOUR MOTHERS LIFE MISERABLE!!!!!
2007-10-17 14:40:34 · answer #1 · answered by ladysosureone 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think you're Mom is overprotective. She's a single mom (which is not easy) and she is concerned for you. I'm sure she would have loved you'd wait until you're married or even older before having sex, but you didn't -- so you need to be adult and deal with it.
Your relationship with your Mom will probably be different now. It would have been better if you'd had a talk with your Mom about dating and sex. I would rather my daughter come talk to me and get protection if she's going to have sex then to sneak around.
On the otherhand, the more parents say NO you can't do or see this person -- the more the child wants to do it. So sit down with Mom and discuss what you want to do.
1. Apologize for not coming to her before having sex and for sneaking around.
2. If you want to continue to have sex then ask her to get you on the pill.
3. Promise to do your school work BEFORE doing anything with your boyfriend.
4. If she is firm about NO BOYS then you need to find out why.
5. Many young people can have healthy relationships with the opposite sex, do wonderful in their school work, and still don't have problems.
Bottomline - it's your Mom's house and depending on her background -- if she says no boyfriend until whatever age -- that's something that you'll have to deal with if you choose to continue living in her house.
P.S. And for goodness sake -- never skip school and/or have sex in your Mom's house. That's just another mark against her not trusting you.
Eventually, things will smooth out -- she just has to find a way to let her baby girl spread her wings a little more.
2007-10-17 12:40:43 · answer #2 · answered by JusMe 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree with your mom. I'll bet most of your friends parents let them do what ever they want to do, and give them very little restrictions. The problem with that is the parents just want the kids out of their hair, and don't want to deal with them, so they let them do what ever. I've already raised 2 girls and 2 boys, and 2 more that are 11 years old. I keep a very tight reign on them, they have restrictions as to how long they can go to friends, limit on phone usage, computer use, and no cell phones even though most of their friends have them.
What your mom does isn't because she's over protective, its because she loves you and wants you to be safe. There are so many perverts out there, you never know if your walking beside one in the mall. Not to mention the sexually transmitted diseases out there, did you even use protection? Have you thought about the consequences of not using protection? This is what a mom thinks about. Put yourself in her shoes, if you were a mom with a 15 year old daughter would you approve of what your doing for her? I think not!!
2007-10-17 18:01:03 · answer #3 · answered by hannahs3092000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, your so smart...not. Okay, here's what you do, focus on school. When you're pregnant next year and can't go because your working and feeding a newborn, you won't think the sex was that great. Get your poop in a group. First figure out your priorities, if your saying that your not that worried about the sex, then focus on the right stuff. Your going to be detracting when your walking around as a pregnant tenth grader or go into the tenth grade as a mom.
2007-10-17 12:47:33 · answer #4 · answered by Living In Fast Forward 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
um.... I'm sorry, but you got off easy!!!!! If my mom( I no longer have a father) found out that I have had sex(which I never have) I would be slaughtered!!! GROUNDED TILL I'M 40!!!!!!!! I just turned 15 and I'm in 10th grade, I'm sorry, but 14 is still a child and it is not the proper age to have sex, wait until your married!!! And by the way sex is a big thing and you could get pregnant, STDs and many other problems that can come from sex. Just count your blessings, kid, you're really lucky!
2007-10-17 14:20:43 · answer #5 · answered by sanhorn92 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No I don't think your mom is being overprotective. She is being a mom. She's worried about you and she doesn't want you to make mistakes that you will regret later.. WHat if you were to end up pregnant? Or you get an STD. I mean she's just looking out for you and she is trying to make you pay for your mistakes. Because you don't want to have to deal with the consequences if you ended up pregnant. I think you should just listen to what she says and don't be so eager to grow up. You'll have the rest of your life to do that. I think you need to earn her trust and act like a responsible adult and respect yourself and don't have sex. I hope you learn from your mistakes, just thank God its not worse.
2007-10-17 12:39:51 · answer #6 · answered by Christen T 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
wow, this sounds like my life story... minus the sex part. but i know exactly how you feel. my mom is a single mother also and is very overprotective and i am also not allowed to have a b/f until after college. my dad isn't in the picture too and i just turned 15 like two weeks ago. but anyhow, i have had like five boyfriends behind her back... and she found out about one like a month ago... and i was in SOOO much trouble. grounded for SIX months, no phone, no hanging out w/ friends and g-ma has to watch over me on the weekends! yeah... i think my mom is overreacting tooo... but the answer to yr question is that, our moms just want the best for us. and doesn't want us to be heading in the wrong direction, even though it means they have to be over protective. i know it's unfair now (i still think it is...), but in the long run, we'll probably realize that they did the right thing. cuz seriously, it wouldn't be fun if we got into drugs and sex at the age of 13. our lives would be ruined. so i would suggest trying to get on the good side of yr mom and not doing stuff behind her back... try to talk to her about all this. and compromise. but i feel yr sympathy... i still have a b/f now, but i only see him in schoool:| cuz i'm kinda worried my mom will find out again and she says if it does happen again, she'll kick me out of the house! and there is no way i can compromise w/ her... but i hope it works for you(:
2007-10-17 14:02:21 · answer #7 · answered by ellenn<3 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
dude! I'm in the 8th grade!!!! and last year in the 7th! I was right behind you, sex is a big deal, dont u value who u give ur body to????dont u want it to be to someone who u will live with forever, like someone YOUR MARRYING? and it is a big deal cuz there can be consequences....sex is for adults, and judging by this question, you havnt grown up since 6th grade. and im 13 and know better than this. i actually think ur mom is doing the right thing, so GET OVER IT.
2007-10-17 13:19:29 · answer #8 · answered by Teenager 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No she isn't. She is overly indulgent or you wouldn't be such a spoiled brat.
If my kid was having sex behind my back when she was forbidden to even have a boyfriend, she would be in a chastity belt. The key would be in a safe deposit box until her wedding night!
I would not forbid my 15 year old to have a boyfriend unless I knew she was too irresponsible to do it intelligently, which is probably where your mother is coming from.
Then you lie to her, and expect us to feel sorry for you when she catches you!!!! Come on, Kid.
If you were mine there would be serious child abuse charges.
2007-10-17 15:48:49 · answer #9 · answered by Truth 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm 24...not a mom...but if you save what you wrote or remember this time in a few years...i promise you you'll realize shes just being a GOOD mom...NOT an over protective one! By the way...sex is a BIG BIG BIG DEAL!! If you don't know that you aren't old enough to have it!
2007-10-17 12:37:46 · answer #10 · answered by Jewels 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋