I have ask a different version of this ?, but I am 7 weeks pregnant and the baby's father says he doesnt want a child, after he told me before that he did just not ye, and if I turned up pregnant we would just deal with it. I was told just to give him time to get used to the idea of being a father and I dont bring it up to avoid argument or to just not be pushy right now being that i still have a good ways to go before I need to make any real preparations for the baby's arrival. But He is getting more distant and telling me that its hunting season and I wont see him as much. But we have been together for two hunting seasons and he has never been away this much before. He moved out in July saying we need time apart and he's not sure when or if he will be coming back. I know I dont need him to live with me to raise a child but for the life of me I cant figure this out. I have given him his out, from the relationship and he says he doesnt want to break up, I dont know what 2 do.
2007-10-17 12:12:31 · 4 answers · asked by cindy s 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Hang in there. Do not say another word about the baby. He knows you are pregnant, but he has to adjust to the fact that he is going to be a father. It doesn't matter if he lives with you, or even talks to you, nothing will change the fact that he is going to be a father. The less said at this time the better. Some woman get desperate, and go hormonal, which only makes guys think they are right in staying away. I knew a guy just like this, and he turned out to be the best father I knew.
2007-10-17 12:52:58 · answer #1 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you turned up pregnant he would just "deal" with it? What kind of response for a father-to-be is that? If he's not there for you now, you think he will be there down the road? Not likely. What about the child? Will hunting become a good escape route for parenting as well?
I would think long and hard about what you plan to do. It's tough being a single mom in this day and age and its even harder on the kids not having a reliable father around.
No one can make your decisions for you, but speaking with a family counselor may be of benefit. I hope you can make your decisions soon.
Good luck.
2007-10-17 12:55:08 · answer #2 · answered by NanaCat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say it but I wouldn't count on your boyfriend. He doesn't sound very commited to you or the baby. How about you or the baby having time to "get used to the idea?" You don't have that luxury and why should he? You need support now-a good friend or boyfriend would be able to get past their own issues and support you in a difficult time. Why does he leave you when you need him most? Babies don't tend to make relationships stronger -especially when they aren't strong to start with. I'm just worried you will end up taking care of you and the baby by yourself. You deserve better. Put yourself first and take care of you and the baby. You have no control over him so don't wait for him. If he has any decency he will come around. If not, you are better off without him. Good luck!
2007-10-17 12:59:45 · answer #3 · answered by itry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok here my answer,
do you want the child?
can you take care of the child by your self
and why has he left you ,
he dont wisht o break with you ,
but now your preggy wtf
i would tell him, get back here, forget your hunting
or it over and the baby goes,
as i dont ,cant or wish to be a single mum
2007-10-17 12:39:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋