How do YOU BALANCE the pros and cons of a LIFE DECISION?

Question

I am ready to give my last thought to a decision I have been struggling for years. I know that in most of our lives we go through life making decisions that we regret or that we are thankful for.

As you get older, life gives you decisions you wish you knew how to handle but it is impossible at times specially since your economic well being or your so called "secured future" can be affected.

I read a question that Emmylou Harris posted here
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Aj.rBLYxtUrlyVw4gGQwJDbpy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20071016132557AAl4I63
but I she does not mention as to what to do when taking decisions.

What do you do? Do you forget about what you have done in the past and move on to a new life changing direction or do you just ignore everything to see what happens?

Take care!

Answer 1

Suppose you follow a path and it takes you somewhere you don't want to go, even to the point of disrupting your financial future to a degree. You would probably feel regret over such a decision that seemed so positive when you started it.

Now suppose you don't follow that path, but you keep thinking to yourself "what if?" for the rest of your life.

If the potential regret and disruption seems less distressful than always asking "what if?" then you should take that path anyway. Better to try something and make a mistake than to always play it safe and live a comfortable life of limited boundaries.

If that didn't make sense, I can always try to explain it more clearly later via e-mail.

Answer 2

Balance head and heart, what you know to be right, true, kind, and necessary, with what your heart knows to be right. Weigh the personal responsibility of your choice, how will it affect you and other people? Ask what would love do now.
Whatever the decision, I believe it is important to do it in the most loving way possible, taking full responsibility for your part. Once the choice is made, move forward with positive regard for all, stepping carefully so as not to step on the rights of others. Accept your part of whatever follows with grace and love. Learn from the past, live in the Now, plan for the future with an open heart.

Answer 3

Do the best you can and no one can fault you. None of us are right 100% of the time, we all have made decisions that did not turn out as we wished. You can either live in the past, which is just that the past, or you can learn from it and move forward. That in its self is a decision. Remember yesterday, live today and dream about tomorrow.

Answer 4

When making life decisions, I try to make the most practical, reasonable decisions. I take risks, but they are calculated risks, and I'm usually willing to pay the 'price' if they turn out to be poor decisions. Mainly, I try to make the best of the decision I've made, but be honest enough with myself when I can see that clearly, that decision might not have been best and what can I do to rectify the situation.

Answer 5

you really have to "quiet" your mind and let your gut instinct about your decision take over. we all have this 6th sense that really guides us in the right direction, and some can feel this better than others. just let this ambivilance sit in you for a few more days and "feel" how you are feeling about one way or another. i know it may sound kind of hoaky but really, the mind has a way of confusing you at times. but to quiet your mind will let your inner self (6th sense, spirit of God) speak to you loud and clear. and calmly. and pray to God for the strengthe and courage to make the best decision. good luck.

Answer 6

I always look ahead and never behind. I have learned that in this life the only one looking out for you is you so do what is best for yourself and own happiness.