Tell them to go send a "Thank You" card to themselves...
Sorry, I'm moody...
2007-10-17 11:39:00 · 14 answers · asked by LUCKY3 6 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Some people don't have friends, they have hostages, don't be one. Some give with expectation & they use giving as emotional blackmail. They want you to feel as if you owe them & feel guilty, just don't play. You don't have to be mean or even angry, but call them on it. You will be doing them a favor in the end. But always be as loving & kind as possible, they will learn from you. Thanks & so sorry about your mood.
(((HUG)))
2007-10-17 12:11:16 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Moody? That's new! To answer your question though, I would say you need to be kind back. I'm not saying to react in the exact level of kindness, but, really kindness is such a rare attribute that to be hostile toward it seems a bit....well....moody? Now, if this person is buttering you up for a future favor, then that's not kindness, that's manipulation. I ought to know, I'm the king of manipulation! A strong word to them works well enough, but, do yourself a favor and sleep on it a few days. If you're moody, you may loose a friend with too harsh words. Sorry, your not feeling yourself! We understand though!
2007-10-17 19:23:48 · answer #2 · answered by delux_version 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
You wouldn't be referring to people who need their egos stroked after doing the teeniest thing, would you? Perhaps, people who expect some type of grandiose reciprocation for the teeniest thing? Like, twelve "thank-you's", maybe they want their feet kissed too. Gawd knows. Sounds like you and I are having a similar kind of day.
These people you refer to though? Manipulative Ego-Maniacs. I am currently refusing to feed their ego; I'm not giving them what they want, and will not make any more time for them in the future. Once bitten, twice shy type of thing. That's the best you can do, I think....even though it would be much more satisfying to stick pins in their egos...or just kick them in the butt. *Evilest laugh ever*: Ha-ha-ha :-).
If you know them well, will have to relate to them in the future, or give a darn about them, probably best to unveil them. Why should you let them manipulate you so that they can feel better about themselves...at YOUR expense? What kind of relationship is that? If you don't know them that well, why waste your time? Not worth the drama. I just won't waste my precious time on them in the future.
Anyhow, sorry about the "moodiness", but you're not alone, my dear. The manipulators seem to be EVERYWHERE today.
2007-10-17 19:14:29 · answer #3 · answered by Kynysca 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Be kind.
It is easy to return a kindness.
That may not mean the kind they want but it is too easy to be kind to not be.
If they are not happy with your kindness then too bad for them but at least you didn't let it get you down.
Just be kind and they will have to ask themselves the same question, only they will see that you were kinder thatn they were for having no expectations.
2007-10-18 08:15:49 · answer #4 · answered by LORD Z 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
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I'm not for any attitudinal approach toward those who showed some 'kindness' to us in a small or big way. No need to oblige them if we don't feel their expectation is reasonable. Atleast, we must desist from assuming a superior air and insulting them with a rude retort. I feel such an action would betray our own immaturity and show us in a poor light.
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2007-10-18 01:44:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
My rule of thumb is to treat others how I want to be treated, not vice versa. If I don't get a return thank you, it doesn't mean I'm gonna be mean to that person next time. It might well put me down to be appreciated, but it shouldnt change my kindness. I dont ever wanna let anyone or anything steal my joy.
2007-10-17 18:43:23 · answer #6 · answered by Joyful 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
basically my entire conduct is based on kindness, so anyhow I offer it freely. but it is completely my choice, not because the other one expects it in some way.....and yes, generally speaking it is somewhat mean or with hidden meaning while acting "kind" to expect some amount of kindness in return. that's, in fact, no kindness at all....but some kind of acting!
what causes your "moody-status"right now?
2007-10-18 05:08:10 · answer #7 · answered by farhire 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I give it too them with a smile , they must need it more than I if they are fishing for it and I'm a giving person so if I can make them feel good then I feel good as well .
2007-10-17 18:45:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
a true act of kindness from the heart does not expect anything in return...
it's not genuine then if they want something back..
2007-10-17 18:41:12 · answer #9 · answered by ×Charmz× 6 · 5⤊ 1⤋
I don't consider such as true friends, if friends at all after that.
2007-10-20 01:17:45 · answer #10 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋