I have been doing some simple math and I think my best friend (and maid of honor) may have pulled one over on me.
She came to the rehearsal dinner the night before ($50/head), she brought a friend of hers to my wedding as a guest (not a boyfriend) at $170/head. I also gave her a $100 gift for being my maid of honor. So, that's about a total of $490. That's what I spent on HER for my wedding.
She gave me an ice bucket & tongs, a wine cooler, and a wine coaster for our wedding gift. About a $70 value.
We're not talking about someone who cannot afford a decent gift - believe me, if she couldn't afford much I never would have given this a second thought. She comes from a VERY well-to-do family and her bank account would probably put all of ours combined to shame.
Not to mention the fact that literally the week before my wedding she paid $500 for a lap dance for some guy she had a short fling with.
Anyways, what are your thoughts on this? I don't know what to think.
2007-10-17 10:52:19 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
For those of you who are calling me petty - my wedding was well over a year ago. I have not been keeping tally, I just happened to realize it today in talking about wedding gifts in general. I am not holding it against her, I am not angry, I couldn't ask for a better best friend. I was just curious what other people thought about it. What is so terrible about asking for people's opinions on things?
So, for those of you calling names like a 2 year old - stop being so damn judgemental and take a question for what it is, and don't read your own misinterpretations into it.
2007-10-17 11:07:52 · update #1
I am not holding this against her. I am not keeping tabs. I just wanted to know what OTHER people thought.
2007-10-17 23:05:53 · update #2
Normally, you shouldn't keep tabs on how much a friend spends on you, but in this case, the difference is pretty vast. It sounds like she's cheap and doesn't value you that much unfortunately.
Basically, she let her true colors show and it's up to you to decide whether or not to keep her around as a friend knowing what you know now, or distance yourself from her. Hopefully you choose the latter. She sounds lame.
2007-10-17 11:10:34 · answer #1 · answered by JustMe 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is so over the top, I find it hard to believe this is a real question. You are doing a quid pro quo to make sure that your friend's gifts reimburse you for what you've spent on her!!! That is so amazingly petty of you. That's NOT being a friend at all, much less a best friend on YOUR part. Lose the green eye shades, and stop keeping score.
2007-10-17 10:59:43 · answer #2 · answered by Ms. X 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
No it doesn't sound like she appreciates you very much as a friend and actually took advantage of you on your own wedding day! She sounds like a person who's in it all for herself and isn't very generous unless she has something to gain from it. I wouldn't want this person as even a friend much less a best friend.
2007-10-17 10:57:29 · answer #3 · answered by abdiver12 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think she values you as much as you value her friendship. She sounds like she just looks out for herself. I wouldn't say anything to her just be aware of how she spends her money when you go out together it should tell you then how she is even around other friends and family members is she more let's say generous.
2007-10-17 11:20:57 · answer #4 · answered by Tree70 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That was very rude of your friend, however you have two options:
1. You can talk to her about it and forgive and forget
2. Revenge and end the friendship
If she is a good fiend, i would go w/ one
2007-10-17 10:58:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
These people are right, it's extremely petty to expect something in return for doing something nice. If you wanted something nice back in return, don't give things out to begin with.
And how your friend manages their money (wealthy or poor) is entirely up to them, they don't owe you anything just because you decided to spend money on them, or because she has a nice bank account.
2007-10-17 11:04:48 · answer #6 · answered by SadExchange1984 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think you should put your calculator away . . . did you ask her to be in the wedding to see what you could get out of her? Gifts are OPTIONAL! If you got a gift at all, you should say thank you and let it go.
GEEZ!!
2007-10-17 11:03:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
You have no right to compare her bank account to yours. How she spends her money is stricly up to her, no matter how much she has. You cannot expect her to spend any more on you than she wants to. If you had an issue with her wealth, you should not have invited her at all.
2007-10-17 10:58:30 · answer #8 · answered by Mike 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
yeah, I don't think she put very much thought into that, but just see how she acts now. She might just be cheap when it comes to her money.
2007-10-17 11:01:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've never known a wealthy person who was especially generous. And it seems like you are keeping score.
2007-10-17 11:03:53 · answer #10 · answered by beez 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋