it seems they are all out seeking for a sucker. i mean if that's the way life is and nothing more, what's the point? and then i say if you're not looking for a sucker, hang on, and don't do them a favor to give up on life because they think they can scam you.
who knows? maybe i'm doing the wrong choices. i will admit i get pretty impressed sometimes for all the wrong reasons.
is it so hard to be honest? doesn't this cat and mouse game gets you down? hell yes i'm clever enough to scam anybody but i just don't want to. what does that make me? a winner? big deal. in the end you're a scumbag and you know it and you get your share as well.
i think i'll do it my way. and we'll see in the end who will be the winner and who loses. i haven't seen so far all these sucker-seekers getting ahead better than me. i'm kinda sad and angry too. has anybody else seen life this way?
why have human relationships gone this way?
2007-10-17 10:43:29 · 12 answers · asked by sarah kay 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Yeah... I'm sick and tired of the facade people put up. I have the small advantage of hiring people and suppliers at times, and I just dump the liars are retards who are all image, no beef. Lost some "friends" that way, but .. well, who the hell needs those foul "fair weather friends"?
Glad to see that there's a few like you/us still around. Too bad we're half way around the world from one another, it would be interesting to talk with you some time in person.
But use your humor to cushion some of the ****.... it makes things easier to put up with... but you've probably already figured that one out for yourself.
2007-10-17 11:34:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, i'm usually the one people take advantage of, so i know how you feel.
i dont think that you should be distrustful of others, but i have learned that you have to cover your bum and be on your guard sometimes. Its sad, as it shouldnt be that way, but it is most times.
I'm often the one that trusts people, and am nice to them, giving them ideas only for them to turn around and act like i'm a copycat when i'm not LOL. OR say that i did something to them when i didn't. They normally do that to promote themselves, at my expense or the expense of others, and its sad.
I'm confident in my abilities, and am always willing to help or share what i know. Unfortunately I've found that other people arent like that.
Its sad isn't it? When scumbags make it seem as though youre the scumbag! *sighs* oh well. I'm a firm believer in Karma, or the Law of Reciprocity, or whatever you want to call it. It eventually comes back on them, and the truth comes out in the end.
I am sorry you've gone through this too. It is not fun, is it?
Nice people seem to always be the ones that get screwed over. But i am a firm believer, that personal integrity is important. I don't envy those few that have done me wrong, as well.... i'm keeping my eyes fixed on my goal, and when i finally get where i'm going, and pass by them to the top, i will not regret doing it the right way, nor will i regret not being a liar or a backstabber. When it comes down to it, they have to live with themselves, and though they don't mind playing that game, i find that they havent any real friends at all as theyve burned all of their bridges, whereas i have not. So, its all good.
I dont think people are expendable, and i dont take advantage, and i recognise others for their abilities and do not feel threatened by them as i have my own and i'm an original LOL so.... even though a few may lie and screw me over temporarily, i know that not only am i the better person, but that things will work out in the end, to my benefit.
I hope that makes sense, and is helpful.
â¥â¥ HUGS â¥â¥
2007-10-17 17:56:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
hi! personal advice...you're asking too much advice. you shoul try and make you own decisions. and yes being nice is beaing the sucker always. first image you have to show is that of an impossible human being so everyone stays away and if they deserve you are kind, but i don't advice it..i think the meaner and careless about others you are the better you are treated. scream and shout cut trough raw meat tell them to appologise and they will. being nice and turning the other cheak the bible tells you is not the answer. I'm not saying here to pick up a sword and everytime someone pisses you off hit till you see blod. just be colder....
p.s. there are no recipes for being you...and considering the fact that you're a novell writer, sensitive, caring, romantic, i don't know if you can be a bit rude, careless but you can try...again if you think you're up to the challenge
p.s 2 try to solve your own problems: close all - tv, pc, radio, go to the mountains, have a bit of time to yourself, think about what you want, - from life...than you have powerfull weapon
p.s. 3 sorry for my scrambled writing style
2007-10-18 08:53:15 · answer #3 · answered by Nicu O 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my long experience at attempting to become a human being, when you meet a new person, he or she is attempting to make a good impression on you. As the relationship ages, the person gets 'lazy' and becomes his or herself. I find myself doing it even though I vow not to do it. We are all human no matter how hard we try to be otherwise. When you meet someone new, just believe about half of what you see. Perhaps I'm a cynic but I've been a lot less disappointed since I adopted this philosophy. The few times I've been wrong, I was pleasantly surprised.
2007-10-17 18:40:50 · answer #4 · answered by David S 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most people put on a mask on the first few dates. Many guys only want to bed the next woman, so they put on there best behavior to get to bed you. And then some guys get feelings for you, and can't keep up with the lies they have already put out there, so they show there true colors. Its sad, but that's the simplest answer I can give.
2007-10-18 08:58:48 · answer #5 · answered by DonOctavio75 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe the real answer isn't as ominous as it seems on the surface; maybe when you meet someone for the first time, you're not so much meeting that person as you are meeting their "representative"; (a social stand-in whose sole purpose it is to make favorable first impressions on the general public.) And in due course, you are suitably impressed, but then as time wears on, and your perspective of that person deepens, the flaws associated with that person become more and more apparent. Yes, I've met more than my share of folks willing and eager to take my kindness for weakness, and sometimes I'm amazed that people mis-read me that badly by trying to play me (when they actually stood to gain so much more from me by just being honest), but I don't think that applies to most people. I think most people's dishonesty is incidental; they spend so much effort lying to themselves that lying to other folks becomes necessary to maintain the illusion. I can see things from a vantage point that's slightly elevated as I stand on the fifth rung of my personal experiences....the ol' "tsk, tsk" perspective, as I like to call it.That's high enough to notice the distinction, but not so high as to feel emotionally detached from it all. The challenge for you is the same as it is for me (and everyone else): Recognize the truth of what's going on without becoming "jaded" by it all. Are you up to it?
2007-10-17 20:42:53 · answer #6 · answered by Captain S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Start re-evaluating what you characteristics you use to determine dates, friends, etc. I think you need bettter verbage to describe the situation. Semantics Semantics. I don't think people are looking for a sucker but rather looking for an advantage. One thing for certain is you can bet everyone, even the most emphathetic people, still have themselves as the number one priority. Not knowing and understanding this can be a grave oversight and is probably leading to your frustration.
2007-10-17 17:54:07 · answer #7 · answered by jay k 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sarah Kay, My dear I love you for letting me know that I am not the only honest soul left ! 22 years ago I wrecked my motercycle and became disabled.A few years later I got online and discovered that the news was true,people have changed ! Not for the better. Peoples hearts are waxing cold !That comes straight from the bible.Please if you haven"t accepted Jesus as your lord and savior do it now.Satan"s time is short so he is taking in everyone he can !
2007-10-17 17:59:21 · answer #8 · answered by lonewolf 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there was a time when you gave a person the benefit of the doubt, and a persons word was their bond. ppl are no longer teaching children respect, morals or just plain manners. when i was coming up you never answered an adult, what?
nor did you talk back w/out getting popped in the mouth. there are just too many crooked people in the world where you have no reason to trust them
too many wolves in sheep's clothing (((((bbh)))))
2007-10-18 02:09:39 · answer #9 · answered by nunya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are all actors, and the world is their stage, but they can't keep up the goodie-goodie act 4 long,because they aren't real or sincere, its just a coverup of mean people!! As you get a little older, you'll be able to spot them, using your girl-radar!! just be careful&good luck!!!
2007-10-17 21:41:24 · answer #10 · answered by happywjc 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋