Baby Gender? Find out or no...see details please, I want both sides?

Question

Last month when I went to the Dr, I could have found out what I was having. My husband didn't want to know so I told the Dr I didn't want to know (Hubby didn't want to know last time, but I found out anyway and wouldn't tell him). Later down the road I made a comment about a gender neutral outfit being "too girly" and he said that from that comment I was having a girl. Turned out he was right.

For those of you who waited...Did you ever want to change your mind and find out to make planning easier? How did you make it thru without finding out??

For those of you who didn't find out, but then later changed your mind and found out...at what point?

I am having mixed thoughts this time about finding out. I don't want to know b/c it really doesn't matter, but at the same time I want to know so that I can have the perfect coming home outfit and everything already set up??

Answer 1

Ok I will give both sides because I have just found out that we are expecting a baby girl that I am so excited about. However, it is quite strange because I kind of think what is there to tell people after she is born? Her weight not quite the same as saying wow it's a lovely little girl or boy. I am not regretting it but perhaps next time I wouldn't find out. It is a tough decision that initially can be made so quick. However, I can get a little organised now but then it would serve me right if the sonographer was wrong haha. Good luck with everything.

Answer 2

I know how you feel.. I changed my mind what seemed like a 100 times..I wanted to know..then I didn't want to know. Well when the time came when I was able to find out, I couldn't! Baby's feet were crossed! I was a little sad, but then I thought well maybe she wants me to wait! So the next time I had an ultrasound I STILL couldn't see. My husband really wanted to know too. But then the next time I had an ultrasound I couldn't wait to find out and now I'm having a girl.. I am SOO happy that I found out because I have the cutest girly outfits and perfect outfit to take her home in. I'm not into the green and yellows so in the end I'm very glad I found out.

I'm having a c-section on Saturday because she is still breech!

good luck and congrats on your pregnancy

Answer 3

I've had 2 kids and I've done both...with my first one I waited, and I just got everything in yellows, mint green, red, stuff like that. Things that would fit both a girl and a boy. Turns out I had a boy, and let me tell you, I seriously wish that I would have found out, cause for like the first 5 months, when he was in yellow and mint green clothes and blankets, all i got were people telling me what a beautiful daughter I had. So on my second pregnancy as soon as I knew I could find out the sex I did. And it was a girl, and this was much easier, because I was able to plan everything, she had the prettiest dress to come home in, a gorgeous princess themed room, and at the baby shower, everyone knew I was having a girl so I got so many things that a little girl would want. So my thought is to find out! But thats just me :)

Answer 4

Hi 'Kiddo'! :-)

I think you've just posted one of the most important questions any mum and/or dad-to-be could ask themselves - should we find out or go áu naturél?

While most couples cant wait to find out, its becoming an increasingly popular trend to just wait and see 'what pops out'.

I personally, found out at my 12 week ultrasound that I was having a little girl. I thought that was fantastic, as I'd always wanted a little girl to dress-up and play Barbies with! Finding out that early, also gave us another 6 and a half months time to prepare her nursery, and buy her clothes. I personally am NOT a big fan of unisex clothes, so I would have been DEVISTATED if I had have bought the wrong coloured outfits!

Finding out that we were having a little girl, also gave us enough time to paint her whole room 'fizzy' pink, buy about 250 pink, red, purple, etc. outfits before her birth, buy her a pink pram (I know - we might sound a little extreme here, but wait till you see it!!), buy her pink towels and we even knew to buy nappies for little girls.

See, if you dont find out the gender of your baby, how would you have possibly known to do all that? Personally, I think her room has become one of the most gorgeous rooms in the house - its so colourful, and there is a great atmosphere in there (until she starts screeching haha)...

NOW TO THE OTHER OPINION - It is of course every couples right not to find out if they are having a boy or a girl, if they do not wish to know.

My husband and I have discussed having another baby in that past, and we have made an oath to go to the other 'extreme' with this next baby - we dont want to know if we're having a boy or a girl, and instead of having another hospital birth, we've already made contact with a group of home-based midwives to have the baby in the bathtub at home! Pricey, but not too expensive to really understand and fully be able to witness childbirth without drugs or pain-killers, in the comfort of your own home!

So Kiddo, its really is up to you. Why dont you let yourself be suprised this time? Then you can even make a bet with your hubby to see if his pick was right or not... :-)

Good luck Kiddo!

Answer 5

I didn't find out with my first child, but with the second I did because I wanted to know if I should be buying things in different colors.
Personally I wish I wouldn't have found- out it's the element of surprise and you can't get that back.
10 years from now will you care or even remember what you took them home in without looking at a picture. I just see that beautiful face with both of them and not the clothes.

Answer 6

I think it's good to know because you can plan better. On the other hand, people can be superstitious about knowing as if the pregnancy does not come to full term or there's an issue at the birth, you are already bonded with the child as an unique being, with names, outfits and all the associated paraphernalia. I can see both sides.

Answer 7

We found out in August that we're expecting a boy in January. It seemed like an eternity before we could find out, so I can't imagine going until my due date without knowing what the baby is. I promise you, you won't be less excited just because you find out early. We've already named him and call him by that name when we talk to him. People are making things for him with his name on them, such as a baby blanket with his name embroidered on. We REALLY wanted a boy, and if it had been a girl then I think I would've needed that extra time to prepare myself mentally! (I'd be ok with the next one being a girl.)

It really is a personal choice, so good luck to you and congrats!

Answer 8

With our first child we didn't find out and it was kind of nice to be suprised, but with our next two we found out because one we really wanted to know and also since we already had one child we wanted to know so we could save money by saving our first child's things ( our first was a girl and so was our second, so we didn't get rid of her clothes and all the girly stuff)
Our third was a boy so we could prepare and also it is easier choosing names. I don't really see the big deal in finding out, it's not as if it is some kind of sin to find out, whatever both parents agree on.

Our friends had the ultrasound tech put the sex of the baby on a piece of paper in an envelope and give it to them and they opened it on Christmas, I thought that was kind of cool.

Answer 9

I never wanted to find out and it didn't make a bit of difference to my planning - I picked a boy's name and a girl's name, decorated in a neutral style, bought a grey buggy and lots of plain white babygro's. I had 2 children (both boys) and never considered finding out the sex, and if I had another 10 children I wouldn't find out either. The moment of my children being born and hugging their little naked bodies, not knowing what sex and not caring either because they were my perfect babies...I wouldn't miss that for the world.
To me, finding out is all about practicalities, its about what colour to paint the nursery - it doesn't have to be pink or blue.
JMO, seems like most people do find out these days so I'm probably in a minority.

Answer 10

I understand your dilemma, but my husband and I chose to wait in finding out the sex of our first child, and it was such a great surprise in the end that it was so worth it!! I would TOTALLY recommend keeping it a surprise. Of course you want to plan a little bit, but maybe you can decorate in something semi-neutral (animals, perhaps?) and you can always buy two outfits to bring him/her home in! Buy one boy outfit and one girl outfit. You obviously won't use one, but you could save it for a potential next baby or give it away to someone else. I say - wait. Its really exciting, the anticipation! Now I am pregnant again, and we are saving this one for a surprise, as well!! Good luck!