We share 50/50 custody with my husbands 7year old daughter. We have been the only parents involved in any and all school and sports activities for the past 3 years. Her mother has never met her teachers, not once and our daughter has been asked to be retained in Kindergarten, 1st and 2nd grades due to slow learning skills. She was diagnosed 2X (we got a 2nd opinion from another psychiatrist) and both doctor's requested she be medicated. They both also said she will continue to struggle in school and without meds this can be detrimental to her socially, emotionally & academically. However, we cannot legally medicate her without her mom's consent. We've asked her mom to attend all the meetings with the teachers and doctors for the past 3 years, but she hasn't shown up to one. Whenever we suggest some type of therapy or retention in school, she refuses to oblige. We are concerned and are consdering getting an attorney to mandate medication therapy and full custody. We want her to succeed.
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We also know her mother does not do her homework with her and does not check it so there is inconsistency between our homes. Her mother takes medications (Prozac, Zanax) so it seems inconceivable to us why she's oppositional on this matter. We also know her moms boyfriend is an alcoholic and drinks every night. She has even witnessed physical abuse between the two if them. One more thing, she lives in a home with her mom, 3 other siblings, the boyfriends parents and the boyfriends brother and girlfriend. 9 ppl in a 1600 sq ft home. It's ridiculous. These are additional reasons we are seeking full custody, not just the ADD/ADHD factor.
2007-10-17 09:37:35 · 6 answers · asked by Tiff 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
you need to get an attorney and do what is best for that baby. if it was just the add/adhd it would probably not even hold up in a court. there are other ways to help with add/adhd beside meds. found this out on the internet. but that baby has bigger problems in her life than just that. it is very possible her family life outside of your home could be causing her to act out and could be mistaken for add/adhd. i have an 8 yr. old granddaughter who's dr. wanted to put her on meds for add/adhd, and by changing her family situation and taking her to a family counselor it seemed to help her. her mom still has issues with her behavior, but i don't. her mother is not consistent with punishment and i am a firm believer in if you tell a child something you stand behind it and don't falter. if my granddaughter misbehaves when she stays the weekend with me, i tell her she will lose her bike for the day. and by goodness she listens to me and is a good girl. they need to know there are consequences for their actions no matter how big or how small. but i really think that baby needs to be taken out of her mom's home and be with people that truly care about her and her life.
Good Luck Sweetie.
2007-10-17 11:10:28 · answer #1 · answered by myninny54 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations! You will manage - I'm sure you thought that you would never manage when you had your first child and your step daughter, then probably when your 5 year old was born you thought the same, but you did. Just be prepared to accept help and also accept that you are not superwoman and don't worry if you haven't cleaned or ironed or hoovered for a couple of days, the mess will still be there the next day and your kids will NEVER grow up and think "Thanks mum, we had a really tidy house when we were kids!" I think you should also give your kids simple chores to do now and again too, even if it's just keeping their rooms tidy for a bit of pocket money, every little bit helps. I also think that being prepared helps - do lunchboxes and sort any letters for school out the night before, get uniforms (even underwear) ready and have the babies' stuff prepared too. Do internet shopping and prepare what you will eat for dinner the night before. Organising your life makes things a whole lot easier - I used to be the most disorganised person in the world!! Just relax and enjoy it,being a mum is the best job in the world! Good Luck to you allxx
2016-05-23 04:53:15 · answer #2 · answered by freeda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How sad that some parents can be so blind to their children's health. It sounds like you are doing the right thing in consulting an attorney. You seem to have all the right reasons to getting full custody.
As for the ADHD factor. I'm not one for throwing kids on medication and if there's another way to go, I try to find it. It seems more doctors than not, like to take this route first too. Just curious if you have looked into alternative therapies. There are some out there that work.
Wishing you all the best.
2007-10-17 10:09:29 · answer #3 · answered by NanaCat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to an attorney NOW about Ex-Parte custody of your daughter. We just got immediate custody of my husbands 3 kids because they were living in a house with 9 people in 2 bedrooms and were not living with their mother. Their mother is also a real loser and has had 7 boyfriends in the last year and has had several domestic violence incidents.
DO NOT HESITATE FOR YOUR DAUGHTERS SAKE!!! Get in touch with an attorney now and talk to them about ex-parte custody and going for full custody.
2007-10-17 09:49:29 · answer #4 · answered by tmb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try some self help relaxation methods for the child- check out the book BEING In CONTROL with Amazon.com
2007-10-18 05:03:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats NEGLECT, tell her shape up or you'll report her, get ready for a fight!!
2007-10-17 11:57:44 · answer #6 · answered by happywjc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋