met a guy over the InterNet and fell in love with him. Later on I found out he was a bastard. I still want to sleep with him, because I am attracted to him, physically speaking, and I am in my late 20s, and I never had sex and It's high time I started.
The question is the folowing : when he comes to me should I tap into those romantic feelings, so that I will make love for my first time, or should I just have sex, no strings attatched.
Please reffrain from advice such as: you should save it for marriage/for someone that loves you back and so on. Not everybody is lucky enough to find lond on this world. Those of us who arent, work with the bad cards life has delt them with
2007-10-17 09:13:56 · 57 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
The question is under gay because I though you are more open minded.
2007-10-17 09:30:00 · update #1
do what ever feels right. good luck
2007-10-17 09:17:42 · answer #1 · answered by jessie 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
In my opinion, in order to make love, both the persons involved should have those deeper feelings towards each other, feelings that have been there since the beginning and feelings that have been developed eventually through times of being with each other, which are love, of course, passion, intimacy, etc. Making love is for people that share something special and that are in a devoted commitment to each other.
Whilst having sex can be a game for lots, no emotional entanglements. Even though I have never given an advice or a suggestion such as this, if you really want to experience intercourse, then you should just probably play around with him. You said so yourself, he turned out to be a bastard and with that, he probably doesn't see you as a potential partner that he will love and care for so...
But you know, doing the deed is still way, way better with someone that you love and that loves you back. That's just me though. You take care. Hope you find the right answer. : )
2007-10-17 09:23:35 · answer #2 · answered by J. McCoy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Making love is so much better if it's with someone you genuinely care about. I have found that one night stands that don't involve any feeling, leaves a person feeling even lonlier than before. I don't know what you mean by "bastard"- maybe give the guy half a chance, or move on..lots of men out there who are interested in a beautiful young woman. Remember beauty comes from the inside, and at 20 years old, you're bound to bump into mr. right- you're still young, and I don't understand the rush to have sex..
I hope your first experience with sex is everything you expect it to be.
Good sex is all about the partner you're with, and how attentive he is to your needs, you need to be eaqually attentive to his needs to bring in the good "lover" in him.
Remember "no glove no love"
Teej.
2007-10-17 09:24:45 · answer #3 · answered by Teej 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all everyone is lucky and will find someone in this world to love, it's just not your time. Secondly, if you just want to have sex, then go for it, wear some matching, sexy underware, and you take him ... .not the other way around, and make sure, you use protection!!! If you've never ever had any kind of sex, practice on your thumb with your mouth, making sure you can't feel your teeth; and the rest will come (no pun intended) naturally and hot!!! Good luck sweetie!
2007-10-17 09:22:55 · answer #4 · answered by Faerie Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since any 'romantic feelings' you might 'tap into' would be a lie at this point, then at least be honest with yourself and avoid them. Instead, if sex is what you want, then just have sex and try to enjoy the hell out of it.
By the way, if you don't like the cards life dealt you, you always have the right to ask for a new deck. Maybe YOU should start dealing instead of allowing life to do it for you.
2007-10-17 09:18:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
One thing for sure is that you dont want meaningless sex, its a total turn off. If you think that you are ready than you go girl. Another thing is that I cant believe your in your late 20's and are still a virgin, I have to admire that. I do know that you dont want to hear " save it for someone that loves you" but if your saying that than, you probably want that deep down inside. Its your body and your decesion. Just do what comes natrual, oh and by the way use protection.
2007-10-17 09:23:10 · answer #6 · answered by michael t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your an adult. Life is a short journey. If he is a bastard and you seem to know it already then do what you want to do. If its sex then have sex. I wouldn't expect a bastard to give you nice, warm fuzzy love making though. Be realistic. If its sex you want/need then go get it girl.
Love exists in one form or another for everyone. You have to keep looking. Meanwhile, enjoy what life brings you. In the end it is all we have.
2007-10-17 09:20:55 · answer #7 · answered by Digging for answers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Laelia,
When people have sex there is a spiritual and emotional bond that takes place whether or not they feel it at the time. Why make that connection with a "bastard"? There is a guy out there for you who would love you and is worthy of the gift of your body. Check out eHarmony.com It's helped a lot of people.
2007-10-17 09:19:19 · answer #8 · answered by Lover of Blue 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You still want to sleep with him after finding out that nasty information? And because you find him attractive? Are you kidding? You don't even know the guy!!! Why would you give the most special thing in the whole world to a "so-called" man you don't even know. You are gong to find yourself either very hurt or dead in the end, DON'T DO IT.
2007-10-17 09:20:59 · answer #9 · answered by Tivo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should make love with someone you could at least kinda sorta see yourself with, or you could just have sex with him because he's hot if you want to have sex that badly, but do you really want do it for your first time with someone who you might soon not even talk to anymore? i mean if he's a bastard he's probably in it for the sex, and what if you get pregnant? he would probably leave but i don't know him, so i can't really talk. OK bottom line: you should just plain have sex with him or heck, just get a toy
2007-10-17 09:26:48 · answer #10 · answered by Ladiiღ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont understand why you want to do it with him if you know he is a bastard but if you really really want to then i think you should just have sex with him and take it from there, see how you feel about him after doing it for the first time.I hope he,s gentle with you since its your first time!!!!!!
2007-10-17 09:21:33 · answer #11 · answered by ♥ vanilla ish tha killah! ♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋