My daughter is almost 7 weeks old and has been sleeping in the same bed with me and my husband. In a few months my husband is going to deploy and be gone for over a year. I know during this time my daughter will sleep with me. I was just wondering if it would be a waste of time to try and make her sleep in her crib during the next couple months. Yes I do know I should have made her sleep in her crib to start out with. I tried the bassinet and she hated it. Also I am breast feeding and it is easier to have her right next to me. I also have to be up by 0430 to be at work by 0630.
2007-10-17 09:04:26 · 13 answers · asked by arwensilverwind 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Yes this is my first child. Yes I know about the potential problems. I am an extremely light sleeper. I am a borderline insomniac.
2007-10-17 09:16:57 · update #1
Ah, the truth about where babies really sleep!
We're accidental co-sleepers ourselves. At first, we said it was just because our bedroom was the only one with air conditioning, because we couldn't possibly wedge a crib or cradle into our room for our little guy ... and so on.
But you know what? We love having our little guy in our bed. If you've figured out how to make it safe - getting rid of fluffy pillows and making sure there's no gap that could trap her little limbs - you might as well keep her there. Everyone gets more sleep, and I'm convinced that it is part of the reason our kiddo is so secure.
And as I admit our sleeping arrangement more and more, turns out that there are tons of co-sleepers out there.
Having a parent away is tough, even for kids too small to articulate the change. If this makes it easier for you and your little one, keep her in bed with you. You're not alone, in more ways than one. ;)
2007-10-17 09:25:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
You should do whatever feels comfortable for you and your daughter. Humans are the only parents who do not sleep with their newborns and when you're breast feeding it's immensely helpful. Just be careful that she has her own blankets, etc. and you don't have pillows all over the bed. Put up a side rail where your husband usually sleeps and make sure to continue important safety precautions as she grows. Once my babies reached about 6 months old I moved the crib right up to the bed (tightly and with the legs locked) and started slowly transitioning them into the crib and eventually into their own rooms. Remember, all children are different so be flexible and always practice safety.
2007-10-17 09:14:15 · answer #2 · answered by slave2art 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I loved co sleeping and as long as your doing it safely and your husband doesn't mind I would continue this way. I quit co sleeping at 2 1/2 months do to my husband wanting back into our bed (we don't sleep well with all 3 of us in there) but I would still sleep with her if it was possible. If your need time with your husband alone in your bed before he leaves I'd train her to sleep in her crib but if you are all happy just keep here near.
2007-10-17 09:18:23 · answer #3 · answered by lovelylady 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you might as well keep her with you. it makes it easier, i know that people say that it wouldnt be safe. as a mother who has done this before it was fine with me because i am such a light sleeper. i will share with you though that it will be harder for her to sleep away from you when you do want her to sleep in her crib. it took me about 4 month for my oldest boy to be able to sleep in his crib all night without me. it is much easier, but more tireding to ave her sleep in her crib. it will save you so much time and effort later on down the road. good luck
2007-10-17 09:10:34 · answer #4 · answered by Kristi P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have a 4month old boy its my 3rd child. my 2 boys hated the cot so i left them sleep with me in the bed. i didnt breast feed them. if i was you i would leave her with you but if you wanted just try and put her in the crib after feeding her and see what way she goes. they dont stay babies for long. i know people will tell you to put her in the crib but its your baby and you do what you want with her., espically when you husband will be away she will be a compfort to you. is this you first child.
2007-10-17 09:10:53 · answer #5 · answered by flower 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
YES! you dont want her to start getting used to sleeping with both of you. my baby hated his bassinet also but now hes in his crib.
2007-10-17 09:07:35 · answer #6 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi
I think co sleeping is quite dangerous due to the baby falling off the bed and suffocation - I would put them in a moses basket or something similar right by the bed so in the night you can lift the baby out, feed and them put back in without having to get out of bed much. If you get your baby used to sleeping in their own bed now Ii think it makes it easier when the baby grows up.
2007-10-17 09:10:50 · answer #7 · answered by lil_louus 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I found it was easiest to co sleep and nurse until about 3 months.
If you want to try her in a crib, only put her there for naps, or when you're cleaning in her room. Then work her into it at night.
2007-10-17 09:08:10 · answer #8 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Could you not put her crib in your room? As you're aware it's not a good idea to have her in your bed. Remember, it might be eisier for YOU but it's going to be really hard on her when you do put her in her own bed. The older she gets the harder it's going to be on both or you when that time comes!
Good luck and God bless!
2007-10-17 09:11:20 · answer #9 · answered by Lakin J 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
its best to have her in the crib from start to finish....if you dont it will spoil her and then you will have a 10 year old wanting to sleep in between you and ur husband....im not judging...my son sleeps with me at times...but only when he wakes up in early morning and im getting up in a few hours...she has to get used to her own bed...
2007-10-17 09:09:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋