I am 24 of age.I have been with her for 3 years . I know my girlfriend's family dislike me because i am not rich.I tried to proof myself can give a good life for my girlfriend.I own an IT company since last year.Just a small bussiness.I start work at age of 19 untill now.But her family still says the same things.Because i not as rich as them.But i already try my best to achieve a stabil life.Lately i found some problem between me and her.We broke because of their family.I am shame to find her again.And the words that spoken by her family is really hurt my feeling.She never find me again and i don't want to spoil her with her family relations.Maybe i am poor but all i have today is built by my own hand.there is no i should blame.I just wish to forget her as soon as possible , but its really hard to do that .Any expert out there could give a hand on how to forget someone you love the most?
2007-10-17 07:57:53 · 12 answers · asked by superdupaa 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Sorry for bad english,I am no from US or UK.You can speak mandarin , japanese , korean and contonese with me.It is not that simple.the way they talk is all about money.Eventhough i am 18 years old but i am holding million of dollars , they will cheer up their face to me.I can ignored her family but my girlfriend can't do it.And i don't want her to lose her family just because of me.I know i should forget her , but how?
2007-10-17 08:33:00 · update #1
You just hurt for a while, then you find someone else. It's really that simple. Work on your company for a while, until you are ready for someone new.
To hell with her and her parents all. There have been several "people I love most" in my life and today I don't miss a single one of them. Seems to hurt worse when you're young but you will be fine.
2007-10-17 08:14:11 · answer #1 · answered by steve.c_50 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the Western world, we would say that a couple that was not married after 3 years, that there must be a problem there somewhere. We would expect the lady to choose her man regardless of what the parents thought. They would want the best for her. But if you are sure that they are being unreasonable then it comes down to a culture thing. If in your culture, a lady does not disappoint her parents or contradict them, then your chances do not look promising. It may take a while but one can learn to love again.
2007-10-17 09:22:10 · answer #2 · answered by anteater 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure they realize that money does not make a relationship. If you're working your hardest, you love what you do-- don't let their sucess get you down. It's all good.
I'm really sorry that you think they dislike you because of your money situation, but as for forgeting smeone you love the most-- I'm pretty sure that's impossible. The only thing to do is focus on other things. Try golfing...
2007-10-17 08:12:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can honestly say I've been there. I've been with my guy for 7 years and his family still sees me as poor white trash, even though I put myself through school, got a really job, and just bought a new car, they still see me as that white trash girl who came from the trailer park. Its really hard to overcome that sterotype especially to well-to-do families and you live in a small town in the South. I finally just had to realize that a). I'm not dating his family b). I don't have to talk to them or deal with them.
He still visits with them, does holidays, but I just don't participate and I tell you what..it has been the most stress free 2 years of my life! Good luck in whatever you decide to do!
2007-10-17 08:05:15 · answer #4 · answered by Starry Pluto ॐ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need manners.
Don't just go in and be rude and all. You need to prove that you are a polite gentleman. Her family is just worried that you might force her down into the alleyway. You must be very hardworking and honest.
If this does not work they are bigotted dumb ****s. Ignore them, unless they have a gun.
2007-10-17 08:09:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You never forget the person you've loved the most. Don't try to forget, try to move on. Is money the only problem you two had? My parents treat all of my boyfriends like dirt because they didn't have money. Phooey on them! I dated who I liked and didn't listen to them. If your ex-girl isn't gracious enough to love you irregardless of your money, she didn't deserve you. Put your energy into your company and moving on...get out and date.
2007-10-17 08:03:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If her family's ignorance was the leading reason for you guys braking up then you should try and find her, don't forget her if there's still a chance
2007-10-21 11:30:23 · answer #7 · answered by Undead 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is difficult to let go and it is going to take quite a while to feel better. Give it time. Meet other people. With her family like that, it may have been difficult to make it work. You wouldn't want to be involved with people like that.
2007-10-21 08:50:10 · answer #8 · answered by Simmi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They will come around so try to not get too upset but that must be hard on you but rise above them and prove them wrong
2007-10-17 08:13:00 · answer #9 · answered by Gypsy Gal 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever given it a thought that maybe her parents are worried that their daughter is going out with a 24 year old man who can't talk nor spell for s**t! Might not be the money son, but it might be education. Go back to school and learn proper grammar, maybe that'll impress them!
2007-10-17 08:03:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋