2007-10-17 06:18:18 · 18 answers · asked by kleptomanic sheep 5 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
glitterball - yeah i thought i knew the answer. but it's nice to see what the rest o fthe world thinks, isnt it? :-P
2007-10-17 07:38:12 · update #1
I have come across many people who choose to live life as a victim. I guess it's easier because they wont have to try and fail in life and take responsibility for their failures. They can blame a host of other things. Unfortunately they cannot learn from their failures either, because they wont own them.
2007-10-17 08:18:25 · answer #1 · answered by DesignDiva1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you can become addicted to misery, not in the strictest sense of the word addiction. But I think it easily becomes a habitual state of mind.
It seems like the world is far more negative and miserable than positive and happy. When you have a negative frame of mid you only seem to notice all the miserable negative things. You don't notice the other stuff.
Everyone feels miserable some times... there is nothing wrong with it. You need to allow yourself to FEEL miserable if that is how you feel. BUT don't wallow in it or go in for the woe-is-me self pity thing.
Don't allow the misery to prevent you from "getting on" with things. Accept you feel miserable, but decide to go ahead and DO things regardless. You may then find you are less miserable for having done things.
Set yourself some small achievable goals. That way you can feel positive and good about yourself and what you have managed to do.
Its pointless to sit about analysing WHY you feel miserable. You don't need to understand why you feel like that before you can change it. Even if you did ever find a "reason" for feeling miserable I am pretty sure you'd just use it as an "excuse" to carry on feeling that way!
Why you're miserable doesn't matter. Accept that you ARE and do things anyway.
Best of luck.
- Regards.
2007-10-17 14:59:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely, I have a relative whos quite elderly and I do not exaggerate when I say that when we do talk on the phone she is constantly complaining about any new illness she has. Now I am a caring very sympathetic person but unfortunately as is often the case you cannot help someone unless they want to help themselves in this case she is addicted to misery and as a result employs the ethos thast misery likes company.
2007-10-17 13:30:59 · answer #3 · answered by Kingdiana Jones 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is another form of depression and some people are very addicted as it draws attention to them or they just enjoy being plain miserable not to mention making other people feel the same. Some just find it more easy to be pessimistic and down rather than possitive and happy.
2007-10-17 13:31:32 · answer #4 · answered by momof3 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nick Cave and Leonard Cohen have made substantial careers out of it, Radiohead are doing nicely going down that road as well.
2007-10-17 13:31:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. At least I know some people who seem to have their fingers on the emotional self destruct button most of their lives!
2007-10-17 13:21:45 · answer #6 · answered by Avondrow 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think a person can get in the habit of looking on the black side of life instead of smiling more
2007-10-17 13:26:40 · answer #7 · answered by Sally Anne 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I've got it on DVD but I've only watched it twice in the space of 2 years.
2007-10-17 13:21:55 · answer #8 · answered by Shiv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is. You can suffer from melancholy a mild form of depression where you quite enjoy sadness....
2007-10-17 13:21:06 · answer #9 · answered by McCanns are guilty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, there are people like that. I think they were raised in such a way that it seems natural for them.
2007-10-21 15:54:01 · answer #10 · answered by Simmi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋