im really quiet in class...so wouldnt it be weird if all of a sudden i start talking in class....
i feel invisible most times...i really want to make friends, but most times i feel shy and dont know wat to say or how to start conversing....
and keeping a conversation going
isnt it not normal that i didnt even make friends yet when a month has already passed of school? i dont want it to be like this for the rest of the year :'(
2007-10-17 06:13:59 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
asside from being quiet?... are you that nerdy type? anyway, try to make friends, maybe some of your classmates want you to be their friends but bec. you're so quiet they cant figure out how to approach you. Be approachable and accommodating in some manners. Start smiling to others and greet just a simple HI.... let them feel that they are welcome, and maybe try to do the first move. I know you can do it, just dont be afraid. God bless.
2007-10-17 06:24:27 · answer #1 · answered by lheng:) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you feel invisible than it wouldnt be all that weird if you started speaking up...after all if you make the effort things could either only get better or stay the same. but try putting yourself out there. speak up and say hi to people, join a sport or an after school program but importantly dont worry about what others think. live your life for you not by what others tell you to do. school is fun so enjoy it . and being new has advantages you can talk about where you use to live and how different things are. you'll make friends just put yourself out there even though its hard and awkward but you have to put forth some effort and try. and dont let one shut down affect you... and fit into the crowd that suits you and your personality.
2007-10-17 13:19:16 · answer #2 · answered by Aimee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was the same way in classes where I didnt have my friends with me because im really shy but I started meeting a lot of new people when I joined sports and got put together in group projects with people in classes.
A month isnt that long, so give it some time. Going to a new school is hard.
2007-10-17 13:24:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well. What i would do is join some after school clubs or clubs at break or lunch time so you not alone at break or lunch time. Make sure its a club you are interested in, that way you can make friends with the same interests as you.
If people look at you smile at them like a nice smile but not a sarcastic one.
Try to get more involved.!
But there is one advantage to not having any friends, is that, you wont talk to much in class and your'll get on with your work more with getting into trouble.
and no thats not a good impression bieng quiet then turn loud lol...
But you could start conversing by saying like. i dunno ask the person next to you like for a sharpner to sharpen your pencil or just ask what the time is, then you could be like. right so your name is ______ . Then you could say what do you do at breaktimes.
And hopefully the conversation continues.
well i hope i helped .x.x.
2007-10-17 13:22:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I felt just like that when I was in high school. It took me clear until I went to college to figure out what it meant to be social and not be afraid anymore.
My biggest piece of advice is to just be yourself. I know that sounds silly, but its so true. The harder you try to fit in, the less and less you will be you and people will mark you as a flake because you will always be changing your mind and going along with them. Find something that is going on at school, something big that everyone is interested in and start asking a couple of questions to someone you want to be friends with. Most people are pretty open and love to talk and meet new people.
If you want to talk in class, talk in class. There is no better way for people to notice you. If you are quiet and reserved then they are just going to think you don't care and would rather be alone. Make an effort to be noticed. Like talking in class, etc...
Find a group that you would be comfortable with, drama, sports, "nerds" or whatever and then start to talk to them. don't push yourself on them though. Just be casual, and don't act nervous. Let them know you have confidence.
2007-10-17 13:24:10 · answer #5 · answered by mamaof2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to put yourself out there. If you act all withdrawn then people assume you don't want to be bothered. So you're going to have to open up a bit and talk to people. You'll be surprised how easy it is to get to know new people when you start to communicate with others. I'm the type of person that will talk to anyone. So when I came to college I met so many new people and some of them became friends for life.
2007-10-17 13:16:51 · answer #6 · answered by Spirited Virgo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So maybe its time to join up with a club or organization. Pick something you like and look around for a group. Most schools have things like chior, band, chess club, ski club, all kinds. Once in you have something in common and will start to meet new friends.
2007-10-17 13:17:59 · answer #7 · answered by elaeblue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was very shy in school as well. I finally started doing things like joining after-school clubs (AVA, FTA, Biology), taking part in school plays (BEHIND the stage -- too afraid to go in front!), volunteering at the library, etc.
Once you start to reach out just a bit, you can usually make friends from that.
2007-10-17 13:17:48 · answer #8 · answered by Yahzmin ♥♥ 4ever 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'd be suprised at how much people are willing to accept a change in you. Talk. People prefer it. Trust me. And join a club or 5. It is the #1 best way to meet people.
2007-10-21 13:22:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
By now you should know what kind of people are around you. You should try and talk to the people who you think are nice. Ask people questions like what they like to do when they aren't at school. Find out their interests and go from there.
2007-10-17 13:19:24 · answer #10 · answered by Lyndee J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋