how can i handle a high tempered person as iam very cool and soft?

Answer 1

Two ways;
Leave. That's right. Don't even waste your time.

Give only the slightest attention. Don't get into an argument. When he realizes he is fighting alone, he stops.

This kind takes himself too seriously and sees everything as important and as a personal assault.

C. :)!!

Answer 2

You really cannot control how someone else will react, you can only control how you will react.

Think before you act or worse, before you react. Many of us can easily predict how someone else will react to what you do or what you say. Because this high tempered person's reactions are so transparent... you must adust your actions to make them react in a way which benefits you. High tempered people often need a target to vent frustration at... give them a target, just make sure it is you, who is not the target.
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If all else fails... get out of the relationship and find someone else that is closer to your own personality.

Sun Tzu; Bing Fa (The Art of War)—"The ruler cannot mobilize the army out of personal anger. The general cannot engage in battle because of personal frustration. When it is advantageous, move; when not advantageous, stop. Anger can revert to happiness, annoyance can revert to joy, but the vanquished state cannot be revived, the dead cannot be brought back to life."

Answer 3

I'm not sure if this is dealing with a high tempered person as a coworker, friend, boy friend/girl friend or husband or wife?
Each require their own. There is really no handling a high tempered person, as someone that is high tempered can not even control themselves.
First question to ask is does this person realize they are high tempered and need to take their behavior down a notch? If they are unaware of how they are coming across let them know that's how they are being viewed, if somewhat sensible they might come to an understanding and tone down their behavior. If their temper has caused problems with the authorities and others they should be aware of it and should probably not be confronted unless you want the ensuing outburst.
Second question is does this person need to be in my life?
At work you don't have a choice in that you will always deal with high tempered people, but there are boundaries on people's behavior in a work place environment and if you notice someone being out of control, you need to document and to talk to your supervisor as your work place is required to keep employee safety paramount. If this person is a boy friend or girl friend whose temper has resulted in threats or bodily injuries you handle them by shutting them out of your life regardless of whether you "love" them or not; because love isn't a one way street and if all your getting in return is run over, run and run fast. If this person is a friend of yours evaluate the reason to have him in your life. What are you receiving from their friendship, fun times or at times being fearful of them or just plain embarrassed to be seen with them?
The only person who can control their temper is themselves and no one can make this person change if they are unwilling to do so. If you feal fearful for your own safety when you are around this individual or are subject to their abusive behavior this is a person you need to stay away from at all costs.
If you can talk to them with the certainty that by telling them how they are coming across to you and others without placing your own being at risk, do so perhaps nobody else ever has and they need to know that for their own good so they can form honest friendships. If not, there is not one conceivable reason that you need to surround yourself with such a person until they do something to change their behavior.

Answer 4

It depends at times i'm a short tempered person when I've been through stress all day, but then again i play it cool not to upset anyone.

Answer 5

First thing is to accept that people are very different----also, that you can't control what people do.
Some people seem emotional about everything, but they are actually just expressing their thoughts, and are calm inside.
A lot of this is genetics, heritage, personality, or some other pressure on them that they just can't control.
Best way to "deal" is to concentrate on yourself, and what you're doing. Observe the other person, but don't react to them---react only to your OWN true feelings and thoughts.
Anything else is a waste of your emotions and energy.
You cannot change people.

Answer 6

Here's what I do.....

I just sit back and listen to those people rant and rave.... separate real issues from his/her emotions.... and realize, the actual problem is very small. Then go solve it.

That drives them NUTS too...

Answer 7

By ignoring what is spit by that person if it is feasible!

Answer 8

Run.