I am a father of a boy (1 year and 2 months). And in my opinion there is no way that my wife, the mother of my baby whom is a wonderful mother, the best he could have ever had, is a better parent than I am.
I love my son, I could not live with out him and it is painful when I hear people saying that Mothers are more important.
2007-10-17 02:31:35 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Yes, that's untrue. My daughter gives me hell all day, but as soon as her daddy comes home from work she's a little angel. She adores him. She always has smiles when he's around.
I'm not saying she prefers him, but loves him just as much as me!
2007-10-17 02:37:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I believe that fathers are incredibly important... my husband is absolutely wonderful!!
I also believe that for the first year - the mother is more important because of her ability to properly feed the baby. Formula is 2nd best and unless you plan on lactating, I think it is the mother who is the most important for a baby.
But after breastfeeding is over... sure, it does not matter if it is the mother, father, grandparent, other relative, friend, legal guardian... at that point what matter is how they're loved and treated as they're growing up.
I'm not saying that you love your kids less than your wife or that she plays with them better or anything like that... I just think that babies need breastmilk from their moms. It's how humans have survived all these years.
Sounds like you feel some competition with your wife... or something - I've never known a man to say that there is no way his wife "could ever be a better parent than I am" - sounds like a different issue than parenting to me.
2007-10-17 02:52:59 · answer #2 · answered by Tanya 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I think they just mean that mothers have a different kind of bond with their children - having been the ones that carried them afterall. I can't believe you said that about your wife. I do believe that there is no way my husband could love my son the way that I do because I carried him and it's just not the same, that's not to say he loves him any less but I do believe he loves him differently. For instance when my baby cries it makes me feel sick and I can feel it in my stomach and often it makes me cry too, my husband does not feel that. I would never say that I am a better parent than him though as we both put our son before anyone or anything else.
2007-10-17 04:19:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
No in a double parent home each parent is equally important, i believe the child views it this way as well my 19 month old has his moomy days and daddy days...so sometimes the child seems to favor one parent but this next day it could be opposite. He learns equally from the both of you and if you both share responsibility you share importance, i would be devasted if someone told me i was more important thatn my husband.....i love sharing the responsibility. However in single parent homes they can do it on there own and the child will still be loved and cared for equally to a child in a double parent home.
2007-10-17 02:48:45 · answer #4 · answered by missyW 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think this culture has demeaned men enough..Look at any commercial, and they make men out to be idiots..Most sitcoms do the same..Big fat guy, gorgeous wife who puts up with him...
So, I read in some book a long time ago that children will most likely tend toward their father's behavior, that is, to imitate it and grow up to be like him, whether they want to or not..Father's are critical, but, so are mothers..I think we all know how important the mother role is, but it's sad to see the father's being demeaned. j
You and your wife are both different, not better or worse..Through the years, you will have to meld and figure out your parenting style...This will happen naturally...
2007-10-17 02:47:16 · answer #5 · answered by Momto8gr8 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thats great that your child has such a great dad. But when people are talking about mothers are more important than fathers, they are talking about fathers NOT like you. There are a lot of fathers out there that aren't that involved with their children. Even if they live in the same house. They dont fix thier boo boos or make them breakfast. Dont take it personally, they are not talking about you.
2007-10-17 02:49:04 · answer #6 · answered by screw the rules 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
How could you say you are a better parent then your wife? What a terrible feeling to put someone under you.
No parrent is the better parent, babies/kids need both in there lives.
2007-10-17 03:02:09 · answer #7 · answered by Kristy Lynn 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Whats most important is a loving mother & father in a child's life. If one wasn't important there wouldn't be a name for them!
2007-10-17 02:42:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
I think both parents are very important and as a parent you must realize your child is going to favor one parent over the other for different issues. This does not mean the child needs one parent more or loves one parent more. They just learn who satisfies their needs better.
For instance, if my son is tired, hungry, or gets hurt it is me he wants. If he is scared, wants to play, or needs a toy fixed he goes to my husband.
2007-10-17 03:11:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
A loving parent regardless of gender is the most important thing to a child .
2007-10-17 02:36:33 · answer #10 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
People who say that are ignorant.
What's important - a loving parent. Mother/father...doesn't matter.
2007-10-17 02:34:49 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋