do i have to give him one or can i be forced by law?
2007-10-17 02:07:32 · 29 answers · asked by pollbee 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just give it to him.
2007-10-17 02:26:52 · answer #1 · answered by Tony S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the above, why would you want to stay married?
Apart from the legal side your not actually married anymore, at least not in the eyes of most people.
You can't hang onto the past just for the sake of emotional ties or wanting revenge for a bad split.
All that will happen is you'll both spend a fortune on Solicitors and be no better off, don't waste another year of your life clinging onto something that doesn't really exist.
Don't see this as giving him what HE wants, think of it as you gaining your freedom, be fair with your requests for money or items that have to be decided on and he'll be fair with you regardless on how bitter you both feel.
Don't under any circumstances end up battling and fighting over bits and pieces, the odd hundred pounds, who gave each other what, etc, it will just take over your life and make you even more bitter.
How much better it is to clear it up quickly, as pleasant and as quickly as possible, it'll make YOU feel so much better in the long run.
Remember, the only people who will gain out of a court battle will be the Solicitors, go down that road and you will seriously regret it.
2007-10-17 09:20:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the United States there is no law that "forces" you to stay married. If you challenged the divorce, you would have to show cause why you are challenging it, and it would have to be regarding property settlements or financials. If he wants to get a divorce, all he has to do is let you know and file the papers, and eventually it will happen.
2007-10-17 09:15:47 · answer #3 · answered by vaughnc5920 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He can go and get divorced without your permission or anything. Yes you can be forced by law. Having not lived together for that long the court will award the divorce.
2007-10-17 09:23:55 · answer #4 · answered by elaeblue 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, why would you refuse the poor guy a divorce?
7 years is a long time, shouldn't he be able to remarry if he wants to?
It would seem to me that he is just being correct with you, as after 5 years of not living under the same roof he could I believe just get the divorce whether you agree or not!
Why would you want to drag it on???
It's high time you let go. xx
2007-10-17 11:27:39 · answer #5 · answered by Kc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he is ready to move on, therefore the divorce. Why would you want to stay married to him? If it was me, I would give him the divorce and move on with your life. I'm sorry to say that your marriage is over... he's moving on and you need to do the same. On a good note, with a divorce, you will have no "ties" and be free to be with a man (if you choose) that will make you happy and give you the love you deserve.
2007-10-17 09:16:21 · answer #6 · answered by bugggs 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why would you not want to give him the divorce? that doesn't really make sense.....you 2 have not been husband and wife for 7 years why not just make it final so you 2 can move on...I would give him the divorce what are you holding on to?
2007-10-17 09:18:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there is a law that can force you to "sign" the divorce papers. This law may also vary from one country to another.
Why not sign?
I personally think 7 years is long enough...i doubt you will reconcile ....give the man his freedom!
Good Luck!
2007-10-17 09:14:28 · answer #8 · answered by myth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you got married in and live in either the Philippines or Malta, if your husband wants a divorce, there is absolutely nothing you can do to stop him from getting it.
The divorce will happen, you can only slow down the inevitable.
Stop acting like an immature brat and get it over with.
2007-10-17 09:18:14 · answer #9 · answered by Chilly Willy 1 · 4⤊ 1⤋
There are two sides to the answer.
ONE: Give him the divorce and be done with the 'marital' state.
TWO: Don't give him one, he goes out and racks up $200,000 in credit card debt then dies the next day from the excess of booze, hookers and gambling. Guess who gets to pay that off?
you have a choice. Choose wisely.
2007-10-17 09:19:05 · answer #10 · answered by hexeliebe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Divorce can proceed even if one of the parties is not agreeable to it. You are separated for seven years now, why do you want to stay married?
Be honest with yourself - is it revenge, do you want to work things out, is it the emotional turmoil? Seek therapy and try to open up to your husband as to why you want to stay married.
Good luck.
2007-10-17 09:12:55 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋