me and my husband were arguing and he was upset(mad) so he said the word divorce. does that make it valid. he came back late that night and said he was sorry and didnt want a divorce and we talked about it. so was it done right on his part ,did it ever take place was it right on his part.
2007-10-17 02:00:36 · 12 answers · asked by thameenah@verizon.net 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i am a muslim sister married thru islam
2007-10-17 02:43:34 · update #1
seriously? if divorce was that easy we wouldn't have family law attorneys
2007-10-17 02:02:59 · answer #1 · answered by cutie420311 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Was your marriage legal? If so then the divorce has to go through the legal process also. You can say any word and it does not make it valid. His feelings may have been valid though. Fighting sucks and there is no winners generally speaking when it is two people who are supposed to be on the same side as each other that are fighting.
People say way more than they mean to when they are fighting sometimes but it still does not make it so. When you two have calmed down, you should talk to him about your feelings and you should ask about his and then listen to him. Make sure he listens also....
You are not divorced without a judge saying so if the marriage truly is valid.
2007-10-17 09:30:01 · answer #2 · answered by scsspace 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are you talking about?
There is only one way to get a divorce in almost every country on Earth and that is IN COURT.
What you two say in arguments regarding divorce, is irrelevant.
No country allows you to just utter the words "divorce" and have it binding. All countries that allow for divorce, have a legal procedure that must be followed.
Your husband can stand on top of Mt. Everest and scream at the top of his lungs, "I want a divorce!" and it will mean absolutely nothing - although it could cause an avalanche.
2007-10-17 09:06:41 · answer #3 · answered by Chilly Willy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all get mad and angry and the word divorce comes out in most people. Relax will you? He said he was sorry and didn't want a divorce. I think you are being just a bit over-zealous here. Work on your marriage and things should be fine. (smile)
2007-10-17 09:11:33 · answer #4 · answered by Fergy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A divorce is a legal process involving the courts. Just because he said the word doesn't mean you are divorced.
2007-10-17 09:03:41 · answer #5 · answered by deadprincessnow 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Even in Islam a husband needs to say it thrice. Naturally it is not valid. As fa your husband"s behavior, it can not be supported by anybody. If he is angry can resolve the problem in any way. Why to go to such extent as to talk of divorce. You can explain to him that he should not come to that.
2007-10-17 09:08:33 · answer #6 · answered by ashok 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure I understood your question ... but in the U.S., divorce is a long legal process. It does not happen when someone mentions the word in an argument.
2007-10-17 09:04:12 · answer #7 · answered by Bentley 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him if he ever threatens you with that word again the you will go get a divorce if some one loves you they should not threaten you with a divorce if he gets mad that is just childish....
2007-10-17 09:14:31 · answer #8 · answered by bcokinos88 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
According to American Law, you do not have a divorce. I do not know if you or he are citizens.
2007-10-17 13:59:07 · answer #9 · answered by peggy m 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well that depends on how the legal system you live under handles divorce.
Of course if no one other than you two know of it you could just not bother telling anyone about it.
2007-10-17 09:03:45 · answer #10 · answered by bestonnet_00 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋