Do working people feel that a stay at home mom is a real job?

Question

We take care of kids, housework, shopping for the family, cooking and the list goes on...... People often roll their eyes at the though that we have a real job..

Answer 1

Ah, this is a NO WIN posting ...

But from the PERSPECTIVE of this Long Term Single Parent (Female) who HAD to work to PROVIDE for HER Children's needs (and yes, I was the ONLY income supporting my two Disabled Children from a Short Disaster of a Marriage ... that was the reason that they had a Roof over their Heads, food in their stomachs, caring parent concerned about them .. clothes and everything they needed INCLUDING my EARNED Medical benefits for their care too) ...

I, TOO, CARED for MY Children, did the Housework myself (had to), did ALL The Shopping for the Family, did the COOKING for the family (can't eat out .. couldn't afford it), helped them comprehend their homework, tended them when they were ill, SHOWED them how to live life by working hard (and honestly), taught them by EXAMPLE the moral code (which as selfish young adults, the Adult Child Rejected), was the PARENT who helped with their Scouts (and other events ... including school -- volunteering even when those 'stay-at-home' types verbally abused me and looked down their noses at me because I WAS a Long Term Single Parent (and ... also Military at the same time)), and yes, even made sure that they received care for their disabilities and anything else they needed in this life.

I've seen too many 'stay-at-home' types ROLL Their EYES at the Long Term Single Parent .. the 'holier than thou' attitudes, the verbal abuse (and cutting remarks), and the demands (oh so frequent ... when a Single Parent is EXHAUSTED at the end of the day ... is it just too much for those 'stay-at-home' types to NOT make any more "demands" (and I've had these 'demand' I watch their children as soon as I got home with my own .. and a car-full of groceries awaiting unloading too).

Answer 2

Hello D, I have worked until i can know longer work because i am disable now. You are not given the stay home mom any reason why they should go to work. A stay home mom does a lot more than you reliaze. She keeps the home inorder,does everyones laundry,shops for everyone,cooks dinner and does the clean up. Gives the dog a bath and clips the dogs toenails.Takes the dog to the vet for yearly check-up and booster shots. Go's to the dry cleaner to pick hubby suits..The list go's on. Just how much do you think you would have to pay someone to do what mom does??? You would have to pay a lot,Specially if something happen to mom. So think about this before you go after stay home moms. Stay home moms are the ones who keeps the family together. Think first!!! A Friend. Clowmy

Answer 3

I have done both. I was a SAHM for the past seven years and just recently went back to work, since my husband and I are pending a divorce. Yes, a SAHM is a real job and then some. The only thing tougher, is being a single mom.

If a SAHM were paid for all the work she does, her annual salary, including overtime pay would be $163,853 (Canadian). The figure is based on current market wages and a 100 hour work week, consisting of six 15 hour days and one 10 hour day. Among the responsibilities of a SAHM are those of a day care worker, teacher, driver, house keeper, cook, nurse and general maintenance worker. Definitely a REAL JOB that too many people underestimate.

Answer 4

I think the answer is whether or not working people feel a stay at home mom is a real job, not what a hard life ( and sorry for your hard life) you have...

Yes being a stay at home mom is in fact a real job....we personally have not experienced that yet but let me tell you I have friends who do so and ya they work their butt off....you really dont have much down time from the time they are up to the time they are asleep....it is a 24/7 job...i give all the respect to anyone stay at home mom/dad who is fortunate to do so.....

Answer 5

Another stay at home Mom mailed this to me earlier in the week. I think it is very appropriate here.


--What Do You Do All Day?

A man came home from work and found his three
Children outside, still in
Their pajamas, playing in the mud, with empty food
Boxes and wrappers strewn
All around the front yard.

The door of his wife's car was open, as was the
Front door to the house and
There was no sign of the dog. Proceeding into the
Entry, he found an even
Bigger mess. A lamp had been knocked over, and the
Throw rug was wadded
Against one wall.

In the front room the TV was loudly blaring a
Cartoon channel, and the
Family room was strewn with toys and various items
Of clothing.
In the kitchen, dishes filled the sink, breakfast
Food was spilled on the
Counter, the fridge door was open wide, dog food was
Spilled on the floor, a
Broken glass lay under the table, and a small pile
Of sand was spread by the
Back door.

He quickly headed up the stairs, stepping over toys
And more piles of
Clothes, looking for his wife. He was worried she
Might be ill, or that
Something serious had happened.

He was met with a small trickle of water as it made
Its way out the bathroom
Door. As he peered inside he found wet towels,
Scummy soap and more toys
Strewn over the floor. Miles of toilet paper lay in
A heap and toothpaste
Had been smeared over the mirror and walls.

As he rushed to the bedroom, he found his wife still
Curled up in the bed in
Her pajamas, reading a novel. She looked up at him,
Smiled, and asked how
His day went.


He looked at her bewildered and asked,

"What Happened here today?"


She again smiled and answered, "You know every day
When you come home from
Work and you ask me what in the world I do all day?"

"Yes," was his incredulous reply.

She answered, "Well, today I didn't do it."



Smile and have a nice day!
Peace.

Answer 6

my ex was a stay at home mom. half the time she wouldn't cook dinner, the house is cleaner now than anytime she ever lived there, when she went shopping she shopped just for herself and would always spend twice what i told her we could afford, and complained about what little she would do around the house, unless it involved her spending my money... so if i had to base it on that, then heck no!! it's not a real job. it's a lazy slacker!! but if someone does do what you say plus more, then yes! it is a real job.

Answer 7

Not only is it a "REAL" job, in my opinion it is one of the most important jobs. Unfortunatly it is also one fo the most thankless jobs, because very few people appreciate the amount of work they do.

I stayed at home with the kids for two weeks while my wife went to a bartending academy it was the hardest two weeks of my life, but I really enjoyed getting to spend time with my children.

I am happy to hear that you are able to stay at home with your children.

Answer 8

I am a stay at home mom, it feels like people who work looks
down on me, not that I care...
They probably think that we're too lazy to go get a job.
Being a mom, a wife, the cleaner, the cook, etc. 24/7, is the
toughest job.
It is better for our kids to be at home.
They get all the care and attention that they need.

Answer 9

I think being a stay at home Mom or Dad is a hard job, I do sometime wish I could srtay at home, but than there are those times it nice to get away to work.
MO

Answer 10

i do think it is a real job, i work all day and then come home to two kids (alone) i feel like i have 2 full time jobs, i give stay at home moms props cause there is alot that goes into raising kids! no one really understands!
if i could afford to stay at home with my kids i would....but they at least get to be with Grandma all day :)