I have a friend that I recently told I have feelings for her, my problem it was only 1 month after she ended a 5+ year relationship. Maybe too soon but I didn't want to date her then, she needs time to get over her ex. I told her this. A couple weeks later she started treating me bad. Then she started treating me bad in front of people. Her ex and I are friends and everytime we go go out and she sees us enjoying ourselves she yells and curses at me. She told me she hates me and we are no longer friends. I feel I did nothing wrong and feel she doesn't mean this it's just out of anger. I haven't spoke with her in 4 days. She doesn't answer the phone when I call. What can I do to show her that I care and I'm not the bad guy here? I told her many times that I'm not the bad guy. I'm thinking if I quit hanging out with my friend, her ex that we would get along but her ex has been a much better friend to me. I'm confused I just want to be the bad guy.
2007-10-17 00:26:47 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Things that her and her ex used to do together like movies and sporting events. Her ex asks me to go with him and when I go she tells me why can’t I get my own friends that this was their thing and I’m interrupting her time with him. She broke up with him. I don’t get it. I feel bad for her and want to help. She tells me she doesn’t care about me. I don’t believe her because every time she tells me that she is very angry. Example we had a big fight I said things I didn’t mean because I was mad and she said very hurtful things. She then called me that same night. It’s the same fight over and over again all about my relationship with her ex. I want all of us to stay friends. Her ex also tells me he had conversations with her about how she treats me. As her friend how can I make peace between the 3 of us?
2007-10-17 00:26:55 · update #1
They don't have kids together.
2007-10-17 00:51:58 · update #2
no making peace! get rid of the girl, she was obviously flirting with you while being your your friend! so 1. no loyalty! 2. wtf r u guys like 13. Grow up! hello women are ruthless! she sounds like a controlling, flirty, attention-Wh@re!
dump her, and hang with your buddy! or just pass her around like a piece pipe! that is what she wants....she didn't even let the sheets cool! hey in a few weeks you will be asking a question! why did my girlfriend cheat on me!
2007-10-17 00:34:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You, I like. She is certainly jealous of you. She's not with her ex, and you are being too nice. This is what you need to do.. It's plain as day that you can't be her friend or near future lover. Her actions towards you is selfish, mean and hurtful. Step back and watch her actions. Don't argue, people like that need and want that kind of drama in their lives. If you got with her, look at how she would be talking to you! Her ex, it seems, does not know of your feelings for her. Is there any way that you can tell him how you really felt towards the ex? Does she have kids by him? Seems apparently so. If this is the case, stay out of that 3 ring friendship! The best thing you've got going is your friendship. If it is compromising or making you have second thoughts, then find other friends. A true friend will understand and give you time. Oh, she seems to be upset that you two are having more fun than when they were together. Good Luck Family!
2007-10-17 00:48:51 · answer #2 · answered by Bobyi P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't, and you are allowing them to put you into the middle of their problems. Just tell them both that you don't want to get involved in their problems at all. Tell them that if they have anything to say about each other, keep it to themselves. You should never have jumped on the bandwagon when they split, if both were your friends. Dating your friend's ex is a no-no, especially not within the first couple of years.
2007-10-17 00:40:14 · answer #3 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try and bring them together with you in a restaurent or a park. No matter where, but it should be a place where you guys like 2 hang out. When you get together, let them know about the problems you are facing, ALL BECAUSE OF THE TWO.
Make it straight to them that you like both of them as a FRIEND.
When you share your problems with them, they might understand you and it might lead to a good result.
BUT,if one of them disagrres, then, you have no option but to leave that friend.
Because if they are true friends, they will understand you.
2007-10-17 01:04:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now that you came to know her character!!! so by now you know she is not loyal to you, just forget her, coz their r so many ppl whom you should b worried of... f she not good dont freak ..... 4 your good heart you will get better frinds!!!!! cheer up dude:)
2007-10-17 00:50:58 · answer #5 · answered by Andy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋