Live out in the country, we had an aurgument last night as he was playing games on computer, me in the sitting room like a single mum with our 2mth old baby.. i lot it and just went to bed, got up this morning told him to stay away and he packed all his stuff and is now gone.... My question is, is it a mans world... why can he just feck off and if i just feck off im a horrible woman who left her kids and hes a wonderful single dad??????? Why am i still here??? Gawd, im having a bad day!!!!!!!
2007-10-17 00:17:52 · 14 answers · asked by tasha200 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Im sure he ll be back, but then maybe i just wont be here.... thanks for comments, just had to get it out to someone, not family cause hell be back thats a fact.... I could do with a pint but well, have kids to look after so illl just get on with it like im supposed too.... arghhhhhhhh
2007-10-17 00:26:29 · update #1
Thats funny, i studied english and phonetics/liguistics for 4 yrs.. yahoo answers isnt the place for a thesis mate, i have more things to wory about than typing errors.... x
2007-10-17 00:29:13 · update #2
mkrkj- unfortunately we are both in our 30's.. doesnt say much does it.. on the brighter side i might enjoy having the house to myself for a while.. have wiped da tears away and gonna get on with it, bf or not.. thanx
2007-10-17 01:54:36 · update #3
I feel for you. Men really do have it easy. I have a 9 month old baby and the father decided he wasnt ready for a baby! (even though we planned it) Now he does what he wants when he wants while I'm at home alone. I love being with my baby but it does pee me off that he has got off scot free. He wants to see her when it suits him, ie when hes got nothing better to do and is bored.
2007-10-17 00:23:07 · answer #1 · answered by miss_ruby_topaz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry.
What I would do if I were in your situation is sit back and seriously think about this.
Do you love the guy?
Really love him not lust?
Does he treat you and the baby well?
Is he supportative?
Do you want to be with him?
What type of a future do you want for yourself and your baby?
Will you be willing to accept him EXACTLY how he is today?
This guy or any person is not ever going to change the way they are to suit you. You have to be compatable from the start. Promises to change, be better next time or I'll never do that again are empty promises. It will never happen.
If you are willing to accept things the way they are now and not complain and be upset about things - then I would try to find him and get him back.
If you want something better or different for yourself and your child - I would move on knowing it will be painful and difficult to raise a little one on your own. (I know I did it with 2 babies).
It has been done by many women (and men). You won't be the first and you definitely won't be the last!
I would file a claim at domestic relations immediately and begin the process to get aid to care for the baby. Many women choose not to do this and later kick themselves. They believed that the daddy would take care of us and would never do anything hurt you. That very well may be true but you should not take chances at all! (speaking from experience)
I wish you the best to decide what is best for you and the strength to carry it through.
2007-10-17 00:33:57 · answer #2 · answered by Barbia 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some people are just not cut out to be parents, they cannot handle the stress. I think you are well rid of him. He may miss the child, and miss you, and then you will be the one to call the shots. You get to be the wonderful single parent who didn't abandon her helpless baby, and he's the bone-lazy gobshite **** of a father who couldn't be bothered to look after his kid.
Get yourself a good solicitor, just to be on the safe side. However lousy he is as a Dad, as a father he is obliged to pay maintenance for his child.
2007-10-17 00:56:50 · answer #3 · answered by Orla C 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the problem is most men stay boys, and in to-days society not enough is done at home or in schools to show how important family life is, it's cool to be with your mates down at the pub, we get into partnerships or marriage to young I'd say 30 being a better age it's also a better age for children , i know i'v been there and got the t-shirt,
2007-10-17 01:49:37 · answer #4 · answered by b_bbhappy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh no!! I agree with you its not fair that a women gets labeled a bad mum if she leaves yet its just 'normal' for a dad to leave. its the same as a bloke's a stud for shagging loads of women but a woman is a slag if she does the same! It sucks and i don't kow why!!
I hope you and your chap work things out. x
2007-10-17 00:22:26 · answer #5 · answered by Kate O 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think ur lucky. Ur left with ur beautiful baby, ur good for nothing bf is out of ur life, ur baby has a fantastic mum and is better off without a crap dad it would be worse if ur kid was older and he left. All he will have in his life is wot if's and u will meet ur perfect partner and live the perfect life, good luck to you. x
2007-10-17 00:41:25 · answer #6 · answered by staytruebegood 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Relax Tasha ( used to have a girlfriend named Tasha ,well actually Natasha :)) , all will be well , everyone has disagreements he should be telephoning you any minute now , speak openly and freely with him , it is a little rough just having a baby for both of you , I wish you all the best , and keep smiling Sunshine !!!!
2007-10-17 00:24:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
men are scum bags aint they! they really dont understand how easy they have it!!!
i had a child with an asss, and thankfully he fecked of and we aint seen him for years, previous to that, i was always on edge, trying to please him.. untill i realised that i have to look out for me and my baby, enjoy my life with or without him.. i got strong, he went, and ive never been happier!!
im not saying that it would be best for you man to feck off, but for you to think of yourself, love your life as it is, with or without the man, he will join in with you or not.. be strong!
and let us no wot happens!!
2007-10-17 04:37:47 · answer #8 · answered by smartypants 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a terrible man who left his kids and you're a wonderful single mom. :)
2007-10-17 00:22:18 · answer #9 · answered by DelusionRoad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
things will be different when he calms down you say a lot of things in the heat of the moment it will be cool when the dust as settled
2007-10-17 00:26:36 · answer #10 · answered by dream theatre 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋