Most guys I fall for are JERKS, so why is it that the fist nice guy I fall for is bi but leans more to likeing guys?
2007-10-17 00:14:47 · 10 answers · asked by invisable1 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
You are too picky.
2007-10-17 00:17:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like you're going for unavailable people. The jerks are emotionally unavailable and this guys sexually unavailable. You can't bring yourself to feel affection for someone who wants it from you. Why is this?
Try to examine your feelings around this. Something very strong is keeping you away. My guess is that when you think about being with someone you know you can have you get some pretty strong feelings. Believe it or not, these ugly feelings are the key to actually connecting with someone. They must be faced and dealt with.
You probably have some self-esteem/intimacy issues. People with low self esteem tend to pick people who treat them badly because that's the way they feel they should/deserve be treated. When someone comes along who treats you with respect and wants to be with you you're uncomfortable. A part of your heart believes you don't deserve to be treated well. While another part of your heart longs to be loved and treated with respect. The part of you that wants to be loved and treated with respect is natural and in every human being. The part of you that feels you don't deserve it is probably from your parents. Somewhere, somehow your parents communicated to you that you didn't really deserve to be loved just because you're a lovable person. There also may have been some pretty heavy weights attatched to being close to someone. Love may have had to be earned or came with a very heavy price, or just didn't come at all.
So just start feeling and asking questions. It's been a long jouney for me. I found a good therapist and I don't know where I'd be today without this help.
Hope this helps, good luck. :-)
2007-10-19 22:19:08 · answer #2 · answered by LG 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, at least he's Bi instead of gay! You still have a chance! But I know how you feel, most heterosexual guys ARE jerks. I am lucky, I found my sweetie but I had to put up with my share of jerks to find him. Good luck, you will find the right one!
2007-10-17 07:29:35 · answer #3 · answered by wolfdancer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girls seem to fall for guy's who are just like there Fathers well you fallen for a guy who just like your mother. No matter what you think of to change a persons sexual preference will push them further away from you. If you can be happy in a relationship like this stay.
2007-10-17 07:29:35 · answer #4 · answered by Grant 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How come you only fall for jerks? What's wrong with you?
Forget your "nice guy". He likes dicks and you have a *****.
Be more selective when looking for a nice straight guy.
There are plenty of nice straight men around.
Good luck.
2007-10-17 07:40:28 · answer #5 · answered by Luís Santos 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ummmm
im bi
y is it such a problem for girls that guys r bi
we tend to be nicer cuz we dated guys and we learn from their mistakes and know how dumb men can be sometimes LOL
give him a chance
it would have be different if he were GAY then u can't even do anything abt it
but he's bi ....who cares if he leans more towards guys...he likes girls too
he goes both ways
2007-10-17 07:36:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like on some subconcious level, you are setting yourself up for failure. Figure out what you are avoiding (in a partner - or in yourself) and address that honestly.
but at least you have moved on to nice guys; that is progress.
2007-10-17 07:19:36 · answer #7 · answered by kent_shakespear 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
okay there's so many different reason's that this could be
many different reasons for why this could be
but i guess that the big question is why are you attracted to him
and does it bother you that he is bi
2007-10-17 08:46:49 · answer #8 · answered by PUTTIN' TANG 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you always want what you can't have.
2007-10-18 00:29:10 · answer #9 · answered by stevemeister 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a sex change.
2007-10-17 07:17:20 · answer #10 · answered by dumbquestionasker 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋