How can I get my wife to quit dressing like an old lady?

Answer 1

First remember why you married her. Hopefully it was because you loved her for who she is, not what she wears. Keep in mind that how you approach the subject can have a large impact on what outcome you get. If you simply lodge a lot of complaints about the clothing she is wearing, you may cause not only hurt feelings, but cause her a great deal of pain in thinking that her appearance is more important to you than who she really is inside.
I may not be able to tell you exactly how to accomplish your aims with your wife, but I can tell you how my husband got me to purchase new more exciting clothing. He began by letting me know that he loved me beyond anything else on this Earth. He let me know that he thought I was the most beautiful woman in the world, and that it did not matter to him how I dressed, if I wore make up, or how I fixed my hair, because when he looked at me he did not see the passing of years, but always saw the woman he fell in love with. When we were going out somewhere, I knew he went to a great deal of trouble with his appearance because he wanted to impress me, not others. He wore a cologne he knew I liked, would ask me to test to see if his shave was close enough, and cared if I found him appealing. In turn I always wanted to look my best for him.
Perhaps you can take a page from our book and make a day of shopping, but not just for her. Let her pick out things for you as well. Find out what cologne she finds appealing on you, what colors she likes on you, and what she finds attractive for you to wear. Maybe then she will return the favor and allow you to help select a few outfits for her, and not feel as if you are just complaining about her. Afterwards take her out and do the things she likes.

Answer 2

She probably doesn't even realize that she is......sometimes the years kind of tick by and the shirt you thought was fashionable is just some awful old relic from the 70's!

Perhaps she just hasn't been shopping for a while...? She might appreciate you helping her or suggesting new clothes, but you might have to tread carefully, you are risking seriously offending her if you say it the wrong way! ;)

Suggest a shopping trip together - say something like, honey, how about we treat ourselves and go shopping, and if she says no, say like when was the last time you got yourself new outfits? Make it sound like fun.

Just try not to criticize her too much when you talk to her about it, she'll probably be really upset that her husband thinks she dresses like a Grandma, so you might get tears before bedtime if you don't handle it well.

Good Luck :-)

Answer 3

Has your wife always dressed the way she dresses now (that you describe as 'like an old lady') ?

If yes, then maybe she likes it. You'd have to work out why you want her to change, and what would be in it for her, and why it's important to you that she changes.

If she hasn't always dressed this way, you also need ot think about why htings might have changed. Asking her might be a good start, but I would not advise telling her she looks like an old lady. Maybe discuss new fashions i.e. would she be comfortable baring her belly button, or if she says not, what i she comfortable with and why?
Maybe it's her work clothing you don't like? Maybe she needs to dress that way for work. Maybe money is the problem. Maybe motherhood has made her wish for comfort rather than style. Is she lacking is self-confidence? If so, why?

Has she just decided she is comfortable with how she looks and desn't want to change ? If so, you need to work out why this matters to you and how much you care. Share your feelings in a non-accusing sort of way - find out what SHE thinks. You may be surprised. Maybe she thinks you dress inappropriately. If so, what do YOU think you would do about that? Think first, and be gentle.

Answer 4

Oh dear, it's a tricky subject. I wouldn't cross dress, I don't find it attractive. That said, I have no objection to putting on a dress to make a spectacle of myself - fun is fun =) There are a lot of similar issues, which I won't go into, but I have something like it. So I would be sympathetic. And I'd poke fun, because I'm like that. But I wouldn't mean it. "It takes all sorts." Very true. x

Answer 5

Try to talk to her about it, if that doesn't work, then go shopping with her and recommend some younger generation clothes and see if she understands what you're trying to say, if THAT doesn't work, start complementing her when she wears younger clothes and see if she decides she looks better when wearing younger clothes. If all else fails, you could always get her to get help from Trinni and Susannah or some other fashion guru's. Good Luck!

Answer 6

Stop dressing like an old man

Answer 7

Validate her beauty, tell her the sweetest thing about her body. Buy her clothes you'ld like to see in. Encourage her and let her see how she's not just going to change for you but for both of you.

Answer 8

Take her out and shop with her,buy some sexy lingere and then a nice classy but sexy dress.Now go out on the town for dinner ,dancing and then come home and make love to her like she has never had before.

Answer 9

Get her to read this post. I don't know what her age is but if she is young and does it, maybe she feels old. If you have young children, she could be tired or depressed. Talk to her. Good luck!

Answer 10

Email Oprah and see if your wife can be on her next show of makeovers. Be sure to tell Oprah why and how much it would mean to you. It is worth a try!