How can i stop being so sensitive?

Question

I am 14 and have always been EXTREMELY sensitive and I care a lot about what others think of me and I wish I didn't. For example, my family was having a get together at my house and my grandfather just RANDOMLY called me fat (im 140 lbs and 5'5") so i just smiled at him because i didn't know what to say, and within 5 minutes i was crying up a storm! and everyone was looking at me weird. What are some ways to hold in emotion? And what can i do to make myself a stronger person?

Answer 1

Don't think too much about it. You need to breathe in and let some of these things go. You're young, you shouldn't let little things like this bother you now. Of course, when you get older, you'll become less sensitive. But like I said, you shouldn't think too much about a given experience. Always have confidence in yourself; no one can judge you better than yourself and God. And plus, it was just your grandpa, he was probably just joking with you. Always remember, don't take everything to the heart; people say things that make others upset. That's just how life is, but many choose to fight it by not thinking about it, and that's what you should do. Don't care about the negativity others bring upon you; believe your you and as perfect as everyone else. You're human, have faith in yourself. Don't get offended. You're still very young; with time you'll get less sensitive, but in the meantime, you have to keep strong. Remember, what doesn't kill you should make you stronger, not weaker... Good Luck!

Answer 2

I asked this exact same question. To be honest i still don't know i mean i'm 19 and am extremly sensitive if someone smiles at me weird i'll be thinking, 'does that mean they hate me,' It's not a good way to live trust me becuase you become paronoid and don't always see whats there. You see I think it's more becuase your quiet that your grandfather said that because if it was someone else he'd probably know he couldn't get away with it. You can't be rude becuase they are older but should know better. I think it's about knowing when you have a right to be upset and when you don't. Your Grandfather I don't think should have said that to you. Especially because i think body image is so bad at this time. Thing was people used to say this to me all the time and I would smile and get home and cry my eyes out. I should have stood up for myself and i never did becuase no one should have the right to treat you like rubbish. Sometimes you need to let your emotions out. Some day people will respect your sensitivity right now they will call it hormones. Hey I just answered my own question.

Answer 3

I am a man and a lot older than you, but if someone called me fat, then I'd be upset too. Your grandfather was very wrong and insensitive to say that to you. Noone should EVER say anything like that to a teenage girl. Sorry, but it is a stupid thing to do, and I think that probably 90% of girls would react in exactly the same way you did. Being unemotional is not strong. At all. Don't confuse strength with not feeling. You are the way you are, and being sensitive is good. It means that you probably care about other people too. Don't change. You sound like a good person. And next time your grandfather says something like that to you, then let him know that it hurts you. He is old enough to know better.

Answer 4

Listen hun, you are a unique and amazing individual, think of the odds of your being at all, a different sperm and you would have been someone completely different. On top of that you are going thru serious hormonal changes as you become an adult. Try this; look in the mirror into your eyes an remind yourself how amazingly unique and wonderful you are.
look up the suncream speech by Kurt Vonnegut that might help too. Take care and love yourself.

Answer 5

It's impossible not 2 B sensitive, in fact it's a good thing. Your problem is other people's insensitivity to your HONESTY. i sense you're not afraid to be realistic and down 2 earth. Unfortunetly, most everyone (my family bigtime) is a jerk. At your age you don't need an exuse to be a beach......You can ignore them until they or you go away (4 more years till u r legal)... Think of witty comebacks, risking them firing right back at you, leaving you without another insult(then crying again)... or run away with me and be my platonic lover (bad joke, sorry kid) I wanna say "JUST TUFFEN UP" but like how? I don't know, watch more gangster movies like scarface or the sopranos!!!!!!!

Answer 6

It's terrible to be young and sensitive. You will harden up as times goes by. Try to take less notice of what people say. They are so unthinking at times. Have faith in yourself and tell yourself you are a great person - do this regularly.
I think your grandad was just have a joke with you, if you think about it, he loves you a lot and wouldn't hurt you for the world, you know, sometimes they just don't realise you are being affected.
Smile, you are lovely and a gentle person.
Joan

Answer 7

14 is a very sensitive age and it wasn't very nice of your Grandfather to call you fat, that's totally unsensitive and uncalled for! I don't blame you for being upset. Get yourself into a self confidence course. When you feel really great about yourself you will find it easier to ignore nasty remarks. The more people tell you something negative, the more you will start believing them. List some positive things about yourself and remind yourself of them every day :)

Answer 8

Surround yourself with positive people. Try to ignore negative comments. I grew up the same way. It takes alot of will power to be strong and overcome some of the feelings. But in time you will. Just keep telling yourself you are beautiful. Let people know it hurts you. When they say means things stand up for yourself and it will make you feel better. You will see. It feels good to Say hey Grandpa, I am not fat...Thank you!

Answer 9

To me it is all about a mind set. Society puts so much pressure on people today to be perfect. Well no one is perfect. So it should be easy enough to find self-confidence by realizing that no one is perfect and it is better to be true to yourself. And once you realize this other peoples opinions won't matter as much. The people making these comments about us are just as full of faults themselves. All of the worrying about other peoples comments won't get anyone anywhere. And there will always be people out there with something negitive to say.

Answer 10

you are only 14 which is a funny age anyway, your emotions at that age are all over, but its also a fact that people can be cruel even if they don't mean to be, you will have to learn to accept this, AND YOU WILL as you get older. i was like you i'm now 52 you have to think of answers to give them like saying to your grandad so you've got more of me to love, if you show you are bothered some people will tease more, sad but its a fact, i found often the ones that tease so much are the ones with the most insecurities.