my name is josh and i'm 16 i'm a very smart young man if i do say so myself but even if i'm as smart i'am theres no one out there who will listen to me or or if they do they think i'm jokeing.well this no joke i need someones help i need to know how i can show them i'm right and even if they are right some of the time i need to find that out on my own (that is how you get smarter u know) this is my life my story and i wanna be the one to live it so someone help
2007-10-16 20:46:09 · 14 answers · asked by josh g 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i'm happy your there and your here to listen to me but i'm not trying to fit in i'm not trying to be the"cool kid" in school or anything what i'm trying to do is when i talk i want ppl to hear me as in josh the person not josh the scared kid everyone used to know i have good ideas and very smart most of the i'm thinking and when ppl talk they never let me join thats what i want i wanna talk and i want them to know i'm smart
2007-10-16 20:57:50 · update #1
Hey Josh! Your not alone in the world. I know that sounds stupid. Look we all feel alone, that's just a fact. I know! I've been there. I'm there now. Believe me it doesn't change. Only we change. I am not some nut. I am only a mother of 2.
I understand that you want someone to listen to you. I think you misunderstand also.
I was an "artist" so they told me. Lost the desire. I blamed them but now I know it wasn't "them"!
I need to seek the desire for me. Don't look for the approval of others to forfil your needs. Find it in you. not them!!! You are the only person you will ever have to really live with,,,HUH!
Josh!!!!! Be Josh for Josh...make him happy!!!
2007-10-16 21:30:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, Josh. Firstly, you have alot more years in front of you than you have behind you. At 16, I think we all feel that we know everything about everything and everyone else knows nothing! Believe me, I did, but found out the hard way that I didn't, but that is part of growing up.
If you are talking to people in the same arrogant manner as you have posed this question, I'm not surprised that people won't listen to you or think you're joking. An opinion is like an a...hole; everyone has one, but they are all different!
If you really believe that you are "right", you do not have to be rude or arrogant in putting that across. Make sure that you have all your facts and figures supporting your "opinion". Be open to listen to their argument supporting their opinion. Sometimes, you can both be "right" - you just see things differently. In such cases, agree to disagree. I'm sure that if you can do this, people will be more inclined to want to listen to you in the first instance, and, even if they do disagree with your opinion, they will at least go away saying that you put your case across well.
If you know for certain that you are correct about a factual matter, have the relevant book, picture or whatever with you to support it, but, DON'T, whatever you do, throw it at them in a smug "See, I told you so" manner - no-one likes a smartarse!
Life is a learning process; the day you stop learning is the day you die! Being "smart" does not necessarily mean you are intelligent. Having an open mind is being smart enough for intelligence!
Live your life; no-one else can do that for you, but listen to what others have to say; admit when you are wrong and learn by your mistakes. Then, hopefully, this "smart" young man will grow up to be an "intelligent" not "arrogant" young man!
Good Luck.
2007-10-17 04:17:44 · answer #2 · answered by CHRISTINE O 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Josh, respect is a 2-way street and needs to be earned... Work on trying NOT to be right but try on learning how to tell people they're wrong... Once you master the skill of the spoken word and letting people realize that you're smart, the idea of beating them on the head (figuratively not literally) of you being right will hopefully dawn on them that you are truly smarter than they are...
Growing up knowing a lot doesn't help when no one is willing to recognize your genius... It's like the obnoxious joker in school, that loud-mouth guy/girl, you know who I'm talking about right...? Well, would you ever trust that person if s/he said something of significance or importance... OF COURSE NOT...!!! You would think that they're an IDIOT...
Josh, don't be THAT idiot... Patience buddy, patience... Life will deliver its lessons soon enough and it's great that Yahoo has a forum like this for you to reach out and get those frustrations of your chest... Read all the "Answers" advice and keep your head up man...!!! You've made it this far... You only have a 100 more years to go... Pace yourself...
Good luck young man...!!!
sb1
2007-10-17 03:58:10 · answer #3 · answered by soiboi1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes being smart or being right all the time is intimidating to other people - are there ANY people in your life who will listen to you : from grandparents or parents or teachers or classmates choose one person that makes you feel comfortable when you talk OR LISTEN to them.
Sometimes you might be too far out in your thinking that others just DON'T GET what you are trying to express so don't despair but ask them for a break, sit down and take three deep breaths and try to reformulate what you are trying to get across.
Then take the time to listen for feedback and take the queue to understand if they really know what you are talking about.
One great way to focus is to take a walk in the park or in a beautifully landscaped area and breathe deeply and take your time to clear your thoughts, look at nature around you and absorb what you can learn here.
Sometimes it is not so important to be right all the time but give some space to listen to others too...
relax and have a Great Day by yourself!
2007-10-17 04:02:16 · answer #4 · answered by mamallmighty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey life is not about being right all the time, it is about getting your point across and making sure people listen. Here is something you can do, when talking to people get them involved in the conversation, also if you are talking and someone interopsts you once, be graceful, if they keep on doing it over and over, say that you would like to make your point and when you finishe that person could talk, but again be graceful. I had the same problem, until I made my voice heard and started getting people involved in the conversation. Maybe you should do the same, just don't talk too much tough, say somethiing and go straight to the point, unless it is something that needs explantion!!!
Good luck
2007-10-17 03:52:09 · answer #5 · answered by ♂♥♀ & ♀♥♂ ∞! Love Oh Love ! ♫♥♪ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
josh my man, you remind me of mysel when i was 16. let me help you out here a little bit. your question seems a little scattered and it sounds like you got on a ramble for a minute. well sometimes josh you might have the best idea in all of the world wherever you may be. it just may be your mode of presentation for your ides. for example when i was your age i had a problem expressing my own ideas. i learned to mentally accept my audience for who they are and break down individually how i would drive my points to individuals before i would open my mouth about serious details. basically the thing i am trying to convey to you is ...
2007-10-17 04:01:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Josh, there isn't something wrong with you if you are looking on here to fix what you feel is wrong with you. Sounds like you've been talking to people that yes, indeed aren't listening to you. That doesn't mean there aren't people out here that don't want to listen, it just means you haven't found them! If they aren't willing to listen to you? Then they probably aren't worth talking to. Don't waste your time and energy on those people, find someone new to talk to even if its on here! We'll listen!
2007-10-17 03:51:23 · answer #7 · answered by steracrudy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should lead your own life and should never run after approvals/certificates from others. Others do not take you seriously, may be due to your young age .But keep yourself on right path,study sincerely as intelligence is always respected and valued.If others point out any deficiency in you, examine it and remove them.If they accuse without any basis, ignore them fully. Do not be disturbed with what others say about you.
2007-10-17 04:04:10 · answer #8 · answered by yogeshwargarg 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speak up!!!! I have a problem with that too. I seem to talk so low people don't always hear me. I talk louder now and make sure that I display an exuberant amounts of confidence in my voice. Works for me.
2007-10-17 04:52:32 · answer #9 · answered by gone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you sound articulate and intelligent.....keep that close to your heart - - - being 16 is a pretty sucky time because you're really coming in to your own skin. keep a journal, refer to it but don't dwell on it. enjoy a sunrise and remember how you feel when each day renews itself, because you can too. there's an old saying 'ah but a man's reach should exceed his grasp, or what's a heaven for?' keeping reaching.
2007-10-17 04:01:12 · answer #10 · answered by jaxma 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋