2007-10-16 16:22:45 · 54 answers · asked by Candy 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Sure, IF YOU ARE MARRIED.
Otherwise, wait until you tie the knot to have sex.
2007-10-16 16:26:28 · answer #1 · answered by Claire R 3 · 2⤊ 3⤋
Definitely not. Do you know for absolute certain that he will still be around when the child is born? Most youth romances last only a few months without a child being involved. When a baby enters the picture it is amazing how many of those guys who "love" you vanish.
Do you have the means and ability to feed, clothe and house the child? Can you provide for him emotionally and physically? All of those things are hard enough to do as an adult. A child with no education cannot possibly meet the needs of a baby. It is unfair to a child to bring them into that situation.
Do you know what your parents will do when you tell them you're pregnant? Some parents have no problem pitching in and being supportive. There are also those who will tell you that you got yourself into that situation so you either make it or break it on your own.
Love is an important factor in having a baby... but financial and emotional maturity is equally important. Put your baby ideas on hold until you are grown and have a good job, a place to live, and the baby is wanted by both you and your husband.
2007-10-16 16:39:28 · answer #2 · answered by Stacie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's a good idea. Your ideas and wishes and dreams will change a lot as you get older. The change is HUGE from 15 to 25 years of age. He will change too.
You only want to get pregnant because you are in love with the guy. It's the wrong reason. You should be getting pregnant because you can provide a happy life for a child. Chances are you and the guy will break up in a few years and the child won't have both parents anymore.
If you really love the guy and want to have a family, wait until you're finished school and have an idea about what you want out of life. When you are living together and able to afford to look after yourselves, maybe even married, then consider having a child.
2007-10-16 16:30:17 · answer #3 · answered by •√¡rgő• 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There's no one to say what's a right age and what's a wrong age to get pregnant but the thing is you have to be ready to get pregnant. I've never had children but being pregnant and having children isn't a walk in the park. It's a life changing event and you'll shortly learn your life and your dreams will have to take a back seat as you care and provide for your child. If you really love the guy...talk about it. Really sit down with him and make sure this is something you both want. You can do it on your own but it would be so much easier to have the support you'll need from your guy. Good luck and make a good decision!
2007-10-16 16:34:07 · answer #4 · answered by bri 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Obviously if you need to ask this question then the answer is yes. You're too young and you have a lot of growing up to do. Just because you really love him doesn't mean anything. Love is not going to help you raise a baby. It's not like baby sitting. If he loves you the same then he will know it's best for you to wait until the the time is right. Think about yourself first and your goals. If you don't have a promising future then what do you expect to offer a child. Give yourself time to grow and become a responsible adult and when you can take care of yourself and have something to offer, then think about having a baby.
2007-10-16 16:55:36 · answer #5 · answered by Tinkerbell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it OK??? Thats a phrase that doesn't belong in this situation. Not getting pregnant at a young age benefits you and your future. You might not believe people when they tell you this but you CANNOT BE SURE THAT YOU WILL STAY TOGETHER FOREVER. Yes I believe in true love but when you are young and you are growing into young adults that have to take on other responsabilities you are changing a lot, and you have to REALLY really be meant for each other and work super hard at the relationship. Magic love doesn't exist...its smart hard working love that stands the test of time. You DON"T want to put yourself in that situation at a young age. Its okay to be in love, but I guarantee you that if you have a baby with this guy that it will do nothing but take away from your healthy relationship. Think about that.
2007-10-16 16:31:00 · answer #6 · answered by SKAT 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are already pregnant get a loving support system cause you will need help. But if you are not pregnant yet, the fact that you have to ask says it all to me, there are millions of ways to be loving to someone without having a baby with them. I am sure your relationship is different but I am sure many would agree with me that when I was younger sometimes when I thought i was in "love" it was pretty temporary...move slow you have a lot of time ahead of you! Without knowing you or what is going on it is hard for any of us to answer but I wanted to encourage you to talk to an adult you trust, they can help you sort through your feelings cause while it is easy for all of us to say no don't do it there is some reason you are even thinking about it and you might want to deal with those feelings. Hope that helps! Respect yourself and take care of you!
2007-10-16 16:29:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, not only do you sound young but you sound single as well. Don't have this guy's baby until you have the security of marriage. And don't get married until you know he loves you back and is ready to commit. You need to ask people around you (like your parents and older siblings) for advice. People that see you all the time and know weither or not you're ready for something this big. A baby is a very very big decision. Your life will change and start revolving arund the baby and his/her needs. They're expensive too..... Think this through and be sure to ask your family's advice.
2007-10-16 16:34:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you married and it is a decision that the two of you have made together? To bring and unwanted baby into a home where it is not wanted is cruel.
Or to be a part of an immoral situation. Do you know that the rest of its life it says on its birth certificate everywhere it goes that this child is illegitimate. I know a person who was very unset that his father was having an immoral relationship with his mother while he was married to someone else.
He was his only son and he would have nothing to do with him. This is not what you want for your child I am certain.
2007-10-16 16:27:55 · answer #9 · answered by Ruth 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
how early is early age?
under 18 is definitely too young. As long as you have graduated high school, you have the financial means to raise a child as well as the maturity and responsibility, yes. But if you are planning on leaving your baby with your mom or dad every night so you can go out Britney-style that's a no-no.
2007-10-16 16:27:24 · answer #10 · answered by nostalgia2007 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
No. For starters, he's supposed to be in love with you too, and be willing and able to support you and the baby. Babies are a lot of work, not a job you want to do by yourself. Go and read books on pregnancy, childbirth and parenting. See if you think you can handle it. Read books and talk to people about the negative sides of motherhood. If you won't do this, you are too young for kids, no matter what your age.
2007-10-16 16:34:52 · answer #11 · answered by Rosie_0801 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋