This relationship lasted twelve turbulant years as of april 2007 we stop having sex and he moved out july 23,07. We lived in a two family home and my mom lives downstairs we have two children with autism and i have one from a previous relationship who is 17 now. He is not a family man, I did all the main things by myself with the help of my parents. he did improve over the years but still mostly every house hold responsibilty was done by me, bills , budgets, Dr.'s appts, home work ,ext .he did not particpate, mainly he did not have the patients. our kids together are 7 and 8 years old. we love each other but with my parents ,our kids,his attidude my frustration. we had a huge fight and one we cannot recover from. plus i am constantly throwing him out so he finally got his own apt. now that i am not angry anymore i really miss him. He seems alot happier i want to be happy for him but i am walking around like my world has ended. it has, the world i had with him how do i move on?
2007-10-16 16:21:33 · 5 answers · asked by need to move on 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Sweetie, you most definitely have your hands full! It sounds like your relationship with him was mostly one-sided. You were doing all of the work and he was doing nothing to keep you happy and your relationship healthy. You are going through the "mourning" part of your break-up. It's normal for you to be feeling this way. But, the loneliness and all the other miserable crap that your going through sucks right now. I know that it seems like it never will, but it may take about a year or so to start feeling not so bad. Have you gone to the doctor and told him what you're going through? Maybe he can prescribe something for you for the depression. It won't take all of the "raw-ness" away, but some temporary medication might help you. You really are going to be alright. It's just a b**ch to go through this crap.
My husband of 25 wonderful years just passed away very unexpectedly 2 years ago. I'm still healing from it, but the loneliness and missing him and the "raw-ness" in my heart is getting better as the time passes. Two years ago I wouldn't have believed it, but it really does get better.
2007-10-16 17:14:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not too late to mend the relationship. Who knows, he may be walking around right now feeling the exact same way as you. Perhaps you need to work on a few things too (eg: not throwing him out, trying to understand his feelings too). A relationship can only work if both of you understand each other, or at least try to. If you really do want to move on, then time is the only thing that will heal your heart, so give it time, and pretty soon, you'll be back on your feet again. But know that it is a long and hard process, so don't expect yourself to be fully ready to take on the world by tomorrow again. Good luck! :)
2007-10-16 16:27:00 · answer #2 · answered by julia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your instincts are correct. For your daughter's sake, you and your girlfriend should sit down and speak honestly about your feelings, then work out an arrangement that puts the best interest of the child first. If the love is over, the friendship can still remain. The more independent and less clingy or desperate you show yourself to be, the better it will be for you both short and long term. The both of you may be too young to understand what love is. You will benefit by involving yourselves with others, while remaining friends and co-parenting your daughter. You never know what the future will bring. I remember a woman I once worked with, who had an older son from her childhood sweetheart, and two younger daughters with her ex-husband who was a louse. Her son let her know a few years after her marriage had ended, that his Dad had always asked about her. The young man suggested he call and ask her himself and wanted to know if this was OK with his Mom. She said yes, he called, they talked, they met for dinner, and, you guessed it. They were married and have been together ever since. Like I said, you never know.
2016-05-23 02:15:14 · answer #3 · answered by jewell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did everything in your power to loose him No he will never go back to you because finally he had find peace and good for him Its well deserved
2007-10-16 16:33:28 · answer #4 · answered by lala 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Face up to it.
He was another kid to take care of.
Try to find yourself another guy.
2007-10-16 16:36:26 · answer #5 · answered by Irv S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋