Should female Devotees & Admirers marry physically disabled men?

Question

Many of us are single and likley to remain so like myself.
Being lonely is a big problem.

Answer 1

Well, here is my response,

I am not disabled. I have a very good friend who is physically disabled. If I weren't already married, I assure you I wouldn't hesitate to marry my friend. He is a very humorous, considerate, compassionate, caring, understanding, intelligent, respectful man. Much more so than most I know, and I adore him.

He is a wonderful man. Which is "exactly" what I see him as. A man. Not part of a man. A FULL man, because he IS a full man who just happens to be physically disabled.

Unfortunately you may be correct in your observation.

I feel for any person who cheats themselves because they can't see the same in one person as they can another "in every way", simpley because of a disability!

I suppose you could say my grandfather also had a physical disabilty now that it comes to mind it might be. He has a purple face. Not a scar, its the way he was born. About 70% of his face was purple. I remember as a small child other kids asking me what was on my grandfathers face. I'd look, steady it for awhile and then say "nothing"???? Because I didn't "see" what they saw. I saw my grandfather. Only later did I realize what they were asking. I'd still do the same thing in response as it was still true.....

My grandfather was the best man I ever had in my life. I guarentee his purple face was of no factor.To me its what he looked like?? My grandmother sure didnt think so either.

I suppose my daughter also has a disability. Other than the fact she wears glasses...... (contacts now), she only has half of one kidney total. No whole, just a half. Her disability is really only seen by a large scar and several small ones.

I for one know what a special person someone with a disability can be. They have had a lesson in life that is very unique from most, which I find alot of times makes them alot better people than some. Not always true, but alot.

I have a mentally handicaped Uncle. He is very childlike. He was married 5 yrs ago in his late 50's. He married a woman of the same age whom lost her husband. She is a mother of 7. Her health is bad. They may not have a typical marriage, but they accent each other very nicely one being the mental part the other the physical part. They seem to be very content and happy and definately keep each other company were otherwise they might also be alone.

I can't see any reason why that is wrong to do. As I said they are happy. They care for each other in their way, they intend to spend the rest of their lives together. What is the definition of marriage?? I say you should do what makes you happy. If marrying someone as a companion wouldnt make you completely happy then maybe you need to wait.

Is it possible for you to maybe seek a roomate for now for the company??? Someone else who feels lonely??

You don't know if you might find love and be married to a friend and have to pass it up. I suppose you are best to say what you think is best for you there. Is it wrong? Not if it is right for you.

Btw I am directionally handicaped. I have absolutely no sense of direction. I also have a major fear of heights and spiders. I'm moody when I'm tired or stressed.Sometimes my concentration is really bad. And I "type" way to much! Don't we all have some sort of handicap???

More so the question should be......would the handicaped marry us???? Aren't we more so the ones wrong? I know a few blind men, and a few more who would "see" better if they were!!!

Answer 2

There's nothing wrong with marrying disabled persons. I would not hesitate to marry someone with a disability. They're just like other people. Some are wonderful; a few are rats. Pick a good one and throw away the loneliness.

Answer 3

Marry whoever you want. Just know you then forfeit your ability to whine and complain about your marriage with us.

Doesn't sound like what you want? Then fix the problems in your life before you get married.

Good luck.