He ran her off but failed to call the police. He did not know what to do? I called them when I got home and filed a report with the neighbor. I was at football practice with my son and daughter. I have custody of my kids, she gets supervised visits and she has not seen the kids in about 2 months. I don't have any money, or any valuables, she took everything when we split up 10 months ago. What could she be looking for? All my court papers I keep else where. I don't have a clue what she would be looking for. any ideas to help me figure this out. Maybe she was on one of her drug induced dilousions.
2007-10-16 16:05:25 · 33 answers · asked by Bones 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If she's on drugs, it probably was a dillusion. Somehow she put together that if you have the kids, you have money to take care of them. Which means you probably have better stuff than she does. And in that case, in her mind, she may have been looking for something to pawn.
If she wasn't on drugs, there may have been something more devious to her plan and if that's the case, get a restraining order. If you have one in place already, file for contempt.
Another thing just came to mind...did she every hide anything that she may feel that she's entitled to yet too bitter to ask for it. That's another suggestion.
IT's all just food for thought honey. You know her better than we do, all we can do is speculate.
Hope it all works out for the best.
2007-10-16 16:17:54 · answer #1 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is using she might have been looking for money or drugs. She might have been hoping you got new things she could sell or trade for drugs, because all she got before is gone. Maybe she left something there you don't know about and was wanting to get it while you was gone. Maybe she had on a kinky outfit and was going to wait for you in the bedroom, and try to make things work out again. Just be sure to have people watching and calling the police if she is caught doing that again. Call the school in case her idea is taking the kids. You can ask the police to have extra patrol for while too. I hope everything works out for you and your kids.
2007-10-16 16:29:01 · answer #2 · answered by bigjuggies79 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From your history of questions i know she is basically homeless and like you said on drugs. There is your answer. You don't think you have valuables but she will sell a shoe if she thought it would give her enough money to get a fix. You did the right thing by calling and filing the report you are assuring when you do go to court that she does not get the kids. I know she has already dug a big hole for herself but extra evidance is never a problemm.
2007-10-17 01:41:36 · answer #3 · answered by Big Daddy R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She could be looking for what she lost- or threw away. Drugs and alcohol do not make you logical, but they do spur you on to things you wouldn't do sober! As the others here have said, she may have been looking for money or valuables to sell. Or just trying to find a safe place to crash, not thinking of what your kids would go through.
Have your neighbors watch for her. Make sure they have your cell phone number(if you have one) and have them call you at first sighting. If it was me I would want to confront her as to her being there. If it's for money then call the police. If she is trying to get help to get better, I would help. She is the mother of your kids and there had to have been some good in her at one time for you to have been with her.
She is sick, this is an insidious and miserable disease. And while you need to protect yourself and your kids, she may have some glimmer of trying to get better. Only you will know which way it needs to go if you see her.
My prayers are with you,,,,,,,,,,,and one for her.
2007-10-16 18:19:01 · answer #4 · answered by dizzkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she was going to plant some drugs or kiddie porn in your place and tell the cops that the kids told her they saw it. Then , you go to jail , lose custody, and have to buy an expensive lawyer to get you out or your gonna stay in jail. Plenty of innocent people in jail. It takes money to get justice now. She knows you dont have money. So, do u think a court appointed lawyer is gonna prove it wasn't yours? They usually make deals with prosecutors for a lighter sentence. You still will have the charge on you and then your screwed for life. But since she was caught this time trying to sneak in, she will come up with another plan. She may even try to kill you when all her plans fail. She could put poison on your toothbrush or in your drinks wherever you go. She could get one of her friends to do that when your at a restaurant. Or she could pay some girl to date you and slip you a drug and it would simply be drug overdose. I have been divorced for 13 years and my ex calls the cops on me when she gets the chance, The first time, she lied and told them I hit her and showed them bruises all over her arms. I did not hit her one time. I went to jail. Since it was my first time in jail, the judge let me out on personal. Anyway, I've had to battle her ever since. I try to not upset her since she has custody of my sons and I'm poor and it takes money to get things done, and I dont want her hurting my sons. Ive also battled with child protective services. Most of all dont trust court system. They appointed a guardian during the divorce, and I told her something about what she was doing to my sons and her lying and she turned around and went after me in court. So, from now on , I dont trust the courts. If I were rich, I could have hired a lawyer and had custody. Since you have no money , you are vulnerable.
2007-10-16 16:35:45 · answer #5 · answered by John D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As an ex-wife there really is no way to know what she was REALLY up too--I know from experience when ur feelings and ego are hurt u will do some stupid things. Things u would normally not do, but whatever her reason there is no excuse for it--it was wrong of her. What if u and the children had come home--would it have scared them? Guess she didn't even think about their feelings. Good luck!!! Just love ur kids, be happy
2007-10-16 16:10:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand the complete nature of your relationship with your wife but it sounds to me like she still feels entitled to something in your life. It is possible that the item(s) she wants have some monetary worth, as you suggested with the settlement talk. However, it is also very possible that she wants a particular picture of the kids or some sentimental memento she didn't manage to get through the divorce. Either way, perhaps a face to face chat is the best way to find out. Try not to be accusatory but also be firm. She did break into your house after all.
2007-10-16 16:09:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would definitly tell the neighbours next time any of them see her around to go ahead and call the police. Let your lawyer know as well, you may need this information later on. Sorry your having to deal with this kind of a person. Have you confronted her about this? Hopefully she wasnt trying to take one of this kids or something, that is what I would prob, be worried about
2007-10-16 16:10:57 · answer #8 · answered by sweetjade210 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this Kevin Federline? lol.
I was going to tell you not to involve the police since you have kids together. But, then I read that she's on drugs, so she should be in jail, anyway. She was probably looking for something to steal for drugs, honestly. It's such a shame when people use drugs. Now I bet she has nothing of value (like her kids).
2007-10-16 16:08:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kids. Or money. If drugs are involved there is no telling. Get a restraining order and make sure that her behavior is documented. It maybe necessary to show a pattern of behavior later. Good luck.
2007-10-16 16:09:35 · answer #10 · answered by Miki M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋