I found out today, that my girlfriend is pregnant, but I have a slight problem. At the moment I am not financially stable. I am very happy that we are having a baby, but I am not sure if we can afford it. Adoption and abortion is absolutley out of the question, because I have wanted a child for two years now. Does anyone know of any kind of financial support program? I have been looking for a job for a year, but the employment oppurtunities are very slim around here. Any FIRST time father tips would be helpful also.
Thanks, Mike
2007-10-16 15:49:53 · 11 answers · asked by crassm123 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I have applied everywhere numorous times including Mcdonalds.
2007-10-16 15:57:49 · update #1
For now she just needs your emotional support. Being pregnant at any age or in any situation is scary. Cravings, morning sickness, aches and pains, gas, and all around bitchiness are all part of the package and completely real. Her hormones are going crazy, don't be surprised if she does or says strange thing. Just deal with it for now and it will pass after the baby is born. Babycenter.com has a thing you can sign up for that gives weekly updates of the baby's development and what your gf might be experiencing right now. I suggest you sign up for it and read up. Go with her to appointments if you can and just be supportive. Don't be afraid to ask her questions and ask her doctor questions if you have them. It will show that you really care. Get yourself a book about how to care for a new born and there first year. If you are in the US almost all school districts have "teachers as parents" programs for free. Jump online and take a look at your district and sign up. Some will do prenatal visits and all will do visits after the baby is born to evaluate how the baby is doing developmentally, tell you how to handle situations and stages, and what to expect in the coming months.
For financial help contact your state social services office for help. Your gf might be the one that needs to sign up for benefits but getting all of the info ready will be a huge help for her.
I am so happy to hear you are sticking around and taking care of your baby. I see so many women on here because there bf left them and you nearly have me in tears by being so supportive.
2007-10-16 16:06:51 · answer #1 · answered by Melissa S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off let me say that I am proud of you for stepping up and not taking the "easy " way out. I don't know where you are from but look on craigs list. go to craigslist.com also maybe you need to find a job in a different area and the two of you need to go and get a small apartment. It may not sound great but your new job is now to support your family and make sure you provide and protect your family. good luck and congrats
2007-10-16 16:11:02 · answer #2 · answered by Kristi S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am not a father, but a mother of 3 who has been through this before. My best advice would be check into any state assistance that you can get. Title 19 insurance, food stamps, anything like that really helps. I know a lot of young parents let their pride get in the way too, and they don't want to get food stamps or anything like that...I was one of them, but they helped me out so much! Best thing you can do besides that is keep looking for a job. And believe me, things do have a way of working themselves out! Good Luck and Congrats!!
2007-10-16 15:55:45 · answer #3 · answered by 4AngelGrls 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you're smart and a hard worker AND in a pinch for a job, a McJob (pretty much a job at any fastfood joint) would be easy to get and easy to be promoted in. A smart, hardworker has a very good chance of being promoted up to the management level quickly.
2007-10-16 15:56:00 · answer #4 · answered by JessiC 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get out there and take any kind of job you can find. Work multiple jobs if you have to. Kudos for wanting to keep the kid but the first thing you should have done was have protected sex if you were not financially ready for a child.
2007-10-16 15:53:35 · answer #5 · answered by N and A's Momma 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It's a good thing that you are keeping the baby, however, go and look for any available job now for your survival and your girlfriend should go and register with WIC (Women Infant and Children) around you, that will take care of baby formula when she put to bed and few things will be giving to her during pregnancy. Good luck.
2007-10-16 16:07:00 · answer #6 · answered by Pretty 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well congratulations! You might try going to a job placement agency. My boyfriend got a job through one. I'm not sure what area you live in but just look it up in the phone book, they'll find you something.
2007-10-16 16:00:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I respect the fact that you are there for her! Thats awesome! Not many guys are like that.
About the job, just keep applying to different places. One good hint is to keep going back to the same place until they recognize you and are sick of seeing your face. That's how I got my first job. :)
2007-10-16 16:11:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it is obviously too late to tell you how really stupid you both have been. You need to find a job, now that you have ruined both of your lives by pretty much ensuring that you will not have any opportunities for a future. Get out there a get a job, or two. You should have thought about this before.
2007-10-16 16:00:59 · answer #9 · answered by Wiz 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
What kind of awareness do you prefer? being pregnant and Parenting is stressful....yet you men can do it. supply her each and all the assist you could, and start up reading some parenting books and saving up some money. stable luck!
2016-10-09 09:27:32 · answer #10 · answered by angrand 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋