nor have I EVER had a friend who cared about me as much as I care about them..am I an idiot or just feeling sorry for myself, or is there another answer?....PLEASE in the name of all that's HOLY...be nice
2007-10-16 15:49:24 · 28 answers · asked by Tammy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
All of you who took the time out of your busy days to help a sister out...I thank....I may just be feeling sad today but thank you all so much...I don't know who to pick for best answer....I wish they would let us pick worst answer...LOL Love to you all thank you so much <(^_^)>
2007-10-16 16:53:51 · update #1
heya, fayb--
how do you know all this? do you know the secret hearts of all those around you? perhaps there are those who care even now and you aren't even aware of them...
you sound more frustrated than sorry for yourself, I believe; you love and care, and you're expecting to be loved and cared for in return--in equal intensity---sadly, love and friendship don't work on that kind of fairness level. each relationship is different, everybody loves and cares in a different way, no one is entitled to be loved the same way they love---
have you ever told the people you love and care for how much you love them? maybe they don't know...or maybe your intensity is scaring them...
I think you would do well to sit down and think about what it is you believe about love, what you expect from friendships and relationships, and about what you're trying to achieve...
simplicity works best, honesty works best, understanding who you are is your best first step to knowing what it is you want out of life and love....
you're likely not an idiot, but you seem to be sinking into your own emotions...relax...you're among friends...
2007-10-16 16:12:39 · answer #1 · answered by Palmerpath 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're not an idiot - the only thing you might, Might be guilty of is picking the wrong friends ... of course it's nice to get back what you give, but with love, it's not always that way - and if after time, someone does not come around it's your que to move on -- there are people out there who will care about you as much as you do about them once you've build a relationsihp ... just be yourself, and don't worry about these things too much or it will seem like it'll never happen
good luck!
2007-10-16 15:55:28 · answer #2 · answered by ... 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am being nice. The reason just might be that you have high expectations of people. If that is the case then you will always be questioning. There is nothing wrong with having high standards. (Stand for something, if not you will fall for anything). No you are not an idiot. (shouldn't call yourself that). Relationships are shared. Could be that you just haven't met the right person who will be equal with you. Having said that, I believe that their is almost always one person that gives more, but that is OK as long as you are respected for what you bring to the relationship. How do you define Love. What is love to you. Caring for someone is not necessarily Loving someone. Love is boots in, warts and all and acceptance of them. :-)
2007-10-16 16:00:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
All it means is that you have more love to give.
Think of it this way.
We come into people's lives (and they come into ours) for a reason. You can call it fate, karma, God, whatever you want. But whatever you call it, there is a reason.
Most of the time (for some of us, not just you), the reason is that person needs something from us (love, compassion, caring, tenderness, sometimes just a hug).
So we are able (and willing) to give them what they need.
They may then go out of our lives, or remain close (either they need us frequently, or we have something to learn from them).
And we get what we need from them - believe it or not.
Satisfaction, pleasure, fulfillment, completion, a sense of duty or responsibility accomplished.
If you look deep (past the "idiot or just feeling sorry for myself" junk), you'll find it. The thing that keeps you going, keeps you giving when sometimes it doesn't seem worthwhile.
But deep down you know its right, that its right for you.
And just because it hasn't happened yet, doesn't mean it won't happen.
Maybe there is a lesson you have to learn first (I don't know what it is for you, for me it was "love and caring unconditionally") - when you learn it in your heart the right person will appear.
2007-10-16 15:59:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guarantee you Christ loves you more than you love Him. and I honestly doubt you are loving all these people and they don't love you back...I'm sure your family and friends love you, otherwise they wouldn't be your friends. some people just aren't very good at portraying it. I love my dad a lot but when I lived at home I always pushed away when he gave me hugs and when he asked me to do things I said no and even when he said he loved me I just took it and didn't say it back.... I personally know I love him as much as he loves me but unfortunately because I'm really bad at displaying it he may think I don't give a crap about him... which is why I'm trying to change. it really is just hard for people though. you could ask them and just be honest and say you don't feel that they feel the same way...
2007-10-16 15:57:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not wrong or anything, heck, I'm always like that.... I mean, it's just easier to care when you want to be cared for... I try to show them how much I care to get love out of it and they just don't get the message... So I used to do stupid things and blah blah... But keep caring, or better yet, act like your not desperate and just have fun... that's what I do and automatically, people want to be with you. And if you want them to listen to what you need to say, just make sure you tell it true, everything. Just spill if you trust them, it's a lot better then holding back. But there's absolutely nothing wrong with you.
2007-10-16 15:57:03 · answer #6 · answered by Iguana City 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A common statement in love. Love is a very complicated issue. In scripture love is defined in 1 Corinthians 13 verses 4 through 10.
After you read this you will see how love is measured and if you can then say that you love someone. These rules are for us to shoot for and be honest enough with ourselves to see where we fall short. If we can discuss this definition with the one we love and find mutual agreement in its text you will never have to say you love them more than they love you again!
2007-10-16 16:00:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll be nice...
Your problem could be that you only feel love in very specific ways...for example, you only think people love you in the ways that you love them. Maybe people love you the most they can but in their own way.
It may also be that you are just so special and giving that its hard to find someone equally special and giving to reciprocate the love you give to them. Real genuine loving people are hard to find, for both friends and lovers. Be selective and patient.
It will balance when you have the right people in your life :)
2007-10-16 16:09:18 · answer #8 · answered by •ºJen•º 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe people just express their feelings differently than you do. I dont know how many friends youve had, but i wouldnt make the assumption that NONE has cared about you at the same level, maybe they just didnt tell you they did.and for guys, well, you havent met the right one yet, i thought that forever about guys, and i was right, they didnt love me as much.Then i found one that does, and it is looking back the one and only relationship that felt 100% right from the beginning, no bs, no games.So obviously, i just had not met the right guy yet, and also looking back, i didnt love them either, i just wanted it so bad, i made myself think i did.
2007-10-16 15:56:45 · answer #9 · answered by ♥mama♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You first must love yourself before you ca be loved or give love to others. You are not alone, many people experience. Think of it as a mindset. Are the ones you "love" really being loved by you, or do they feel smothered by your attempts to be loved and reciprocate?
Once you unlock the true issue, then you will find it easier to be loved, loving, and receive love.
Val
2007-10-16 15:55:41 · answer #10 · answered by mariposavalrie 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋