I'm lonely without him. The weekends are fun but the week nights are so long. There is no hope in sight.
2007-10-16 15:44:11 · 19 answers · asked by Chrissy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ummm, be glad he's not in Iraq for 15 months like some of our husbands are.
2007-10-16 16:05:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I have a great husband and he works so hard for our family.
Oh honey I know how you feel totally
See I appreciated him and I couldn't picture my life without him in it . We have always been the couple that just cant stop kissing.
We have had our high and lows and we have made it though with love and understanding.
Hes my best friend and my man.
But sense he started working late night shifts like 2 nd and 3 rd shift finally settling on 2nd shift because it makes more money. I feel like even when I am with him hes not really with me , he is disconnected and zombie like.
Hes always down , Tired and in pain. during the day he just wants to sleep and parts of our relationship are suffering. I miss him so much so so much , to the point where I want to tear up every time he looks like or says he going to bed. I just want to shake him and tell him to wake up! I just miss him so much
2015-03-31 04:00:30 · answer #2 · answered by Nainy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its hard, but try to be optimistic (and realistic). Do you really need this job? Chances are, you do- I would just be glad that he does have a job...and focus on the good things, you said you still have fun weekends together. Appriciate those! And he's always coming home to you, its not like you don't see him after work,right? Try not to be so negative--there is hope in sight. Maybe his shift will change-or yours will- nothing's permenant.
Hang in there~!
2007-10-16 15:50:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know it's hard to be away from him. i'm the same. i don't enjoy doing things without my husband. we do everything together, even if we just have to go buy some milk we go together.
but sometimes u need time to yourself. u don't see ur husband much, so u miss him, if you're in a position where u can choose what shift to work, then yeah u can change ur shift to me same shift as him, if not, then you should take up some hobbies. maybe go to some classes, he's working two jobs so that u can have a better life, if u're not struggling with financial issues, then talk to him and see if he can let one of the jobs go.
i hope it all works out.
2007-10-16 16:17:14 · answer #4 · answered by nuggeteli 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How bout if you get the same shift, so you can be home at the same time? Or if you aren't working, adjust your sleep/wake times to fit his schedule. Make his shift your "daytime". When he gets home, that's your shared "evenings", then sleep in the day. If it's hard, for the first couple of weeks before you are used to it, can use a mild sedative, close all the curtains (dark, thick ones), wear earplugs, unplug the phones, etc. Otherwise, you'll just have to make the weekends really count.
2007-10-16 15:51:26 · answer #5 · answered by Linni 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't have an answer because there is no real question. However, I plead that you do not put yourself in a position to find other company for the evenings (not saying you would). After 13 years and children my wife has decided to find (or has already found) someone else. Beg him to change shifts if you find yourself thinking bad thoughts.
2007-10-16 15:58:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate 2nd shift to but sometimes it's just a reality. Look at it as a way to do things that you can't do with a man around and then DO them. Do things you enjoy. Do extra things for him. Read books. Learn something. Get a hobby. Write him a love letter. Take a little nap and stay up with him when he comes home.....
2007-10-16 15:55:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Married life is full of sacrifice and compromises.If you want a better standard of living than your husband has to work long hours. You have to realize that he misses you as much and he is the one who is working .Stop complaining you have a hard working responsible man .You should be happy for that alone.
2007-10-16 15:53:32 · answer #8 · answered by Julius C 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry your lonely, but you should appreciate that you have a husband who is a hard worker & willing to provide for your family. Fill your time with something else you enjoy, reading, painting, friends....ect. Hopefully it will help the time alone to go by faster!
2007-10-16 15:50:27 · answer #9 · answered by QTpie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might have to work to make sure everything is paid for so be glad you have someone like that who cares so much about you they would work a second job. Would you rather spend all of your time with him living in a cardboard box or live in a nice apartment and not have as much time together?
2007-10-16 15:49:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋