Her pastor says she has to forgive him 490 times and after that she doesn't have to. I told her I don't really know the right answer. What do I tell her? I really don't think her husband is completely at fault because he is addicted to alcohol and can't help it.
2007-10-16 15:32:12 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
once. everybody deserves second chance but if she stays after the second time it is up to her to leave. it is never good to stay in a hurtful relationship. get away before he relationship you.
2007-10-16 15:44:33 · answer #1 · answered by boo 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
No woman or man deserves to be beaten.
Her pastor needs to pay closer attention to God, God has never said that you have to forgive beating 490 times.
Alcohol addiction and alcoholism is not an excuse for beating your wife.
Your friend needs to get out of this marriage and her husband needs to admit his addiction and get help.
2007-10-16 15:41:27 · answer #2 · answered by Sue F 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
The pastor can say that because no one is beating HIM - but maybe they should if he is giving that kind of advice (just joking) She should love herself enough to not tolerate anyone hitting her, even once. Her husband is at fault, there may be contributing factors but he has chosen the path that has led to his self destruction. The wife is choosing the same kind of path, if she stays. Life is short, dont burden or sacrifice yours for someone else's problems. Tell her to get out while she can and get a (real) life! :)
2007-10-16 15:48:38 · answer #3 · answered by lifesaclassroom 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Zero.
The pastor is an idiot.
Her husband is not a fault because he is alcoholic! What kind of a statement is that? What if he had beaten her and killed her? Oh, he is not completely at fault because he was drunk?
By the way, I am a guy and I have always wondered why women stay with abusive husbands.
2007-10-16 15:38:38 · answer #4 · answered by worldneverchanges 7 · 5⤊ 1⤋
just because you ' forgive ' them the first time,that does not ever give them the right to do it again. 490 times? that would be if they are still alive after the first time which is one time to many. both of them need help, she needs to go to a shelter and get away from him and he needs to be charged with abuse.its not her fault he is addicted to alcohol
2007-10-16 15:41:01 · answer #5 · answered by lizajane 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Once is too much.Alcoholism is not a resin to beat someone.Tell her to get out and go to the W.Y.C.A. And get some help.And never return to her present Pastor and church.Her Pastor is guilty of spouse abuse the same as her husband.
2007-10-16 16:03:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
My husband beat me black and blue, burnt me while I slept and after a drinking session he kicked me so hard I lost our baby. Our vicar told me to get out of there before he killed me. I stayed with him he said he would stop drinking and he would never hit me again, he lied he hit me with a piece of wood with nails in and dragged it down my arm. I got treated for that at the hospital. Then a week later he hit me with a light bulb shattering it on my head, but this time I had had enough, I slapped his face and I could never forgive myself for that. That was the end of the marriage and the beatings. Your friend has to leave him.
2007-10-16 15:42:22 · answer #7 · answered by itsjustme 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
She has to call the police every time
then she can forgive him every time..after he gets out of jail. Why oh why do people think women should endure that crap. The pastor is a misogynist idiot
2007-10-16 15:37:52 · answer #8 · answered by metoo 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
DONT EVER forgive anyone that beats you or a friend tell them to get out as fast as they can, yes its going to be scarey for them to leave better her leave than to be beat to death
2007-10-20 15:42:56 · answer #9 · answered by panthor001 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never. A woman should leave a relationship immediately if a man starts calling her names--that is the first sign of oncoming domestic violence. Sticking around is the worst thing a woman can do.
2007-10-16 15:36:00 · answer #10 · answered by nobodyd 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
First, onto your question. The better halves who stay proceed to sense their emotional attachment to their husbands, reminding themselves of what their husbands used be like before marriage. Others wish that they are going to replace, and wait. yet wager what, we are biologically programmed no longer to modify in one day. that is a mild and energetic procedure - it really is very harder to attain as we age. Now to the advice: Others have given you replies describing the way you do not should be beaten. i won't be able to agree more suitable, yet i will attempt to deliver the undertaking of abuse no longer in basic terms to you yet to a distinct sufferer. in case you nonetheless stay with this guy, your infant can ought to face infant abuse at the same time as growing to be up. that is unquestionably a personality-molding adventure, in which your infant will start up believing abuse is tremendous (obviously by technique of regulation, you comprehend that is unacceptable in our society). The cycle will proceed to him abusing his loved ones - friends and toddlers in college (bullying) and relatives (his personal toddlers, and perchance your self). go away him for the sake of your infant. each and everything is pointing in a unmarried route ---> go away him. Your parasitic courting is putting you and your infant in threat. no longer in basic terms that you do not deserve beating, yet a guy like him would not should be a father or a husband. he's doing more suitable damage then strong. Anji's tale is amazingly motivating; use it as your concept. faster or later your infant will thanks for leaving him. Going back to my intro about replace, perchance you may go away till he easily alterations. in case you've self assurance he's the only and in basic terms love, this may be incredible - regardless of if it's going to maximum likely take more suitable than a 365 days. contained in the top, it is your p.c... in case you pass over him, imagine about your infant and how your husband is a probability to him. base line: divorce him, and in case you do not artwork, stay with a relatives or buddy.
2016-10-21 07:11:55 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋