but we didnt sex no more,he always said everytime i hug him that his tired of his work,sometimes i tell him that can we make love tonight?but he end up to bed and said he is tired,hes 18 yrs older than me,,im 31 and he is 48,i always looks sexy and care myself,he always told me that hes lucky to have to me,that im gorgeous,he hug & kiss me but thats all,,no sex no more,i dont know why?
2007-10-16 15:22:59 · 13 answers · asked by loveme 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He may be tired or having problems getting an erection. It's common at that age to slow down a bit. Ask him if he can verbalize what he is experiencing and don't judge him for it. Be kind and supportive. At least continue to show affection and hug him and let him know you are ready when he is. If things don't improve, then perhaps counseling might be in order. Many men won't admit to erection difficulties, but it's common as they age and nothing to be ashamed of. Perhaps he needs a physical at the doctor, please suggest a checkup also to make sure he doesn't have any other health issues that cause fatigue.
2007-10-16 15:27:42 · answer #1 · answered by Contemplative 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tired maybe, excited maybe not. Instead of just kissing and hugging, give him more. Turn him on instead of lettting him go to bed. Wear sexy outfits, do a slow strip, greet him at the door naked, shaved and beautiful. Something, anything but you need to take the lead and get the excitement back in your marriage.
My girlfriend and I have the opposite problem. We have a great time together, we do not live together yet, but see each other on almost on a daily basis. I am 30 years her senior, but it is I who wants it all the time. She on the other hand is tired or not in the mood. She professes to love me, she says its not me, just stress and work.
So it's up to you to get it back. Even if he is tired, he is a man and with the right encouragement he will respond. If you gently unzip his pants and start playing with his part he will get over being tired very quickly.
As long as there is love and no one else in the picture, then all that is needed is some extra special attention.
2007-10-16 22:47:50 · answer #2 · answered by Cliff R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a woman who has been married for ten years to many, I think I can answer this. Your husband is only 48 and thats not old enough for him to be losing sexual desire, so we can rule that out. But I think whats happening here is that he is losing his desire for you, and dont take it personal, it happens, you can look great, be the sexiest thing on the planet but your husband may still be bored with you, and its not about how you look, its about what you do with your looks, maybe its time to spice things up and make some changes in the bedroom department? If that doesnt work, try therapy
2007-10-16 22:44:43 · answer #3 · answered by penelope 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There are a number of possible reasons that your husband doesn't have sex with you. He could have a psychological or medical problem that's causing a lack of sexual desire or sexual function. He could be taking a medication that is causing this. I think the first step is to express to your husband about your concerns. See if he's willing to see a doctor or a therapist about this issue.
2007-10-16 22:31:12 · answer #4 · answered by drshorty 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it's the "age" thing.
Not the "difference" between your age,
just the "growing old thing"....know what I mean???
I am in my 40's and as I look back I realize I had alot more energy when I was in my 30's then I do now.
So I had alot more interest in sex then,
than I do now.
And it has nothing to do with "not being interested in, not being in love with , or not being attracted to" my husband.
It's just the pure fact of.....I'm just too damn tired :{
Hope that helps you.
It depresses me ;)
lol
2007-10-16 22:40:57 · answer #5 · answered by MommaBear 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think he is cheating, maybe he is just being a human and may have ED problems. Who knows? Why think that he is getting it somewhere else? is it human nature to think bad about your spouse? one more thing: 48-31=17, (Not 18) I just thought I should mention that.
2007-10-16 22:31:56 · answer #6 · answered by Mandibulin 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let him diet and do exercises. His age and health may cause him losing his appetite for sex and may lead him to impotency.
Stresses, overworked and other emotional problem such as financial matters maybe another factors that affected him emotionally and he has not in good mood to perform sexually.
2007-10-16 23:41:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Join the club sister. Look at my previous posts. I have the same issue. My husband is 12 and 1/2 years older. His excuse is he is tired from work. Although, we have never gone 2 months. (That is a long time..... gosh, is this what I have to look forward to?)
Well I'm frustrated!
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2007-10-16 22:29:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe u 2 need a little vacation without each other......it mandatory for me and my husband go away from each other every 3 months.....We miss each other for the week and were closer than ever before...its good for a relationship take a break!
2007-10-16 22:31:59 · answer #9 · answered by butterfly_kisses81501 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it might be a hard question to ask him but you really should. because we can tell you all kinds of answers but he is the only one that knows the true answer. (it does not have to mean he is cheating on you like someone else said)
2007-10-16 22:40:39 · answer #10 · answered by jmd 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋