I'm really suffering in college?????????

Question

Ok so I'm a freshman in college and its my first semester. Things have NOT BEEN GOING WELL AT ALL FOR THE PAST 2 MONTHS!!!! I have NOT made any new friends. I try to go to clubs but my schoolwork always gets in the way (I'm a chemical engineering major). I don't know ANYBODY in my hall and they all seem so intimidating. Trust me, like I have NOTHING in common with these people. And my roommate! He doesn't want to do ANYTHING with me. He just sits at the computer ALL DAY and plays computer games! How do his eyes not hurt I ask myself that everyday. He always likes to keep the door closed and locked so its like nobody in our hall knows we exist. The food SUCKS here. I just starve myself for most of the day. CLASSES ARE HARD. I got a B on my lit exam and i cried. Chem lab is a REALLY HARD class. I get B's on the lab and I cry every time I get them. It's all so overwhelming. I go home every weekend because I just need to get away from it all. PLEASE SOMEONE HELP!!!!

The friends that I used to have in high school that come to my college have made new friends and left me in the dust. I cry every night. I need help really badly. Nobody likes me. I hate my life.

Answer 1

man the first years of my college I made no friends. I talked to noone out of my own shyness. I pretty much lost contact with high school friends because they scattered across the country. But hang in there, you're a smart kid stick to your school work and don't mind your social life too much. I know how you feel I'm in mechanical engineering and things can be overwhelming.

now for the inspiration. a hopeless person like me has made friends. I've travelled to Chile to snowboard over the summer and this winter I'm going to europe with a friend. I would have never predicted that and you can never predict how kick @ss your future will be too

one thing I've come to learn is that everyone thinks they have it the worst. I look through some of these questions on Y/A and these younger people will outline a decent life then get to their question by whining how they don't have a gf or bf that is perfect for them. The truth is that everyone is entitled to feeling down no matter what position they are in. It is the human condition. The key is to realize that there are people with lives a million times worse than ours who manage to stay positive. If that doesn't indicate that life is about individual perception I don't know what does

Answer 2

you sound like you need to speak to someone and don't delay, it is not uncommon how you feel and they call it the 'freshman syndrome' . i know you feel alone but you are not, and finding others with the same issue might help you understand how difficult it is for some to make the break from the home to being on your own. school is hard and your chosen field is rather difficult so hang in there, it does get better. If you have a church, go to meetings there and talk with the pastor, the main thing is to reach out to a real person who can help even if it is just to listen and allow you to vent. don't wait until you have full blown depression.

the only way i got thru my college years was to take one day at a time so you don't get overwhelmed. break it up into days allows you to accomplish the goals for that day and then you can feel successful at least for that day. i always told myself, "you can do this today, if you want to quit, wait until tomorrow to decide". developer you own tricks to cope. Good luck and hang in there! it will be worth it in the long run.

Answer 3

for 1 PLEASE STOP CRYING OVER Bs... but things will get better once you get used to your surroundings. me and my roommate don't hang out either. it's my second semester at my school and i've lost friends. but i'm accepting it now. if u were truly a good person and they ditched you, they weren't worth being your friend in the first place. don't starve yourself! if you can try to buy a little bit of groceries for your room. to meet new friends join a club or if there's an event go. even if u go by yourself just go and see who there and meet those new people. looking at your major, your classes are always going to be hard you just have to discipline yourself and deal with it.

Answer 4

oh well.there is always trucking school.