Saving yourself for marriage...?

Question

What do you guys think about it and about people that do?

Answer 1

I think if you can wait that long than do it. In my situation, my husband had been with one other girl besides me, and they only had sex three times the whole 3yrs they were together, me on the other hand had quite a few more guys than what he had with girls and this still to this day is a problem for him. I suggest that if you can wait til marriage than do, I wish that my husband would have been my first all the time!

Answer 2

Saving yourself for marriage shows that you have a lot of respect for who you are. Many, many men and women do not do that because they don't have that respect for themselves and for their bodies. They use their bodies like a piece of bait.

I don't see anything wrong with that at all. That's what God intended us to do is to only give yourself to the person you are married to. I do applaud you for making that moral decision.

Answer 3

I am saving myself for my husband :) I dont believe in sex before marriage either, glad to know other teens feel the same :) EDIT: though i would never judge someone who doesnt save them self for marriage. It has to be your decision and everyone has a right to make up their own mind on the subject. Whats right for me isnt always right for someone else.

Answer 4

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Answer 5

Saving yourself for the one is not only classy and shows you respect yourself, but you also respect your future partner. Furthermore its a big turn on to your future partner to know that you haven't been all over the place.

Answer 6

okay, it shows respect for yourself, that you aren't just throwing yourself at just anyone. personally, i was ALMOST there....i met my husband, and he was my first, but we didn't wait until we were married. he had previous girlfriends, but as long as he had protected himself, never had kids with them, and was HONEST with me, i was fine with his past. i was 23, and adult, and made my own decisions.

if that's what YOU want to do, don't let anyone tell you that you are stupid, or call you any names.

i think that people who save themselves for marriage save themselves from a lot of crap.

Answer 7

It's purely a personal choice. Not my choice, but many want to do that. Sex is such a huge part of a successful marriage that I would want to be sure she likes it and wants it and is enthusiastic about it. Now, you don't have to "go all the way" to find that out.

Answer 8

I think it's fine and shows the kind of person you are.

But if you're smart you'll think about saving yourself FROM marriage.

Answer 9

If people think that the only way or a major way to show self respect is 'saving yourself for marriage' then it really makes me wonder what their views are on sexuality and exactly how much self respect they truly have as opposed to thinking negatively about sex. I think that sex can involve lack of self respect both in and outside of marriage.

I think that many people who do 'save themselves' for marriage are generally brought up in sex negative enviroments. Believe me, I certainly was! I attended abstinence programs sponsered by the church which were unrealistic in their teachings and probably do more damage than good especially in a day in age when sex before marriage is a socially acceptable behavior. Sex negative teachings can be harmful to one's self esteem and even future sexual pleasure, whether one waits or not. Especially since much of the teachings were focused on the so called emotional consequences of sex aimed at teenage girls. Things such as, "women only have sex for love while men have sex because it feels good" and so forth is utter nonsense that destroys sex in it's purist forms. Feelings of guilt or confusion about sex after marriage is common from these people and often religious leaders must give counselling to newlyweds for this purpose to erase the insecurities that led them to 'save themselves' so that couples can enjoy sex to it's fullest potential.

Of course, some who 'save themselves' may be doing so in order to avoid responsibilities that come with sex. Of course, these responsibilities do not disappear after marriage, but many may feel that they are only ready to handle those responsibilities with marriage.

Answer 10

Nothing wrong with it if that's what you feel is right, but it's not a badge of honor, either.