Because they are shy they keep to themselves, but some people might take them to be too into themselves?
DOes this usually occur when they are good looking people with self esteem issues?
2007-10-16 15:06:46 · 10 answers · asked by 2nd Commander 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
yep they can! I have met several people that at first I thought they were stuck up and self centered. Turned out they were really nice and just shy. I find that this is usually the case with girls and women. I mean you see them and they are in your opinion pretty, cute, or even beautiful, you say hello to them after working up enough courage to actually say something. Then they say very little back and do not look at you or really even seem to acknowledge you much at all. I mean they seem to be acting like they think they are better than you. The fact is they are just nervous about meeting someone new, and really do not know what to say. That makes it even harder to talk to them and try to get to know them. Then unless you have a friend that is friends with them you assume they are stuck up and self centered. So you just say good bye and to heck with her. I hate, HATE, arrogant, self centered girls. I do not want to have anything to do with them or be around them. So that is why sometimes I may meet a girl and she will act that way and she is really a sweet person, just shy. Yet because of the way she acts, I will just say good bye and not talk to her or give her anymore of my attention. The sad thing is it's not her fault she is or maybe shy, but at the same time girls that are stuck up I don't want to add fuel to there already inflated ego. If I see the girl again and she says hello, and smiles at me and is nice, then all is good. That will give me another chance to see what she is like and how she acts. If I see her again and she acts like she does not see me, or just kinda waves at me and smiles all sweet, then I can usually tell that she is way to into herself. It's hard!!! I mean there are so many sweet, nice girls out there, that just need to be a little more out going and they would meet some really great guys. I wish I knew of a magic way to tell what they are really thinking. Oh and yes if a girl is good looking and shy, oh, well then you almost always assume she is stuck up. Yet she maybe shy, and or insecure. I just wish I could find a way to tell the nice ones from the ones I would like to shoot! =)
2007-10-16 17:04:55 · answer #1 · answered by Prof. Dave 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Man, this is the story of my life. I am extremely introverted and have had lifetime of people thinking that I was arrogant. Any outlandish or extroverted thing I did, was definitely a front to adapt to the environment I was in. Also, I think when a shy person spend a lot of time with themselves, the become somewhat preoccupied with themselves, to their detriment.
2007-10-16 15:28:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
No when they are shy like that, they tend to be withdrawn and not into connecting with society unless they have too. What they look like is not of importance to them. Except they do want to look decently dressed and so on. But with being shy they are more withdrawn. Their self esteem issues have to do with them being more withdrawn. They have a lower self esteem than you or I.
2007-10-16 16:33:22 · answer #3 · answered by oldestme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yup, unfortunately sometimes people who are merely shy sometimes appear to be stuck up. I like to give people the benefit of the doubt, and to not assume that the other person is self-centered until I get to know them
2007-10-16 15:35:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm shy and people have thought that of me.. it is bs. I have no reason to be shy as far as my looks so I imagine that doesn't help either.
it is like a vicious circle. I am shy at first and so I make bad first impressions. If my bad first impression leaves that other person to think I'm arrogant then I'll never feel comfortable around them and I always come off arrogant.
2007-10-16 15:09:01 · answer #5 · answered by Random Nickname 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Shy people certainly do seem to be arrogant and self centered in certain circumstances. They often look for some body]]to value them. Nice change of pic by the way
2007-10-17 15:30:44 · answer #6 · answered by luteachris 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
happens to me all the time i just don;t like to go out to clubs and get drunk or go to house parties and most people think that i think i'm better than them when in fact i just like to sit on my front porch smoke my homegrown and look out across my pond. i have a big *** pond in my front yard, i live in the country.
2007-10-16 15:10:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
when some one is shy or bashful to get attention they'll come off that way sometimes
2007-10-16 15:20:31 · answer #8 · answered by Fran J 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
shy people can be arrogant....just because you're quiet doesn't mean you don't deal with pride.
2007-10-16 15:10:56 · answer #9 · answered by saraJ 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You're talking about me, aren't you...?
2007-10-16 15:22:10 · answer #10 · answered by Jack B, goodbye, Yahoo! 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋