crazy parents? or normal?

Question

my friends parents are quite scary.
they dont trust him at all.
example: he was on the computor siting on the couch and he turned around and found his dad hunched over wacthing him .
abd his dad just got up and walked away.
his mom only lets him see his friends once a week or so.
he cant dress how he wants.
his bedroom door always has to be opened
for us to hang out my parents have to be home and wacthing us because im a girl'
he can never miss church, not even once.
he always has to go straight home after school
he can never cuss or sin
(but he does when they arent around)
if he ever complains about church they "spank him bare bottom"
he has to hide almost everything from them because almost everything he does is bad that what they think anyway
and they are mean to.
they yell at him if he asks to go to someones house or
wants to go to the store for something
and h cant beg
and if he asks why he cant do somethign they say they dont have to have a reason. i will fin

he is not doing well
he is depressed it seems like
and really wants to run away or something
what can i do?

also im sorry this is long

he is 12
and in 7th grade

and es they are crazy church people

Answer 1

Hi elmo,
Your friend's parents are not crazy. I've had plenty of friends whose parents are like that. But that doesn't make it right. They are the "control freaks". People who have lost control of certain situations in life or are also being controlled when they were young & now they're doing it on their kids to feel that "power" they never had & never will have. And the worst part here is they are using "concern" as the excuse to their domineering attitude. One common denominator of those who grew up in that environment is that they all feel "suffocated", "depressed" & in a lot of way "useless" because they can't do what they want, can't think for themselves & are in tight-leash. Now, let's go back my friends. Do you know a lot of them are "free" from that chain now & is living a full life. But do you know also that they stay as far as possible from their parents & have so little to do with them. But sad to say there remains those who are still "chained", who are so timid & scarred now that they have already lost their identity. How pitiful. The most you can do to your friend is to encourage him, don't allow depression to take over him. Be there for him, make him laugh & show him what fun is all about. Atleast that should be his "source of strength" when he is still dependent on his parents.

Answer 2

If his high school counselor is sympathetic (versus being a member of the same psycho church as your friends parents), you should have your friend talk to a mental health counselor. There is always the danger with overly controlling parents, especially if the behaviour is worse in private, for the child to suffer serious depression and possibly suicidal thoughts/action.

Age 12 is a bit old for bare bottomed spanking. If he's getting bruises from his parents, Child Protective Services can also be contacted.

Answer 3

How old is he?

They are crazy religious people (hence the spanking him bare bottom when he complains about church).

Be there for him, he'll need a friend.

Have him talk to the guidance counselor at school, hopefully they can get him out of that place.

Answer 4

That's really sad. I despise church freaks. They're basically hypocritical control freaks without the balls to admit their problem. I don't really know what you can do about it though. Once he gets a little older they're going to have to lighten up a little. Just be there for him all you can and be extra nice. He could really use a good friend.

Answer 5

i would tell some one about his if you want him to live a good life i think you should tell some one even if it means having his parents taken away or whatever happens its the best for him

Answer 6

idk how to help u on this one.