Recently, an ex of his called our home and said he owed her $200.00 which was true. She proceded to tell me there's nothing to worry about, they only talk here and there. Then, I get a text message from this B*TCH saying if he doesn't give her the money, she's going to "spill the bean about the past three years." She claimed they'd been seeing each other from here to there yada yada yada... She knew what kind of cars we had, what my house looked like, and what my daughter looked llike. Is she crazy or has my partner been unfaithful? She is a coke addict. What are your thoughts? Honesty please.
2007-10-16 14:40:44 · 20 answers · asked by LiSa B 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think it's time you talk with your fiancee. It is possible that the drugs are having an impact on this woman, but it also appears that she knows far too many details about your life and home. I would be afraid for your daughter as well as yourself.
She may be having an affair with him or is stalking him. Either situation is not good.
2007-10-16 14:44:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Her addiction to coke breaks any creditability she may have. Sounds like she's done her research on you, probably looked you up in the phonebook and followed you to school to drop of your child, or saw her out there playing in the street.
If your skeptical, ask for dates and times when they were together. Chances are you will be able to say na da, on that saturday we were at a family function.
However, should you doubt it - and you should do this anyway, you need to get complete blood work done as most coke dealers are needle users and if he has been seeing her... well she's not the person I would want to have unprotected sex with, thats for sure. Sharing needles is a no no.
Give her the money, but if you do, your opening the door to think that you can be bought. That she just has to call up, say **** and boom, its free money.
o and ask her what kind of sheets you have, or what kind of sofa, if she's been in your house, and he says it never happened, she wont be able to tell you how to get from the front door to the bathroom would she?
However if she can, I would rethink that ring on my finger
2007-10-16 14:57:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
There is a heavy chance he's cheating. Simply for the fact you have to worry if he is cheating thats enough stress for you and a sign that you dont/cant trust him. And then again a coke head will lie about anything so they can get high again. Why is he still talking to her? Tell him you dont like it, and think he should stop talking to her. A coke head is not a good influence for your child and if shes not becoming a mutual freind why does he need her. Apparently she cant hang out at your house, so what kind of friend is she.
2007-10-16 14:49:28 · answer #3 · answered by Carrie g 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My mom has always told me that a women can feel when her man is cheating on her. I really don't know if this is true but you have felt it for a reason. but there are answers that can explain how she knew all your info. is there a mutual friend that can be filling her in? if not then you got trouble. You need to confront your man about this keeping in touch with his ex thing. From my experiences nothing good ever comes from this. To tell you the truth, it does sound like they have been getting it on. Look at the bright side, at least you found out before you got married.
2007-10-16 14:57:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Has he ever given you any reason to doubt him? If I were you, I would listen to what she has to spill the beans about and ask him about it. You no that old saying, If you have the feeling that your spouse is cheating, chances are they are. But considering she is a coke head, she's probably full of crap. As for her being able to describe things, maybe your guy told her about these things in conversations. Find out the whole story before you start freaking out and accussing him of something that he may not be doing.
2007-10-16 14:47:53 · answer #5 · answered by hawkeyez_blue 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get a restraining order on her. Don't believe anything she has to say. Don't even give her the honor of 10 seconds of your time on the phone. She is a liar. Do not believer her one bit.
Get the restraining order on her. What does your fiance say about this? Are you sure you want to be with a guy that associates with a person such as this?
2007-10-16 14:53:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
First talk to him.
than tell the crack head to get out of your life and give her the$$ back
and if he was unfaithful ..can you handle the truth".I just hope you can..I sure could not when my ex told me he cheated on me.I left him in heart beat.Unfaithfulness is serious and be careful about accusing until you have real prove.
always follow your gut feeling that is usually right for me!
good luck..
2007-10-16 14:45:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If she knows what your house looked like then there's a problem! Your MAN shouldn't of allowed her in your house without telling you about it! Even if he's not cheating he's obviously not being trustworthy in other areas of your relationship! Kick him to the curb!
2007-10-16 14:47:14 · answer #8 · answered by nicknateky 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If she knows about things like your cars, house, daughter, quite possilby he's been spending time with her. Talk to your fiance about it, but you have a gut feeling for a reason. Trust your instincts.
2007-10-16 14:52:46 · answer #9 · answered by Tia 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I suggest you and your fiance have a serious heart to heart talk now before you marry this man. If you can't discuss these things now then you will never be able to.
2007-10-16 14:44:54 · answer #10 · answered by hsmommy06 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋