were happy? A celebrity said he would be married until it didn't work anymore....he was a newlywed.
Discounting any kind of abuse....what do vows mean?
2007-10-16 14:26:48 · 10 answers · asked by daljack -a girl 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
When I got married 25 years ago, I married because I wanted to grow old with this person. Unfortunately, sometimes change people, situations, etc., and things don't always work out in the end. Vows should be taken very seriously, but if one or the other person consistently breaks those vows, then it is something that needs to be seriously looked at. I was married for very long, stuck by my husband through extreme ups and downs, alcoholism, emotional abuse, adultery, etc. Stuck by him to the end, marriage counseling, individual counseling, al-anon, you name it. Finally a decision had to be made. And I made it. Now I look forward to my own life. Sad to say, he is now a broken man, the life he chose caught up to him.
So, my answer.... don't marry until you are very sure that this is the person you want to live the rest of your life with. Someone who you will be able to have a decent conversation with when you grow old. Someone you enjoy having around you. Otherwise....it may be doomed from the start.
:)
2007-10-16 14:34:04 · answer #1 · answered by BluePassion 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To me vows mean Til Death Do Us Part and that's it... I have been in an 11 year relationship now and at first I can say I had a very hard time coping with trust, and lots of insecurities.. I have learned that Men aren't always to blame.. my marriage has gone through many roller coasters and I am glad to say that our relationship is in better standing.. What I can say is make sure that the person you are going to marry, You truly are in Love with him.. everything else just comes natural... good luck to you..
2007-10-16 15:14:47 · answer #2 · answered by Mari 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A vow is something to be honored before God, He expects us to keep them, those that don't will be judged, to break a vow, is to lie.
Question is, do you think you were a mistake, made by chance in evolution.
Or made with intelligent design by God, (Jesus) Who gave you the conscience to know that vows are important, or you would not be asking the question.
2007-10-16 15:10:43 · answer #3 · answered by fstmx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When i got married it was "till death do us part".
But things happen in life and if the marriage and the bond is not strong enough to walk through thick and thin, you are not left with much choices. There comes a point where you get selfish and yearn for happiness, peace and support.
2007-10-16 14:32:05 · answer #4 · answered by Romi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem for me is on the promise, a promise is a limit, a limit separates things, people have a tendency to put limits to force something in particular, a promise is only made when you don't trust yourself or you get into a situation that you aren't sure if you are going to make, otherwise, you wouldn't have the need to say "I promisee this, or that".
2007-10-16 14:41:17 · answer #5 · answered by livingthe30s 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When I got married my vows said "I promise to be true to you
in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health, for richer
or poorer, all the days of our lives." And we meant it. And
we lived it every day for 7 years, till he died suddenly.
2007-10-16 14:32:15 · answer #6 · answered by doodlebug 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When i got married his girlfriend was 4 months pregnant and he just "forgot" to tell me. I thought he was the best person in the world . If you ask me marriage is a JOKE,
2007-10-16 16:05:27 · answer #7 · answered by carmey1173 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Vows are just a public display of affection. Promises should be made in private.
2007-10-16 14:29:53 · answer #8 · answered by some female 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
for better or worse, throu sickness & health, till death do you part
2007-10-16 15:20:50 · answer #9 · answered by debbiedeb 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just what they say "until death do you part".
2007-10-16 14:34:16 · answer #10 · answered by Dance 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋