My oldest daughter, I kid you not, I believe sometimes that there was a mix-up at the hospital. This can't be MY child!
She constantly let others use her, and take advantage of her. She won't fight, physical or verbal. No one in my family is like this, neither was her father and difinitely not me.
I must admit she did teach the family about 'hugging' and saying, 'I love you'. My mother and three oldest aunts never embrace or said those words to each others. But, growing up, S would hug them on each visit and always tell them she love them. During the years, I notice they started doing the same to each others.
However, at age 38 she's still the same meek person. Looking for her siblings and I to come to her rescue.
Yes. She does calling crying when she's in trouble.
Trouble, I might add, her meekness got her into.
2007-10-16 14:17:17 · 7 answers · asked by Gem 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Senior Citizens
We are all different and have faults we don't recognize in ourselves ,but are picked up by others. She is probably always going to be who she is. I used to be a person like that because people take advantage of you if you allow it. Now when someone starts hinting around about wanting something, I just play stupid or have my excuses ready before the get a chance. There has to be the straw that breaks the camels back before she says enough is enough!
2007-10-16 15:38:26 · answer #1 · answered by Donna 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I would say that she sounds like she falls into the category of a highly sensitive person, which is exactly what I am. This trait is just now coming to light. The world sees this as a flaw, when it's actually not. Try reading this article, and also do some more research into it. I have always felt like I have never fit in, and was greatly releaved to find out that this is what I am, there really is nothing wrong with me.
http://www.sensitiveliving.com/
2007-10-16 21:33:40 · answer #2 · answered by Starscape 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Highly sensitive and passive. Maybe she could benefit from learning the difference between passive-aggressive-assertive. Sure helped me ALOT. Now I'm the mouthy mama I was always meant to be. Have no problems hugging but have no problems expressing strong feelings that might be negative either.
Had it in me all along, but needed some additonal education to keep me from feelig like I was doing something bad when I spoke up for myself. Usually without knowing the difference we tend to go to the opposite side of the pendulum which isn't any better.
Don't seem to have ANY of those problems anymore getting my needs met in appropriately expressed ways.
Lots of material in 'self-help' sections of libraries and bookstores!
2007-10-16 22:05:29 · answer #3 · answered by autumlovr 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I understand this type of personality, usually very loving and compassionate. Give her some ways to avoid saying "yes", when she feels that she can't say no. For instance, saying, " "let me think about it, " or, " I'll have to get back to you about it."or, even, " I need to sleep on it." You get the idea. Sometimes it's as easy as having a planned response when you need one.
2007-10-16 23:01:46 · answer #4 · answered by Cat Lady 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Meekness means to be humble, having a gentle and disciplined spirit. It does not mean weakness. Sounds like your daughter, although a gentle spirit, may not like confrontation, and so tries to please all the time. Nothing wrong with that unless you like people walking all over you. Simply put, she has not learned to say "no."
2007-10-16 21:33:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Blessed are the meek, for they shall inherit the earth. King James Bible.
2007-10-16 22:31:20 · answer #6 · answered by snow ball 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
THAT IS THE WAY I AM. I AM A VERY LOVING PERSON. I HAVE A HEART OF GOLD. AND I AM VERY SENSITIVE. I WILL CRY IF SOMEONE I LOVE LOOKS AT ME WRONG. I WANT TO HAVE BACKBONE ABOUT MY SELF TOO BUT I JUST DONT
2007-10-18 10:34:07 · answer #7 · answered by APOSTOLIC 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋