Here is my last question/comment......
Ok. Here is the story. I am really against abortions and one of our friends is pregnant and is going to get an abortion. I text her and tell her that she will regret it. Told her that I know people that have gotten them and never forgive themselves for it. We went back and forth and got kinda heated. We have not gotten along cuz she sticks her noise where is doesnt belong when it comes to talking to my husband. Anyways i told him that we got in a huge blow out with eachother and dont want him to talk to her anymore. He wasnt supposed to be anyways. To put a very long story short she forwarded a message to him that i wrote her and he called me a b-itch! He admitted to it but kept saying stuff he didnt say when i had proof he said it. Not anything bad like calling me a b-itch but to me lying in a marriage is not a marriage. He is saying sorry and to not leave him but this just put me over the edge this time and i dont know what to do.....
2007-10-16 13:30:49 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am not spying or not trusting. He knows i dont like him talking to this girl. We have had problems with her in the past. he knows i dont like it. Plus this isnt the only thing that has happened so i am NOT A DRAMA QUEEN. Things that i dont wish to comment on. So there. This is not the only thing
2007-10-16 13:32:42 · update #1
oh and he admitted to calling me a ***** and meant it when he said it until he realized what she said to me.
2007-10-16 13:40:25 · update #2
why are you married to this loser? He is talking to other woman and defending them? does he even love you?
2007-10-16 13:33:59 · answer #1 · answered by MiMi ♥ 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Please don't make this your last time to speak out or find the answers to a question you may have! You can always label the heading over your husband as a "MAN" because there are things that they do at times that is really hard to understand in life. As for the other girl, a unhappy person does not want to see other couples happy and they work hard to break the other couples up,as you see now in your life. I'm sure that there were some good times in your life in the past with the man, and there may be more if given the chance. If you love him stay and you both can work it out, but if you find yourself growing apart from each other then move on but never wonder what if? Once you walk out that door or he does because you are taking heavy weight with you, it really doesn't have to be like that if you could have just said " Babe i married you for who you are not what you do in life!"
You can work though it and make a stronger relationship grow, but if you are not happy then leave him.
2007-10-16 14:16:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I am against abortion too. But I am also against sticking my nose in other people's business. Are you this woman's conscious? Are you her judge? Are you the moral legislator of the world? No. So mind you own business and you will avoid situations like this.
We all are here in this world lost, confused, and just trying to get by. We all have opinions and points of view. Nothing will ever give you the right to force your opinion or point of view on any person other than yourself. So thank God for your blessings. Apologize for being such a ---- to that woman and your husband and grow up.
Better yet. Divorce your husband and let the poor guy off the hook and go back out there and find a normal, sane woman he can love.
Good luck.
2007-10-16 13:38:28 · answer #3 · answered by box of rain 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If you can't get over the silliness you have just presented here, than you should not be married.
What will you do when you reach a real roadblock on the path of life if you cannot trust each other now? You (and most women) want that power over your man, just to exercise power and feel secure. Who are you to tell him what to do? If he told you how to dress, would that offend you?
This is why I won't get married, women begin to get too controlling and too catty. Their MORALS change with their monthly wave of emotions. They don't care about what their man needs or wants, but what they can get for themselves.
The basis for this, is that the woman has power because she can withhold sex...
Think of it, in the beginning of a marriage, man is rough and tough, and a woman wants someone to make her feel safe and protected. Man wants sex, but woman withholds it once she realizes that the man wants it a lot, and will jump through hoops to get the sexx. Woman uses this against him until she gets complete power over him. Then she bosses and nags him to death, until he has no energy left or life or freedoms of his own, working most of his life to support her addiction of being able to show her friends what great material items she has acquired, and how those things are bigger / better than the wife next door.
Have you ever seen women out on the town? They are not looking at men, they are looking at each other, comparing and criticizing each other like arch enemies.
A guy doesn't really care what he dresses like, but he does it for a woman. Why does a female peacock not have fancy feathers? Because the male needs to prove himself worthy just to mate with her...
Compare the behaviors of female animals to that of male animals... It is mostly men trying to prove themselves to get with the female.
You m'lady, are no different. Either your man shows that you are better than the other woman, or you are gone. Even aside from the marriage vows you knowingly took (for better or for worse, in death do us part)
...and yes, you are a drama queen! I had a hard time comprehending some of what you just wrote, but you know what? I am an intelligent guy now that I am older, smarter, and a successful architect, so I am the one who tells the woman whats what. If she doesn't like it, I can find sex or companionship somewhere else, and she can't have that power over me by withholding anything from me! I know I am a reasonably fair person when "laying the law" down, that is how I was taught. You can be assured that no woman will pull the drama power trip on me that you just tried to run on your man!
Tell me that is not true!
2007-10-16 14:00:34 · answer #4 · answered by M. F. 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are the one who needs to keep your nose in your own business. Your husband is probably right. Only a ***** would be unsupported of her friends to the point they act like teenagers and "never talk again".
You have vows...he did not cheat, he did not abuse you. Frankly, it might be a blessing to him though. You are totally over reacting. If you act this way all the time, most men would have filed for divorce a long time ago. You should be thankful to have him.
2007-10-16 14:15:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why can't you seem to mind your own business? If you are honestly thinking of breaking your wedding vows and leaving him over something as insignificant as this, I feel really sorry that your husband asked you to marry him. You probably don't even have a job or any hobbies, do you?
And leave your "friend" alone. She's grown and will do what she wants. It's her body and her responsibility. You never mentioned that you would take care of this kid, so drop it.
2007-10-16 13:38:30 · answer #6 · answered by Peace 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So sorry for all your emotional ups and downs with your husband, especially since most of it is caused by this other women....Why is he so interested in her and her problems, and why is he becoming a DRAMA KING over it with you?
I'm beginning to wonder, he just might be the Daddy of her child! Keep a close watch on his paycheck, credit cards, check book, and his cash spending. He might be donating more than his sperm.
2007-10-16 13:44:02 · answer #7 · answered by Mama Mia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my friend is going thru a similar thing with her bf... but i think your husband may have just been telling her what she wanted to hear and is kind of in the middle of it. I don;t think you should leave him because, yes it was a lie and thats never acceptable, but it is kind of a stupid lie so it shouldnt be taken to too serious of an extent... but if you honestly think this is something that will never allow you to trust him again i suggest marriage councelling
2007-10-16 13:36:50 · answer #8 · answered by Shae O 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He sounds too immature to be committed. You should be the priority - you are settling for peanuts. Get a grip, develop some self-esteem and tell him to shape up now, or out he goes.
2007-10-16 15:00:03 · answer #9 · answered by Contemplative 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you need to question if you should walk away, maybe there's your answer. It doesn't seem like you're happy. He shouldn't be talking about you behind your back or running you down to other women - that is just disrespectful!
2007-10-16 13:59:07 · answer #10 · answered by Tia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, your first problem is having your friends involved in your marital problems. Seeking objective help is best. You need to cease conversations with this "friend" and get marriage therapy.
2007-10-16 13:41:18 · answer #11 · answered by Charlee's Mama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋